Do You Have A Favourite Child?
By kodie420
@kodie420 (872)
Canada
July 26, 2007 12:58pm CST
Weird question for the parents out there do you have a favourite child in your household? I know we arent suppose to play favourites with our children but sometimes for me its hard. I have 3 kids total I have a 15 and 17 year old girls and one 12 year old boy. Although I love them all the same I would rather spend my time with my boy because we seem to be able to communicate better with each and she's always helping out around the house whenever she can. This is a point in her life she should be out enjoy her teens but instead shes always around to help me and her mother with things in the household. Then theres my other 2 and dont get me worng I love them and would kill for them but they are so disrespectful at times I just cant even bother with them. So all parents out there whats your answer and input on this Im totally interested in hearing them. THANKS
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8 responses
@ivyoon (673)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I can relate to both of my children in different ways. There are times when I like something one of them has done as well as times when I DON'T like something one of them has done. Then there are times when they both do things I like and dislike... I don't have a favorite. I am able to talk to them both like young adults (simplifying things where necessary) even though they are 7 and 9 years old.
They are both well behaved (for the most part) and intelligent and I love them equally. I know what you mean by having a "favorite" though. Sometimes it is easier for me to spend time with my daughter because we can do the "girly" things together. However, I am able to relate to my son in other ways, such as telling stories and playing games. We all have our strong qualities and relate to others in different ways... even our children.
@tbatenga (104)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
I am afraid I do! My favorite child is my one and only daughter! lol. I only have one child and she's the sweetest.
I guess it's only normal to have a favorite child because this doesn't necessarily mean you love your other children less. Maybe as what you've mentioned, this child of yours has the most desirable qualities compared to your other children and this makes you feel blessed to be her parent. Maybe that's why you think she's your favorite.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Jul 07
i understand your situation, coz im a parent too..and i think its normal in a family as long as you paid equal attention to them and also their needs..in my case its the youngest one whom im very closed..shes so "malambing" or passionate or whatever it means in english term(lovable i guess lol)..
@Foxxee (3651)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I have two kids and both are the complete opposite of eachother. I love them both the same. I do not have a favorite. I love them both in different ways. I love something about my son and I love something about my daughter. I don't think a mother or any parent at that can have just one favorite. That doesn't seem right.
@stepintostep (25)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I have four kids, a 15 year old girl, 14 year old boy, and 8 year old twin girls and it is hard. My mom did the favorite thing with us, and when I grew up I swore I wouldn't play favorites. But me and my oldest have more in common. She does all of her chores is good in school, respectful toward others, I find she is easier to get along with then the others. My son notices this, and says I love her more. He is disrespectful, doesn't do his chores, makes poor grades in school. Not because he can't because he won't. I told him that I loved him to dearly. It is just that people have different qualities that make them special. I have taken it on myself to spend more time with him and encourage him and I noticed a difference in him. But, I understand completely what your talking about.
@baby12345 (57)
• China
27 Jul 07
No ,i haven't a favourite child .they are more trouble than a cartload of monkeys and like crying .
@34momma (13882)
• United States
26 Jul 07
I don't have a favorite child no, but i do go through favorite phases. like my oldest he is a boy he just graduated HS with honors, he has been working since he was 16. just an all around good kid. but there are moments when i want to smack him. LOL then there is my second son who is 12. he is so much like at times i can't stand him, but i just love him so much. then of course there is my little girl who is two. now she is just a sweetie, who get's on my nerves almost all the time. i don't have a favorite, but they are all my favorite at one point or another. i just don't ever favor one over the other
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
26 Jul 07
yes, even though i wouldnt admit it to them...my older daugher is 14 and so difficult right now (gotta love teenagers, specially when they are girls!!) but she has such an attitude right now and argue with everyone and anything all the time!
my younger daughter has a very different personality than her sister (but i think she is learning bad habits from her!) she is much more laid back and relaxed than her sister and works much harder than her sister and is always there to help (she is 10).
its wrong to have a fav in my opinion, because my mother in law is like that too...her oldest was a girl, the second (my hubby) and the third is a guy (9 years younger than his brother) my hubby got treated like crap and always got compared to his sister and his brother is her fav...very unfair.
