Why do we like the "chase"?
By nikkiwith
@nikkiwith (1074)
Australia
July 27, 2007 12:00am CST
It pisses me off! When a guy chases me i don't really want him, but if he isn't calling me or asking me out or paying attention to me then i want him more than anything! And the same goes with guys; when i chase a guy he runs a mile, but when i'm not available he wants me. Why are we like this? It sux!
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3 responses
@brothertuck (1257)
• United States
27 Jul 07
I've always heard one of the secrets of a good relationship is that you never let your partner think that you want to be with them more then they want to be with you, and that if both of you feel lucky being with the other then the relationship will succeed.
That may not answer your question but it is something I have seen with many couples that have spent time together and still love each other.
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@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Jul 07
It is so true. I am learning to control myself when i guy isn't giving me the attention i want, it is hard though, because i was brought up in a dis-functional family. In time though, i will be happy in love :)
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@leechamp (186)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
..this is what we call flirting. and when the ending is favourable for two people to be able to set their minds to do something they both knew they wanted to do, then chasing would cease and what comes next would be you two will be playing beautiful music together.. .
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Jul 07
So true, but what sux is missing out on something special because you or the guy are too proud to give in to him/her when they chase you. I have missed out on having healthy and loving relationships with heaps of guys, all because i ran a mile when they wanted me!
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@totallyundecided (3190)
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
in my two months of absence here in my lot because i have been thinking about this whole chase with my partner only to find out the answers here. LOL. thanks for this discussion. (^_^)
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@leechamp (186)
• Philippines
27 Jul 07
maybe you are not prepared to start a relationship...you'll never will if you keep on running...try to stop a while and let your feet be swept with one special guy you seem to be attracted to, but make sure the feeling is reciprocated, otherwise, you'll have the most painful start of a relationship of your life. good luck!
@ToriaT (102)
• Canada
27 Jul 07
it seems like youre young and its all still a game ...you want notches on your belt and so do the Men...perhaps before deciding right away that the Man chasing you is not up to par slow yourself down and take a good look ...You might be passing up a real gem...with Men they are natural Hunters the thrill of the chase but most mature and find a mate...enjoy the games till you find the right One then it will all make sense...
ToriaT
@nikkiwith (1074)
• Australia
27 Jul 07
Believe me,i am way past "the game", i have had enough of "the game" !!!! I am sick of men and their games. I am young but old enough to be over all the games.
