What do you do about a sister who follows you around like a lost sheep?
By AnnikaHensen
@AnnikaHensen (87)
United States
July 27, 2007 1:03pm CST
I'm not real sure why my older sister would be doing this, but I'm curious as to what others would do if it started happening to them. I know I'm being paraniod and all but I feel suffocated, everytime I turn around she's joining things and responding to things I've done NON STOP. And there is no talking to her either, everytime anyone says anything to her she twists what is said, it's why her businesses all go under or get hacked. It feels odd to me that an older sister is doing the following instead of the leading. It's just a matter of time before she hunts me down and joins here too and starts replying to everything I posted. It's crazy!
1 response
@Aprilfreelance (96)
• United States
27 Jul 07
It sounds like she is going through an insecure time and it is easier to follow you than put herself out in the world alone. Has she recently had a break-up, or lost a good friend, or had someone make fun of her and put her down? Whatever her reasons, you can help her to find something she is interested in that she can do alone. You should also set some boundaries, even if she misconstrues what you say. Tell her when she is suffocating you and offer her alternatives, like other message boards you know about that she might be interested in. She needs to discover what her own interests are, and build the self-esteem to strike out on her own. It may take some time, if you try to be supportive while also setting the boundaries maybe she will eventually meet some other people she has more in common with.
@AnnikaHensen (87)
• United States
27 Jul 07
Thank you so much for your reply. I got her involved in AC which I thought and HOPED would of kept her and her friend busy. But instead she posted comments on all my articles and then emailed me like "dont you love me why haven't you commented on my articles?" And 90% of her articles are crap I would never, EVER read! PLUS scanning the titles I could tell she was going to be insulting to everyone who read them. So I told her I was too busy at which point she had her friend post nasty retarded comments on my articles simply to distract me from my work. So I reported them to the ADMIN and hopefully her friend will be banned. Self esteem issues yes, I agree that HAS to be her issue, she's always saying people use and abuse her when the reverse is the truth. It's sad how people can't see that but when they get close to her, everyone of her ex friends has come to me to complain and say how they wish I would of warned them which hurts cause I keep hoping someday she will understand what real friendship is. But they say how she becomes like a bad rash, she never gives up needling people, though she has 5 kids that she should focus on raising she has plently of time to harasse people. Sad but true. I may just have to block her.
