So, What Are Your Priorities... Money, Traffic, Friends.....

Spiritual growth is always my first priority, followed by friends and family, but I think we all get times like this, if we find time to stop and reflect. It's surprising how many people who don't or can't go out to work permanently do rely on the money they earn in here though, Perspectives. Some, are really good friends and I would like to support and help them at every single opportunity but that way, I'm losing out on what's so valuable to me in life. Ok, we all need time to ourselves every now and again, but other times, I need company to make me tick. Online lately, everybody is so busy trying to earn a fast buck, that they don't have time to laugh any more, which saddens me, and also leaves me feeling very lonely without my friends. Yes, I know, I should put on my warpaint, step out of the door and go mingle with local friends, which I do, once a week in the pub, and the occasional meeting. :) That, though, can become expensive, so I tend not to do it too often. The only way you can make a lot of money in sites like Mylot, is to have a heap of referrals, but even that's not failsafe, because if those referrals get fed up and move on, your earnings drop, like a brick! I like the sound of your discussion about how to increase your laff life. I might go in search of that, methinks. A bit of light-hearted banter never hurt and I think I need it. Thank you so much for your support, appreciation and best wishes, Perspectives. You brought a tear to my eye, but your words are truly appreciated. Brightest Blessings, my friend, in love and in light. x

You are most welcome. I am feeling a little under the weather and made a discussion out of it as a way of updating on-line friends like you and sharing ways to nurture and uplift. I completely understand how complelling mylotting with friends can be. I have only been here a short time and miss the time spent within this on-line sharing circle. I do hope this outworks in harmonuous ways for you and those you treasure. You are a wise woman..and maybe all you need is to take some breathing space for yourself. I have found whenever I become too outwardly directed and do not take time to re-connect with the spiritual aspects of my life my spirit wanes. I sense your bright, beautiful aura through your positings. Your essence craves contact with like minded others as does mine. Our views and beliefs tend to create feelings of isolation from those who do not understand the path we walk. When I am unable to connect...I go to Source and let it all go. Then I ask to be filled from within and before long I feel a spiritual wind beneath my wings...and the world begins to feel like a warmer, gentler place again. Anyway I truly am signing off, nose is stuffing up...I know this is a 'cetnral cleansing' of my biology...but it sure can be annoying...even though I know it is for my greater good. Just wanted to let you know I've been wishing you light filled blessings since reading your post. I am glad I checked in so we can stay in the loop. I'll keep in touch...but there is an energetic bond here...and I feel aligned in some way within our soul paths and it is a comfort. I hope you will be as gentle and good to yourself as you are with others.

Perspectives... I just don't know what to say to that. I am so touched by your words, that I am at a loss to find any of my own. I feel we have a great understanding of each other too, probably on an astral or spiritual plane. You seem able to get almost to the bottom of my soul and diagnose my problems and thoughts. That's amazing... but I can tell you something now. When I come back to check responses on my discussions, I find myself looking through all the respondents for your name. Why? I'm not sure, but perhaps it's the deep understanding we have of each other's feelings and beliefs? We seem to think alike, almost like soulmates, as you pointed out. That means a lot to me... I have only found it thrice before, you being the second female. I feel at ease with you, and feel I can tell you anything in trust and confidence that you will understand. I hope you feel better soon, because I'm going to miss you a lot, my friend. Take care and Brightest Blessings for an early recovery.

Yes Cloud I agree but he has said that he does not do online Forums anymore this was a couple of Months ago I hope he is ok

Tis a wicked web they weave, for us humans to deceive, huh, my friend? I'm not much enjoying my time on the Internet unless talking to my friend about my exams, my path, my beliefs and what I'm going to specialise in. It's a bit of a poor show when it gets to that stage, Gabs. Whatever next? :)

If only one of our special friends was here! He'd soon liven things up for us! At the moment he is studying history, especially regards English Imperialism. Can you imagine the discussions he'd post? And the fun we'd have? Oh to return to those good old days!

I think you're right about the way the forum has grown. I feel that there are too many members now who, instead of striving for interesting and amusing discussions, are starting off the one and two liners again, which have gone so many times before. It's a never-ending circle. You're right also in saying that we have lost some of the most articulate discussion makers, who made it fun in here as well as educational. You know of whom I speak of course, so there's no need to mention names. To be honest, I get a bit tired of coming in here and answering the same old discussions over and over, so I find myself looking for something interesting, answering and then going off and doing something else. Last night, I just sat here looking vacantly at the screen, because I couldn't think of anything to write. lol. Not like me... you can't normally stop me once I start!!! I found my IM discussions were a lot more interesting than being in here! :) I was having quite a laugh in there actually... so why have we lost it here? Oh well... good things come to an end as well as the not so good, I suppose. Unless something bucks up in here, I might be on the wander. Brightest Blessings.

A great response Bujoyseth. Your family and close friends should always come first. We can always do without money and become self sufficient, as people were in days gone. Money doesn't buy happiness... it helps, but what good is money without family and friends? Brightest Blessings.

How perceptive of you Kay, lol. Yes, I am a bit down... there's something pretty nasty going on in my life, and it makes me sad, plus, when I come on here, there doesn't seem to be anybody about, and when they are, they're busy, busy. I feel lonely, most of the time... I miss the laughter, old friends, dating from over six years back... some are busy with their offline lives and some are busy online, trying to make a buck or two. I need to socialise... I need to laugh, or I cry a lot. I need something extra in my life, especially when I lose one part of what I'm accustomed too. I guess I'm letting my emotions get the better of me, but Kay... I feel like I'm stuck in a corner with my hands tied behind my back right now, and I have to break away from the ties. Thank you so much... I know you value our friendship and I will try to pick myself up. No... I won't try, I WILL pick myself up! Life goes on, with or without some people... their loss, my gain! :) Love and hugs. xox

Yes, we could have some really fun times, I'm sure, Kay. Take care xox

Sounds great! Havent danced in the rain for ages. hehe. Sure would put smiles on faces. Been hearing about all the rain over there. We getting hardly any now. What fun times we could have. cheers and best wishes

Well said, Ansmart. I think those three things are the priority of most women. Brightest Blessings.

That's good, if you have a career still, but a lot of people who use the Internet a lot, no longer go out to work, for whatever reason. Some have illnesses, some are disabled and some are retired. So it's not so easy for everybody Natalie. I find it's the aforementioned people who really have a need for company online, and they're lost when suddenly, it's not there. That's when the loneliness sets in. I even get tearful at times, but then I'm ultra emotional so there you have it. Brightest Blessings and thank you for your input.

I'm not miserable... you misunderstand. If I go out of the house, I have fun... I laugh, I chat, I listen and I cry with my friends, if they're sad, but I never show to be sad outside these four walls. I make friends easily... I will chat to anybody two minutes after they've come into the pub for the first time... that's me, the barmaid and mother! However, I spend a great deal of time on the computer and it seems that when you're busy.. everybody else isn't and they want a piece of your time. When you're lonely and just staring at the computer, with glazed eyes, wondering what you can do next... that's the time I hate. Or when people come online and don't talk... don't even say "hi". I said "hi" last night in response to a hello, and got ??... when I asked what ?? was for, I was told, never mind, just carry on.... so, I stopped talking... that was that. How arrogant and uncaring is that? Maybe I get too attached to people online, but having said that, a few very good, close relationships have come of it. Five of these have kind of drifted, but two of them look me up occasionally, mainly in Pogo Rooms where we met, but in six years, lives have changed... new people or partners have come into their lives, they've found new jobs, or for some reason or another, we lose our way, and it becomes very quiet and lonely in here. I value my online friends as much as my local friends, but I know I can't just get ready and go off out to see my online friends... that causes me angst sometimes, and I miss them really badly. Some more than others. I've waffled on enough... sorry Deeeky. It's not only Mylot, it's Pogo and other forums, but right now... it's sooooooooo lonely. Thank you for your input, and Brightest Blessings for a great weekend, my dear friend. x

Yes, it simplifies things, but I do like to see my friends sometimes, even if just to say hi and know that they're well. Brightest Blessings.

Oh thaat we had decent summer weather here to keep us off the computer for a while. lol. I think though, that you're right, in that the children have broken up for school for summer break which is when most parents have arranged holidays for the family. I'm not so active in here now... basically because it is so quiet... not many of the old school about... and also because I can't find enough quality discussions to answer. Brightest Blessings.

In what way, Sukumar? Money first, friends second, or vice versa? Do you work a lot of sites and make a small amount of money, or can you earn big? Brightest Blessings.

That's a good philosophy you have there, Why! lolol. Yes, I think it's far better to relax and have some fun in here, the same as you do when you go out locally and meet friends. Somewhere along the way, that seems to be getting lost in the rush to make a fast buck, which is impossible anyway. Hellllllllllllp... where are my laughing friends? :( You seem to be one of the very few left, Why!

Well, yes, we do, but I just wondered in what order you might have placed yours. Never mind... it was worth an ask. Thank you for your input. Brightest Blessings.

The pay here has dropped drastically, and I think mainly because of the high number of members now, who put in ten or so two-line discussions with useless tags, which don't do us any favours at all. Secondly, it does seem pretty quiet in here as far as our friends go. I think they've all found more interesting places to write, or better paid places. I write in a few others, so if you want to know which are the better ones for me, please shout, and I'll advise... that's if you don't belong to most of them already. Thank you for your input my friend, and Brightest Blessings for a successful future. x

I know that, and you know that... I think you're kind of echoing my sentiments, but thanks for your input, Neil and Brightest Blessings.