How do you deal with a near ones loss, becasue of cancer?

Hi there, I can relate to your story. My mother was diagnozed of colon cancer and was operated in 2003. After 9 months the cancer has methastasized / spread to her lungs and organs of her lower abdomen. I was with her in most of her hospitalization and treatment, and I was the one who was told by the doctor that my mom has few months to live. I know how difficult it is for her to undergone the operation, then the treatment-chemotherapy and radiation, but she's strongwilled and a fighter and really wanted to live more. But then she passed away in April of 2005. At first it was hard to accept that she was gone, but then we just put everything in God's will and we had accepted that she's now at peace with the Lord.

Hello there. I can fully emphatize with what you're going through. As I too, lost my wife to cancer, two years ago. You accept the fact that it has happened and should be happy for her, for she isn't suffering anymore and be confident in the knowledge that she is in a better, more peaceful place. While we, who were left behind, have to face the reality that we have to go on with life. And that sooner or later, we too will end our mortal life here and be in a better place. But while you're still here, enjoy life, stop and smell the roses, value the company of the people you love, don't hurt anyone, treat everybody equally. Be at peace with yourself.

Well, I did not lose my brother to Cancer, I lost him to Type 1 Diabetes, but you grieve just like everyone else and you learn how to encorporate it into your life.

You deal with it by acknowledging your loss and realizing that your loved ones are well and very much alive on the Other Side. Of course, you miss them terribly, as I do, having lost my dad to lung cancer last July. I still can't believe all of that happened to him and can only imagine how devastated he was on getting an awful diagnosis. I miss him and my mom -- my mom's gone over 21 years -- every day. I talk to him and pray for him. Lots of times, I'll just look at his photograph or his favorite old hat or other possession and cry. Dealing with the loss of a loved one is the hardest lesson for us on the physical plane.

I lost my brother about a year ago. Well, we didn't see it coming. He was so young and so energetic and looked healthy. He was just 21 years old. He was a graduating student of Engineering. It was so sudden, he left us without any word. I think that's the most painful form of losing a loved one. I also lost my grandpa few years back, but we expected it because he had cancer. It's a different grief now, it's more, more painful. I'll tell you his story. My parents live in the province and so we have to rent a house in the city where I work and where my 3 younger siblings study. But my brother next to me, he decided to live separately from us a month before he left for the sake of his Eng'g review. He stayed with us every weekend though. And then one Thursday around midnight, his friends called us that he collapsed and to hurriedly go to the hospital. When I got there, he was already covered with blanket, he was gone forever. It's as if, I was just dreaming. I can't cry, it took me about few minutes to be in my right mind. What I do to set him free is think that he belongs to Him. I know his happiness is far greater there. He is home. He is safe and well taken care of. But I miss him all the time. If only, if only, he has spoken to us before he left. Now, I still always cry but this is a cry of missing. It's not a cry of grieving. But I am not really sure...

I lost my husband 3 years ago to malignant Melanoma. He was a real trooper throughout the whole ordeal.. He had undergone radiation and interferon.. He worked right up till the very end of his life.. I was the one who was the basketcase.. I stayed on the internet alot researching Melanoma... I knew the outcome of that horrible thing. But I fought for him... We were married for 20 years and he was the love of my life and my soulmate.. Sept 12th will be 3 years without him...