Favortism with kids

YES!!! i have experienced/seen this many times growing up it was very clear to me and still is at the age 26 that i am my mothers least favorites it is just obvious to me and everyone that knows us i was her first born and i dont know if she recents me for her getting pregnant fairly young either way my mother always showed favortism to certain kids out of her 5 now favortism from family members i have also noticed that my son who is almost 7 gets the shaft when it comes to his 2 yr old sister alot of people fuss over her wants to spoil her spend time with her people in specific are her grampy and his girlfriend and my mother but then again my mother usually fusses over the youngest so i think when her 2 new twin grandbabies and my soon to be new baby arrive she will change her direction but at the moment shes included in this discussion

I think this is a common occurrence in most every family, cynddvs. In the case of your stepsister's mother-in-law it might just be a case of her feeling more comfortable with the little girl. It could also be that boys are generally viewed as a handful, while girls are supposed to be easier to manage. I've seen this happen in my family also. When my grandkids were growing up I would have them all(8) over sometimes. Other times I would have the 6 girls one night, then the 2 boys on another night.

I have seen this many times in family. It is because some kids character or personality blends better than the others with the parents. Or, a child may be slow or ill, so a parent favors it. I am sure that all children are aware of it, as they still think it when it isn't true too.

yes very much so, but to be honest , these grandparents have obvious favorite children, so why would I expect more? My oldest, my son is favored by most because he is 3 and easy to deal with, great kid all around, my daughter is only 9 months but has been difficult her whole life =) People only want to watch my son. My guys mom, tends to favor my daughter over my son, though, it irritates me a little. I hope it changes as they all get older.

My Grandmother is like that, liking one of us Grandkids over the rest - you'd think she'd know better but she still does it now - the oldest being 28 & the yougest being 19 - we've all just given up on her now! My SIL has 4 kids now & the youngest will get the most attention coz he's the only boy but then when it comes to other people taking the kids, no-one wants the oldest one coz she's a naughty little kid & they will always take 1 twin over the other. It never made sense to me how people could play favourites like that but they do & it's wrong. Unfortunately, the people doing it probably don't realise they're doing it or they do & just don't care. In your step sister's case, i'd be inclined to say no, you cant take the girl, maybe you could take the boys for the night instead coz i'm sure they'd enjoy it just as much.

It is really hurting if i see children treated differently by a mother or a father or any relative. They are the worst enemy for a child. These people must be avoided as far as possible. But when parents do it to their own children, what can be done. All parents should understand that all children are equal. Favortism is bad for them. I think those parents do it more who themselves are a victim of such things in their childhood. They should understand that by doing this they are not helping children. They should love their children equally and this helps them to forget any bad experience in their childhood. It creates a feeling of being neglected in a child's mind. They feel they are avoided and not loved and cared compared to their siblings. I feel this is the cruel thing we can do to a child. They develop inferiority complex. Please love all the children alike and help them grow as a loving human being.

My husband favors our second son over our first! And he admits it too! I hate it. Especially because our older son is 7 and the second is only 9 months.Luckily our older one loves his brother and isn't jealous (yet). My husband's reason is that the older one is more like I am and the younger one is more like he is. And that I think is so unfair!

Yes, they are not as out right as this one is, but they do have their favorites and it does drive me nuts. I don't want any of my kids ever thinking they are not as good as the other one. So I set some ground rules for the whole family, they can never just take one without the other, they can never call and talk to one without the other and they can not give one a compliment without giving one to the other. Sounds silly, but I lived in a family where kids were ranked and it sucked to be number 2 or 3 all the time. I don't want my kids to go through that.

My parents favor one of my grandchildren to the extreme. It's the oldest. He's the only one who gets to spend the night [or two or three] at their house and they buy him things all the time and only rarely buy things for the other two boys, his two brothers. In fact, both my parents, especially my dad actually don't like my middle grandson. He called him a sissy, thinks he's not manly enough. He's only 5, for heaven's sake! I find the favortism very hurtful. They did some of the same thing with my brother and I when we were growing up and still do to some extent.

I only have one child myself, but my mom favors him over her other two grandchildren. She tries not to, but I think it's hard for her, because the girls are her step-grandkids. I don't think the girls pick up on it, though. My mom tries really hard to not let them see it. Now my dad, favors the oldest granddaughter. Maybe just because she was the first grandkid he had. Or maybe just because he favors my sister over me, and it includes our kids. I'm not sure. It doesn't really bother me that he favors my nieces over my son, though. When my son is older, if he notices it, I guess I will have to explain it to him. But for right now, I just know that my dad is that way. He always favored my half sisters over the rest of us. It did bother me, but I'm used to it now.

I have three children and the oldest one has a different father then the two younger ones. My mother favors my oldest son and trys to tell me that she does it because i dont treat him fairly compaired to the other two. I think that is the reason she uses to justify her actions myself. It makes it really hard on me to bring him up and disipline him cause if he dont like it he runs to nannny over it.

in our family, i cannot really say its favoritism, its just that we shower more attention to one child to compensate for what is lacking in his own home. its my nephew, my father used to take care of him, and when he passed away, my mom now do. the boy's father work overseas, he's my brother, and the boy's mother is still studying, and oh yes! have some atttude problems. we feel that the mother is no good around her child.(sorry, i cannot elaborate about that) what i am trying to say is, we favor that one child hoping that the love we give him is enough for him to understand that besides his situation, he is very much love. the other kids, my sister's children, i think understand the situation, although they are still young, they do love the boy, and play with him, actually at this moment, the five of them are together on their way to sunday mass.

Yes it does happen in many houses when one of the child is favoured more, at times the boys are preferred over the girls, at other times the step children are looked down upon. All this should not happen as children are children and all should be treated with equality. And of course the child who isnt favoured, must be feeling it very much, we should be sensitive to their feelings and refrain from such favouritism.

My first born is favored way more by my mother in law then my other two children my kids are all a yar apart. So i have 3, 3 and under and she holds on to the 3 year old and only takes her. She also singles out the girls from the boys by doing this. I think its just what they do.

I think its sad when that happens especially if the kids are noticing it. My sister and her two kids live with her. I live across the street with my two kids. My parents take my sister and her two kids all over the place. Right now they are at a water resort. They have been there about 5 times. Never have they asked me if my kids and I want to go instead of my sister and her two kids. Yet they want us all to go to a beach together. Well how about just me and my kids not everyone... so my kids get to spend special time like that with their grandparents just like my neice and nephew get to.