Do You Find It Hard To Be Yourself Around Certain People?

It is sad that you find it hard to be yourself around your sister in law and it has affected your relationship with your brother! I feel that way about one of my sister in laws too but I am still myself around them- I will not let her affect me in any negative way - one time when my gran was ill and in hospital she made some very thoughtless and hurtful remarks to me - luckily for her not in front of either of my sisters - they were fuming when they found out what she had said and were all for confronting her but I persuaded them to let it drop and just let her get on with it! I am comfortable with nearly everyone in my family , my bosses , my friends and most of my neighbours - I guess I am a lucky person! xxx

When I was younger I used to feel very uncomfortable with anyone in a uniform, and ministers or Doctors ,now I still give them the respect due but I m fre with them ,There is only one person in this world who makes me feel really uncomfortable , not a close friend but I do not see her very often , she traps people ( the only way I can explain it) and you just can't get away , I think it to rude to walk away and she makes me feel really uncomfortable , anyone else and I am fine xxx

Some people are extremely judgemental of others, and talk about people so much behind their backs. I am very self consious and uncomfortalbe around them because I wonder what they are saying about me. I tend to be tigh lipped and just avoid them. My boss it this way... very 2-faced to the two extreems. I really have a hard time working with her, never knowing which side of her personality will show itself in any given moment.

i can be pretty comfortable engaging small talk with strangers, but once i get to know them some and have done a little bit of sizing up, the next time meeting around would be kind of uncomfortable for me with the people that i've judged to be not so in sync with my person, and that's quite some. it's very difficult to be comfortable with someone right away. for me it takes time, lots of meetings, lots of talks. i remember my cousin worried about me accompanying my boss to some business, riding alone in his car. my cousin asked "how'd you deal the silent moments". :). yeah the 'silent moments' in between could be the test. if you're comfortable with it with someone, then you must be 'n sync'. otherwise, 'the 'silent moments' can be torture you have to do a lot of hard work doing chitchats just to fill in the gap. and you rush out the first opportunity you have to escape from such challenging situation. usually i stay away from people i have decided i'm not comfortable with. but you will also know with people you're easy with. my kids for example, and i'm glad they're also comfortable with me, some friends, some family, some collegues, some neighbors, some acquaintances. yeah some are fine.

I feel uncomfortable in front of groups of people. I'm more comfortable in front of 2 or 3, depending on who they are, of course, but I just don't like crowds, even small ones. I also feel uncomfortable around some of my higher ups at work, and especially those that don't have a good sense of humor. I hate it when people are always serious. I prefer to be around those that make me laugh, because I have suffered from depression for so long, and I really like it, when I can laugh.

I think we are all Chameleons in our own way. We adjust our behaviour to suit the company we are in. We don't swear in front of the priest and we don't tell him off color jokes. I always feel comfortable with outgoing, relaxed and happy people. I don't feel comfortable when I have to watch what I say or how I say it. I have this problem with my daughter and it is hard to relax around her. She tends to read things into what is said and puts her own meaning on it even though she is usually totally wrong. I don't like to be around negative people as they drag me down and make me depressed. Do you feel this way? I think some people are just too difficult don't you?

Yes, there are many people around whom I am uncomfortable. I do not enjoy being around those who are excessively negative in their outlook. I also do not enjoy being around those who lack a sense of humor and are very serious all the time. Both of these types of people make it hard for me to be myself...as I am a bit 'on guard' around them.

i actually find it easier to be myself when around people. i find it more difficult and uncomfortable pretending to be someone i am not or behaving in such a way just to be accepted.

Im not comfortable in front of people that have no sense of humor. I cant help but to make jokes and use sarcasm, and if they dont understand where Im coming from, then I just cant be myself. Luckily, I dont know anyone like this. Im most comfortable in front of my husband, though.