My Psychology Teacher Told Me This?

Thanks for the tips I appreciate them totally. I agree that all kids are different and should be treated accordingly. My little sister gets very tempermental when she is whipped by my parents and she always turns to me. Which makes them mad also they say I teach her not to respect them I have demanded that they not whip her to try other ways they are now trying them sometimes it works sometimes not. Well thanks.

I think that spanking should be used if nothing else works. Kids really are all different. Some kids only need a firm voice and some just need a time out. It all depends on the child as an individual.

Hi there. I took up and psychology and even if I'm not married and don't have any kids yet, I totally agree with you. Spanking a kid may make him/her rebel more or still do those things that you don't want them to. I totally believe that everyone has individual differences (learned that in class) that each one of us, whether old or young, has to be treated in one way or the other, totally depending on how our personality is. Maybe you should tell your hubby that not all kids are one and the same. Some needs just a little word of discipline though some would just rebel when you try to hurt them or discipline them in any other way. I think you should just gauge their personality first, that way you can see wht type of disciplinary action you should apply with them.

I was a preschool teacher myself, I used to teach at sunday school and at a private school. I agree with you that there are many ways to discipline children. Just by showing them that you love them makes them disciplined and responsive to what you like them to act like and what you want them to grow up to be. Of course, you also have to set a good example for them to see.

Exactly. You don't have to use force, but a spanking from time to time won't hurt anything either. It's unfortunate that many parents cross the line and do physical and mental damage. Love and patience can speak volumes.:)

I agree with both of you guys. Spanking a child when you are angry is never a good idea. If we take the time to calm down, a lot of times, we can realize that what they did was not worth a spanking in the first place. I have heard of kids doing things like spilling their mother's perfume all over the bedroom floor. Then the mother wants to get mad and spank a one year old. Well, it is their fault for not watching the child in the first place. The child, at one, has no idea of what it is doing. If you spank a one year old for that it is abuse. I believe that if you spank a one year old for anything it is abuse. They are just learning to understand what you are instructing them to do and they need for their parents to be patient with them.

Oh my goodness, you are so right. You HAVE to be consistant with children. If you say no the first time, it hast to continue to be no, no matter how much they cry. My sister will tell her kids no and they will start crying and she will give in. When they try that with me, I tell them straight out, you better save that for your mother, because it will not work with me and they shut up right away. When I say no, I mean no and I will stick to it no matter how much they cry. If they cry for too long, I will tell them to be quiet. If they continue, then it is time to consider a spanking. My older sister and I are different when it comes to that. To me, there is nothing more embarrassing than an out of control child, screaming and hollering, because they can not have their way. The only thing more embarrassing than that is giving in after you have said no. Very good post.

You are absolutely right. If you simply hit the child, they are never going to understand what they are being hit for. You have to explain it to them inn a way that the understand and question them to make sure that they do. It is also good to give them alternative ways of doing that same thing, but don't come out swinging at them all the time, because that is just not right.

One day when I was living with my sister and helping her babysit her six children, she had to bring the youngest one home, right after dropping her off. This made my sister late for work and she was so angry that she really spanked her good. My sister rarely ever spanks herf kids, even when they need it, but this particular day, she was really stressed out. I had thought that I would have the day to my self, so I was very upset that now I had to babysit. She was only four years old, but because of her other siblings, she was very mature for a four year old. I needed to make a personal phone call and she wanted to play like we always did. I didn't feel that she deserved to have fun, since she should have been in school. So I told her to go stand in the corner until I got off the phone. When I did, I went to check on her and she had curled up on the floor and went to sleep. As it turned out, she had been acting up in school because the older kids had went to a private school with a special deal for up to five children. Because she was not covered, she had to stay at the public school's children center by herself and she was scared. When my sister finally realized what the real problem was, she payed the extra money for her to attend the private school also. A lot of times kids act up for reasons that they are not able to fully explain and if we go off hitting them, before we question them about what is going on, it can turn into abuse.

Yes we learned about those and conditioning and all of that. What is so funny to me is that my one year old nephew on the picture has already been conditioned. He and his mom live with her parents, my sister. Everyday when grandpa gets home from work he goes into his room to relax. My nephew follows right behind him and just sits and waits. He knows that when grandpa comes home, it is time to eat dinner. No matter what he is doing, he will stop it and follow his grandpa. My sister said that once grandpa tried to run by, but he still knew it and went right behind him. Even if my nephew has already eaten dinner and is full, he still goes in there to sit and wait. I thought that was so cute and funny.

lol that is way too cute!