My mom is obsessed with my weight
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
Philippines
July 29, 2007 9:58am CST
My mom is obsessed with weight. She's always telling me I could lose 10 pounds. I know I am not fat, but I'm always hearing about how unhealthy I look, and my mom is always talking about how fat she is. It bugs me, and when I tell my mom this, she gets mad. She says she just cares about me, but it hurts! What should I do?
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@lisagayle (393)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I think she needs to chill out, and leave you alone. My daughter is 1/2 inch shorter than me and outweighs me by about 10 pounds, and I would never think of telling her she needs to loose any weight, she is 12 1/2, I want her to know that not everyone is a stick figure and it is OK by me if she is not one. How many real people do you know that are as stick figured as the celebs that most people try to emulate? I do not know any that do not have some kind of medical condition that prevents them from being able to gain weight. So stand up to her and tell her you views on the matter.
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@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
thank you :) i think the one reason some people get fat its because they are too depressed tthat they just eat their way out of depressions
@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
yes it may sound that she really cares but actually im very fine the point that she really make it such a big deal looks like isn't good for her she worries too much and doesn't know that she raised a sexy [retty girl weight or no weight :P
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
29 Jul 07
Tell her you're glad that she loves you, and cares about you, but, you're happy the way you are, and that you're just fine.
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@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
im going to do that . . maybe after a week or two :)
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its hard to gather up courage
@mmorgan100 (66)
• United States
29 Jul 07
I'm sure your mom cares about you very much. Just remember, Real women have curves. As long as you are healthy, love yourself exactly as you are.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
31 Jul 07
Hello ifinallyfoundmybaby,
I think you are really having a problem with your mom. Since I always respond to your discussion, I realize that this is not the first time you talk about your mom. I guess your mom is trying to achieve her own goals through you. Maybe she didn't be able to reach her own dreams that she wants you to reach whatever dreams she had before.
She really cares for you but I could understand if you feel like a small kid when too much attention is focused on you. Definitely you will feel uncomfortable with the situation sometimes.
I also have a weird habit too. I am married and a mother myself. I should understand my mom's feeling very well and should know what will make her hurts. But sometimes, I feel like to disobey her more often even if I don't have the intention to hurt her. The more people concern about me, the more I want to be a disobeyed person *laughs*
@Aprilfreelance (96)
• United States
29 Jul 07
Don't let your mother's obsession bring you down. As long as you are within a medically healthy weight, that is all that matters. Too many mothers are doing this to their daughters; if your doctor says you are okay, your mother's neuroses is her own.
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@ifinallyfoundmybaby (1742)
• Philippines
29 Jul 07
whew thank you how i wish my mom would read this :)
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
30 Jul 07
It sounds like your Mom might be trying to relive her life through you and to transfer her own fears and desires from herself to you. Moms do that a lot, and it is important not to be co-dependent with that kind of behavior or to let it drag you down. Rather than arguing, it might be better to just say, "Yes, I COULD lose 10 pounds, but I don't think I'll do it all in one day."
Then laugh and kiss her on the cheek? Another good line might be "I'm so glad I have a Mom who really cares about me, now could we talk about something else?"
