my miserable life,,,

I do not know you Marie but I am sorry to hear of the troubles you are going through right now. Life is never fair and most of us will face some form of this sooner or later. You are in the grieving phase and it is quite normal for you to feel this way. But now facing the report from the doctor only adds to it. I was married to my first wife for 37 years. She was the love of my life. However she didn't see it that way and got tired of sharing me with work and the computer so found someone else. That was bad enough but I was about to retire and the loss was all of what you are going through right now. I have never been what you call an optimistic person. I too felt I must have done something that deserved this but I have this internal drive somehow that will not let me get down and stay there. As hard as it was to loose her I begin to think that perhaps it was meant to be and that somehow things would get better if I just let them. It may have been luck but it did get much better for me. As soon as the shock of loosing her lessened I got on line and begin looking for people to talk to...a lot like you are doing here. I put my profile on a dating site and moved on. One day I got an e-mail from a woman in my old home town. I intended to move back here following the contract I was working on. What got my attention was her name was the same as my first wife’s. To make a short story long we are married now and have been for almost 5 years. If I had let the loss of my first wife get me down this would never have happened. I don't know the reason for your break-up but do not take that responsibility on yourself. You have health issues I did not have but everything else is the same. You can get back out there and you can find happiness. But you have to believe it and make it happen. I believe that things always happen for a reason. Only your future will tell you what that reason is. May the Lord be with you and please know you always have friends here to talk to. Please do not give up for that is the only way you will truly loose.

You need to focus on yourself and your health.I went through cervical cancer by myself.Seems the man I was in love with could not handle me being in pain so he left me!Some man huh?At least I knew he did not stay with me because I was sick.I know it is pulling you apart not being with him.I feel so bad for you.I have felt like you quite a few times.You will get over it.You are young and have a long life ahead of you.By the way I was diagnosed at age 26.I am 44 now and have no signs of anything.

You are not alone. Start journaling how you feel just to let it all out. And then say your prayers. There is a reason for all of this and right now you can't see the reason but in time everything will work out. Keep you chin up....you have all of us!

Missing someone is normal. I have gone thru that too. Crying all the time, no sleep, cant eat and when you do, you cant hold it down. Mad, hurt, depressed. The whole 9 yards. It is normal. The pain will be their for a while but one day you will wake up and you will feel less pain. As each day goes by the pain will go more and more. Guess what, you are not alone. People all over the world have been where you are. Cancer is scary, believe me, I know. My mother was diagnosed in March. One thing you need to try to remember is you need to keep positive. There are people who care about you. Look at all the replies to your posts. Total strangers decided to take their precious time to read what you had to say and even reply to it. May sound stupid but I am guessing these people do care. Why else would they reply?

As all of us know..."Life is a challenge we have to face it"...At all the steps of life, you will get lots of troubles..but thats the challenge of life...If you are determined..then you will definitely win..there is no doubt in this

Hi Marie, I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time now, but don't give up. Also don't expect the worse. I know that's easy for me to say, I'm not in your situation, but sometimes just hearing what another has to say can help. Change is the only thing we can be sure of in life. Hope for the best.

Aw hang in there Marie...I knwo that right now it seems hellish and your world is crashing around you but its not..it just FEELS that way....Take some time to really grieve whats gone on with him and then start working towards rising above it....You found your strength in your man...now its time to find it in you....You have to mourn the loss...it sounds crazy I know but its true...loss is loss regardless of what type of loss it is ya know...and though its not quite the same, lean on your friends/family/online friends etc when you really need to lean ya know....Baby steps, write your feelings down so you arent burdened with the wt of mounting feelings/thoughts etc..talk to ppl, vent, cry, scream, workout, meditate, pray, do whatever it'll take to SAFELY get you through this...Stay strong Marie...you can do you know you can..you've managed to survive and get through other things in life to this point, you can survive and get through this too!! {{{hugs to you}}}

I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I understand you and even if I am just here far from you I pray for your strength to move on in life despite of all the bad things that happens in your life now. And pray to God and surrender everything to him.

I am so sorry to hear you're feeling like this. I've felt like this before in the past and I am going to tell you what I've learned. No bad situation lasts forever. Usually things work out in the end or you learn how to deal with them. Time is going to help you get over him and believe me, you WILL get over him. I read somewhere that "suffering creates character, and character creates hope". I don't know if you believe in god or not but that is the only thing that has sustained me in life whenever I was going through a difficult time, my faith. God is the only one who can really help. If you do believe, then all you need is faith and hope and he will surely help you. Having friends helps too. Talk to them or at least someone you feel confortable with and tell them how you feel. Do things that will distract you, that you like to do. This is a good time for you to work on YOURSELF. Remember, happiness comes FIRST from WITHIN. If you are not happy with yourself, you can never make anyone else happy. And also remember, this too shall pass. Best wishes.

Oh dear, my heart goes to you. I have not got any clue why your man left you when you need him most. But now you have to be strong and deal with your difficulties on your own. It is not worthy to give up because of him, as you are still very young and full of life. Hope you have the courage for life, don’t give up easily! Wish you all the best!

What make your life so miserable ... do you know that your own prayer can change your life completely; I guess you should check this; www.powertochange.com to get the power that will change your life. Go ahead ... don't keep waiting, or else you will suffer longer.

If I didn't know what it means to be heart broken, I wouldn't respond. Life seems so miserable you don't see any reasons to continue living. The more you think and try to convince yourself this will be over, the more you hurt. I ended up taking antidepressants. What is a cure? Time and time only. A human creature knows how to survive, you are not an exception. Please go to see a doctor, don't wait like me for three years to start medication. Why did you decide you have cancer? Forget about it. You will see everything will settle down. I know you don't believe me, your heart is bleeding and you have this pain in your stomack as if somebody stabbed you. I can add more and more descriptions, I know what it means, but I am well now and you will see pain will fade and you will see the light. Trust me! I know what i am saying. Respond to my letter. I would like to talk to you more.

I suggest that you turn to someone who is willing to listen and share to your problem rather than let your daily life gone astray, the best person is your mother. I have try this and it worked.

There is some super power also which is recognized as God in our society. When no medicine act it is to prayer to god which react and reflect also and there is miracle light and brightness all over and every where where there is no sorrow no misery, no pain and there is all happiness. I will pray god to give you power to come out of this darkness and have a sigh or relief.

Give yourself plenty of time. That is the key to getting through hard times like this. I know right now things do not seem like they will ever get better, but they do. I know it is one thing reading/hearing it from someone and then feeling the way you do. I have been there myself and going through a difficult time now. It will get better. Just give yourself plenty of time and allow yourself to be mad, upset, and all of those feelings.

Hey, dont think your life is a miserable. You are just caught up in bad situations. Everything will be alright. Hang on and keep believing in God... I see you are heartbroken and having health difficulties. You know what my friend, i think its better to focus more on your health really. It will just worsen if u wont take care of yourself and eat and sleep. . I know its so easy for me to say all these cause i'm not the one experiencing it now... But hey, dont lose hope. Everything will be okay.. just dont lose hope. Take care of your health. (",)

Marie i am sorry. I do think you should not be alone, in this period of life. Maybe it's a good idea to go and stay with the family or at a friends house for a few weeks. And find some activity that will help you pass the hours. I am so sorry for all of this, my friend.

i'm so sorry to hear that :( ..i've been in your shoes before so i know what it's like. i know it's hard, but try to keep yourself busy, go out with friends or talk to friends about it..it might help to ease the burden that you're carrying. try not to be alone if possible and always remember that when God closes a door, he opens another. be strong, have faith that in time you will heal and will learn to love again one day, whether it's sooner or later..and always pray to God, God works in mysterious ways, there's probably a rainbow waiting for you at the end of this hurtful journey. don't give up hope. keep smiling ok? take care and hope you're doing okay. :)

Dear girl, I really don't know why you are crying hoarse over someone who obviously didn't care for you. There's nothing wrong with you. I too have gone through similar situations but believe me once the initial wave of self pity blows over you'll be surprised how easily he'll stop mattering. In life, we feel that we can't do without so and so and our life revolves around that one person. When I was in college, my best friend went through a similar situation. She was in love with a guy for over 5 years and she thought that this was a relationship of a lifetime. She herself came from a broken family and her boyfriend offered her all the emotional support that she needed. Apparently. She loved him, talked him, walked him, breathed him till one fine day, he just dropped her and went and married someone else. She was shattered and I'd thought she'll do something dangerous. But my friend was a survivor. It took her sometime , maybe a few months to get over him but she did and how! !5years later, she's happily married to a wonderful man and she can't believe that the guy could have affected her so much. She laughs over it today. You might feel real low today, but believe me there's so much more to life than one man! Get yourself involved in activities which will make you happy. Since you have so much love within you to waste over someone who doesn't value it or deserve it why don't you go give it to people who're craving for it. Get involved with orphanages or old-age home. Those people really need your love and you'll feel so happy offering it, believe me. Go out with friends, especially women, who will empathise with your emotional needs and please, for heaven's sake do not base your happiness on any one person in life unless you want to be really miserable. Take care and go out and look at the world outside. Its beautiful and thank the creator that you have eyes to see his creation, a nose to smell the wonderful smells of the moist earth and fragrant flowers, ears with which you can listen to the music of the world. Many can't.

i know you've probably read this a hundred times but i'm going to reiterate a thought.. life has its hardships, its bumps, its rock, and its turns, it isn't always going to be that way though as you see life is a delicate balance of good and bad which are both relative terms. relative of what you may ask? of themselves of course!!! to have good you must have bad and vice versa due to relativity. you will get through this hard time and you will see all the good things that life has to offer!! you'll find somebody new and life will go through it's winding path, leading onto a happy ending!! you'll look back on this hard time and maybe even laugh about it. but you must remain STRONG first!!! never give up, and never surrender and please give life a chance!