are you in favor of what so called "ARRANGED MARRIAGE?"

I believe in it if I were in the past generations where women are not allowed to go out of the house and the only way that she could marry is if her parents would look for a husband for her. But these days, in modern times when the both women and men are educated, and have more than one way to get to meet someone, I don't think that works very good now. Plus the fact that before, people are obedient with their parent's wishes, unlike now people are no longer that obedient. Divorces are rampant due to the fact that people would no longer be contented of their 'self-chosen' partner, how much more if you didn't choose the person? =)

Every situation has its pros and cons and arranged marriage is no exception. In Indian culture, where free mixing of sexes is still frowned upon, arranged marriage is the norm for many families. Both the bride and the groom’s families ascertain each other's pedigree, social standing, financial positions and family background, before such marriages take place. So it provides some security against marrying a stranger from a totally unknown family background. Love marriages, on the other hand, do not take into consideration family background, social standing and financial positions. Lovers from different social and financial backgrounds get married and then, in many cases, such marriages result in disaster. There is no sure-shot formula for a marriage to succeed, whether arranged, or love. In all cases, it’s a gamble. But all in all, I would definitely feel scared to go in for an arranged marriage. As it is, my in-laws would be unknown to me, on top of that, if my husband was unknown too, I would feel like a fish out of water!

Now after going thro' so many incidents in various media what I think is it is better if one prefers lovely arranged marriage ie love marriage with the acceptance of elders.

This is actually becoming quite popular now..The people are saying its because there is no expectations on the other one..

For most of the Idnians arranged marriage is preferred best.

i am not in favor in "arranged marriage" because for me a good marriage is gonna be the foundation of a new family.. and it should start with love, no pretentions and most of all with two persons who knows each other very well, understands each other and loves each other. Just a point to think about.. there are lots of failed marriage coming from two people who thought they were inlove and were ready to build a family.. how much more if the couple doesn't know each other well and were forced to this so called "arranged marriage"?

I think I can never marry to a person whom I don't love. If the marriage is arranged, I will have doubts and most probably I would reject even if my parents forced me to go on with it. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, and I want it to be worthwhile. Therefore, I want love to be there in my marriage. Of course money plays an important role too in a marriage.

Here in the States, we are free to marry whomever we want. And my parents wanted me to be happy , married or not.So I wouldn't be forced to marry someone I didn't want to. But if I were from a society where it was a tradition to have your marriage to be arranged, I would marry whomever they choose.Because the family would come first.

It doesn't a matter whether the marriage is arranged or not. The point is they love each other deeply. If the marriage is arranged, perhaps you don't have to worry whether your marriage will be dissagreed by your parents or his/her parents. If you love each other, too. Then this marriage will be nicer.

I don't agree with arranged marriages at all. I was suppose to have an arranged marriage, but I decied not to. I was suppose to get married when I turned 21 to some guy my dad picked out for me when I was like 3 yrs old. Well at 18 I went into the military and I got married while I was in the military. After my divorce my dad still wanted me to marry this guy and I refused. I didn't know him and had met him once when I was a baby. I told my dad that as muc has I love and respect him that I choose who I am going to spend my life with not him.

For me, its the life after marriage is important, not that the marriage is either an Arranged one or Love Marriage. Because, there are equal number of failures and successes in both Arranged and Love Marriage. Its the understanding between the couple is important, rather than the type of marriage.

There are benefits and drawbacks to an arranged marriage. Many of the ancient arranged marriages in which the daughter was prized and adored, the parents would choose a man and she would have the final say on it. In an arrangement such as this, I agree, especially when it was customary to marry young. What 12 year old really knows what he or she wants? However now that it's common to wait a quarter of a century before marriage, I definitely believe the young adult should choose for him or herself. Back in the day, this was the age many parents would be when they first started looking for suitable mates for their children. I would trust my mother or step-grandmother to choose a mate for me, but not my dad or stepdad. My most successful relationship was actually one set up by my grandmother (she's an immigrant Korean, so she's very used to playing matchmaker for her female relatives). We're still close to this day. It really just depends on the person and the environment. I don't think I'd have a problem living and sleeping with someone I had met only shortly before the wedding. Love is an action, it's something you do. When they say you'll grow to love someone, they're right. Much like our children; we know we love them at birth, but it doesn't really feel like it. We have to get to know them first. Love grows, it isn't just an overnight thing. That one's called infatuation or lust. Blessed Be

Actually, I belong to India, and here arranged marriages are considered real marriages.Though things are changing now, arranged marriages are still very much prevalent. Parents or families, anyone ranging from a great grandpaent of 90 years to a college friend who's just 18 can bring marriage alliances for their near and dear ones. In arranged marriages, generally, everything from language, province, state, caste and even sub-caste is expected to match! It is also generally believed, that arranged marriages are more successful and last as against love marriages. There are so many factors that are often quoted for the success of AM and the failure of LM. For instance, in arranged marriages, since families are involved there is a certain accountability that a couple has or that love marriage is often looked upon as an act of irresponsibility towards the family and society. In love marriages, since the expectations are high on either side and since the couple is insulated from family interferences(or so its believed), chances of the marriage breaking up are higher as the couple do not try adjusting or compromising. I'v had a love marriage but believe me I feel that our sense of responsibility is far higher. Yes, there have been disillusionments, but we have learnt to sort it out somehow. In India, people fall in love after marriage and think its a most wonderful thing as husband and wife get to know one another gradually, and thats where the charm lies! But for me, whether its love or arranged, a marriage is a tremendous responsibility, a commitment, and something one has to make an effort to keep it going on a daily basis.

I believe in freedom of choice, particularly who I will spend my life with. The problem is, many marriages don't work because we make decisions about who we will marry romantically not logically. When parents arrange a marriage the will ask them selves, 'can this person take good care of my child', 'will this person be able to provide for my child financially' and 'will this person make my child happy'. I am sure parents don't always get it right but, statistically,arranged marriages are less likely to end in divorce.

I won't agree with arranged marriage not because it is not in but it hinders your freedom to love who you like to love. I think marriage should happen between two person who really loves each other and is willing to be together. If marriage is arranged and there is no mutual consent between the couple I do believe that the marriage is a hoax and should never be allowed just so the parents have agreed or arranged it.

Arranged marriage are part of some people's culture. I think of it as unwise arrangement as we can't simply live with strangers. Much more to sleep with a complete stranger. There were reasons behind these cultures and i don't know much about it. One thing for sure, i'm not in favor of it.

arrange marriage happens in certain cultures. it has been a tradition to them. however, it doesn't really work for most. some of them end up separating after quite some time. yes, more often than not, it involves money. in other cases, it's one way of protecting the family business and/or properties. i don't think that my parents would ask me to be in one. our culture don't practice such. but if ever, i would tell them that i will only marry the person whom i love.