how to avoid your child crying
By prily9
@prily9 (568)
Indonesia
July 30, 2007 4:33am CST
my child is 2 years old. it's been a week since she's always crying when I left her to go to work. I try to play and going around somewhere with her before I go.but she still crying when I left her to my baby sitter. when I went to work, sometimes she stops crying but when she remembered me she cried again. I wanna take her to playgroup I wonder if she lonely maybe she will have a friend but while I find the right school for her, do you have any idea what to do? so my child will stop crying or perhaps not cry so much?
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10 responses
@aribaba (366)
• Indonesia
31 Jul 07
try to communicate more, give her a explanation about your duty, about your job, about how you really love her actually, but if you're not go you won't be able to bought her milk (that worked to my daughter). And try not too make your daughter close just to you. I guess that's what I could wrote for now.... bingung ma'am.
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
31 Jul 07
I had try already to explain about how I have to work but seems she still crying. and my daughter only close with me and her babysitter. but if she wanted me she only want with me if she wanted my babysitter she must have it or she will cried. even me can stop her. I think I must try her to get close with somebody else beside me and her. thanks
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
30 Jul 07
It is a very diffcult thing to stop completely a child from crying, but you can something to reduce the bother of a yelling child; by making sure you knoe the feeding habits interms of time and taste
have a comfortable dry bed
have play time for the child no matter how young
have a good baby seater if you are a working mother
cuddle your child and bond with it
develope special lullabies for the child to send them to sleep
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
30 Jul 07
During her first three years, my youngest baby always cried every single day I would leave for work. I would find a way to sneak out of the house everyday just so she wouldn't see me leave. When she started walking, she would walk to my bedroom and keep an eye on every move I made. She would sit on my lap while I fixed myself up in front of the mirror. It was tough, it was heartbreaking all the time, but I had to deal with it. I had to work. I would call her up on the phone the minute I arrived at the office everyday because I was aware that she would be crying all day long until she hears my voice, then she stops crying. She's three and a half years old now. I have quit my job, and we have started our own business. I have more time with her now. She is still the same whenever she sees me getting all dressed up. But it's a bit easier to say goodbye to her now. No more crying sessions. I just give her the assurance that I would be back right away, and always try to make good this promise to her. And whenever I arrive home, she would happily comment that I didn't take too long. It's a natural thing for the baby to be crying whenever you leave, but she will get used to that eventually. All I can say is that you could try to keep in touch with her while you are out of the house, so she could still feel your presence even while you are away. Eventually, she will get used to it, and you will be able to concentrate on work without worrying about the baby all the time.
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@UnicornDancer (91)
• United States
30 Jul 07
It's hard to leave them when they are crying, but most the time this is a phase that will pass as they realize that you will be back for them. Different children go throught it at different ages. Once they understand tht you are not going away never to come back but that you will be coming back the crying will stop. For some children this understanding comes quickly for others it takes longer. Keep reasuring her that you will be back and give her time to adjust.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
30 Jul 07
Yes, i think using a play-group or childcare centre will be the best thing coz then she will have other kids to play with & that will keep her amused.
I did my work experience in a childcare centre & the only kids that cried, only cried for a few minutes before they went off & played with toys, other kids, made sand castles!
It's also good for them to socialise with other children :)
Look in your area & see what is around & which ones have places available then have your daughter booked in & see how she goes.
If she does nothing but cry, the child care workers will let you know!
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@youless (112493)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Jul 07
My son is three years old. I have to say that children at this age is very emotional. Sometimes they can cry out, but soon they will laugh again. When my son is crying, I try to distract his attention. Such as give him the snack or a toy, so that he will forget about why he is crying.
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 07
when my first daughter when she cried at this age I could ask her to around with my babysitter and stop crying. but my second daughter, my mom and babysitter asked her to go she still crying and I already to give her candy so could distract her. it worked for a minute and then sheheld my hands so I couldn't go. I think I have to find something to distract her attention better. thanks
@d_hapke (165)
• United States
30 Jul 07
I'm sorry for your worries. Yes, it's difficult to leave your child in someone else's care. If it has only been a week you may want to give it just a little longer. My son had many of the same problems when I would leave him in daycare. There were plenty of children but he would cry and cling to me. I felt horrible. I would either sneak out or leave him screaming for me. It broke my heart. But, the women who took care of him said he would calm down within 5 minutes and he was fine after that. He did this for almost a year until he turned 3 1/2! I left him there because I used to check up on him during my lunch break and he was very happy and felt safe there. If I thought something was wrong, I would have taken him out immediately. He just hated to have to part with me.
Maybe you can check up on your child and be sure she is OK during the day. She should not be crying the whole time. Then there is something wrong. If you feel she is safe, maybe you can record a tape of you reading a book for her that they can play when she cries. Or make a video and put it on DVD for her to watch. Maybe you can make a special photo album of the things she loves and keep it only there.
Please let us know if things get better!
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
3 Aug 07
yeah I guess this happen at her age. right now I still go when she cried, I never say goodbye but I just tell her that I have to pick up something for her then I will be back she cries when I left but my babysitter said not so long like before. at my office I tried to contact her by phone and she didn't cry, anyway my babysitter said she kept asking me during the day. but I never try like you advice me. I guess I will start to make special photo album. thanks for your response