Keeping your marriage alive!

I am so there right now! We've only been married a little over a year and a half and have a one year old son. It gets very frusterating being at home all the time. We can't just pick up and go when a friend calls. We've lost a lot of friends because they're single and they don't understand the married w/ kids life. We miss going out terribly but we just can't do it. We usually end up watching movies every night while our son sleeps. Yay...so boring.

i think most of us have been there. it seems after kids we are just tired and our lives seem to be so full of taking care of the kid or kids that we forget to take care of ourselves. we are all guilty of this. it is not a good thing either cause then if you dont try to get that little bit of time you seem to grow apart as well. we went through this for about a year after we had ours. then we decided to talk about it cause we both felt like this but neither of us had the energy. i dont rmeber who said it first cause niether of us relized the other felt the same way. we decided that the kids would go to bed at 8pm and that would leave us with some time for each other. we decided that if the dishes werent done by then oh well let it go. we also started doing small things like fixing the kids dinner once every 2 weeks without fixing for us. then we would make us a simple dinner and put out candles in the living room with a blanket and opened the front door and acted like we were outside. when they got older we went into the yard lol. we also once every 2 weeks woke up very early no matter how late it was the night before and we take a nice long bath toghter and make us breakfast and sit in bed cuddling till the kids get up but it was time for us. you can do lots of things you just have to make the time. just remeber that somethings can be left undone so that you can have time with each other. let the dishes go, dont worry about dusting, one night let the kids have sandwhiches etc. make time for you and make time for each other. do simple things.