why do women end up liking their closest guy friend?

I personally believe that it is because as women, we connect emotionally with someone and desire a mate that we can connect with emotionally. Therefore, a guy that you become close friends with has already started to fill that emotional need we have. We have learned to trust them and depend on them, which gives us a security that it is hard to build with someone from scratch. I also agree with what the other poster said about there being a sense of truly knowing the person because we have seen them at good and bad times, high and low points. We have seen them react in different situations without them trying to hide or keep part of their personality held back, as sometimes happens if we are still trying to win someone over in a more than platonic relationship. Not only that, but we can also be ourselves with them. They already love us for who we are, faults and all. The pendulem swings both ways on that aspect. I think it all comes down to trust and comfort. We all desire those qualities in a mate and since we usually have those in a close friend, we find ourselves becoming attracted to that.

I think it's probably partly because they have got to know this guy really well, and partly because they feel secure with him, having seen the way he behaves towards them. Then, there's animal instinct! lol. If you spend a lot of time with somebody, your love often grows, as does his, and just a hug or a peck on the cheek can lead to something much bigger. Then you start to miss them, and realise that without them, life just wouldn't be complete. Brightest Blessings.

I think that divorce rates would drop if we ONLY ever fell in love with our closest guy friends! There is no pretense, no judgement. There is trust, intimacy, fun, confidence, security, common interests and beliefs - all the things that need to be present in a happy marriage. Perhaps Vanessa Williams said it best "...all of the nights you came to me, when some silly girl had set you free. You wondered how you'd make it through, I wondered what was wrong with you. How could you give your love to someone else, and share your dreams with me? Sometimes the very thing you're looking for, is the one thing you can't see...Just when I thought our chance had passed, you go and save the best for last!" A beautiful song with very romantic lyrics. I think it describes wonderfully just how this love can happen. Plus, you can always watch "When Harry met Sally" or even "You've got mail" Friends make the best, most logical lovers.

women can fall in love with ANYTHING these days. even the garbage man . . . falling in love is easy, the easiest thing in the world. But can you really call this love? I have this GOLDEN rule that I live by, I never screw my friends. I find i live longer this way.

I see your point there. I'm agree with you. Knowing the weakest state of someone may end up with love. Knowing almost everything about someone could be one of the reason. I think, it's not only women, but man as well.

I think girls fall in love with their closest guy friend becoz that guy already knows a lot about her; her behavior, attitudes, moods and they may even know their respective parents so if they both decide to marry, then they would not have to go through the presentation of each other to the respective families! Hence she feels more comfortable. Though there are some exceptions coz I've not yet fallen in love with my best friend, who is a guy!

I think those women and their closest guy friend can understand each other,and it's very important to lover.Besides it,women know good as well as bad side about their closest guy friend,so they may feel safe.As we all know,some persons always show their good side.Only living with them for a long time,we can know them really.

hmm..maybe because the guy is the closest guy friend that the girl has. she can be herself, tell him secrets and understand each other. she probably spends most of her time with him and he probably does the same and feelings might develop. if the feelings are mutual then that's great hehe.. :)

It is because of proximity. Like develops when you see something from a person that fits your romantic image or at least meets a part of that image. And this is because of proximity. When you are clos to that person, you notice that part. And once you like a person and there is really proximity such as being close friends, then it can possibly develop into a stronger feeling like love.

I think girls fall in love with their best guy friend because they are together so much. When a guy and girl are friends they talk about things and you get to know the guy for him. It is harder on a date, because guys are trying to impress you and you really don't learn much about the real guy. I don't really have many guy best friends so I haven't fallen in love with one, yet!

I think it has something to do with getting to know the person better. You talk to the guy all the time, you share your time with him, sooner or later he becomes part of your daily routine, then if that changes you miss him. You open up yourself to him. He opens up himself to you (no strings attached, no best foot forward). Sooner or later you end up knowing him more deeply. The morning talks, the afternoon togetherness, the night wishes. Soon you feel he's someone you want to grow old with. Before you know it, you've fallen. Doesn't that happen to guys too? =)

I think you are right! You know someone so well, and you feel like you are compatiable of course otherwise you might not be friends. Most people say friends make the best lovers.