has a friend ever stolen stuff from you ?
By serenidity
@serenidity (641)
India
July 31, 2007 3:13pm CST
I know this is such a hurtful thing to discuss but I have a friend who i suspect picking things off me. I mean once can be coincidence, twice a mistake, but more than that, I think I am sure she ' s stealing from me. After I have known her, a couple of cooking utensils (yeah, can you believe that) are missing and twice i went shopping with her and both the times i Lost cash (supposedly). Of course i do feel awful for not being careful enough, its just that i feel so attached to her, i kept giving her the benefit of doubt. I still don't know what to do about it. Has anybody been cheated like this by a friend ?
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25 responses
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
31 Jul 07
A long time ago a so called friend stole 7 valueble and I mean valueble books on witchcraft that have run in my family for years. I never suspected it but one day I saw her boyfriend with one of them and he said he got it at a rare bookstore. I told him you could not buy them at a bookstore because they were a family herloom within MY family. My friend later said she gave them to her boyfriend and he sold them for over 100 each!!
Those books were worth over 100,000 dollars! They were old from many centuries back. I was so mad! I told them they would have bad luck for years if I never got them back.
Bad news, I never had them returned.
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@tombiz (2036)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
That friend was really rude and so bad to do that. I understand that those books are so valuable and she just sold it for a very cheap price. I think you should have called the help of the police and later on to the judiciary system to at least give you and your family justice.
This was a grave act committed not only againts you but of the generations of your family's past. Had it happened to me, she will definitely suffer all the consequences of what she did. Sometimes, we really have to be very careful of letting anybody entered our own homes.
Some people have never this sense of valuing others and instead they exploited the trust that are already cemented.
These people must be thrashed to ashes, so to speak.
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@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
31 Jul 07
Stop hanging out with her, trust me it will get worse. I had the same thing happen to me and I kept giving her the benefit of the doubt but later I left some things at her house in a box because it couldn't fit in my car to go home for the summer and I didn't realize that the box I had left had my movies in it and my checks and I never did tell her what was in the box...well the day before I was suppose to come back to school I had over $800 stolen from my account from checks being cashed in my name and her purchasing stuff *in her handwriting*....So please don't let this happen to you.
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@serenidity (641)
• India
31 Jul 07
Yes thats what is the sad part, you keep trusting them again and again or i would say we are not careful enough with them around because people you meet regularly, its hard to be on your guard every minute. I am gonna take your advise and stay away as much as possible. Don't think I ll get my stolen vessel or money back though.
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@s_bala (75)
• India
31 Jul 07
What you can do is try to borrow from your friend what ever you find missing and not return it back to her.
Or else you need to be very alert and catch her red handed.
Or try to keep her away.
Or you can tell her that the bible says 'stealing' is a sin and robbers will not enter heaven.
Stealing is a habit. Some people cann't help it though they try hard not to steal.
Or if you believe in the Jesus you can command the demon of robbery to come out of her. And ask her to repent and accept Jesus as her lord and savior, this way she can be completely free of the bad habit.
@serenidity (641)
• India
31 Jul 07
I don't think I can do to her what she did to me, I can't steal, but yes i think i should catch her red handed some day.
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@chen463344628 (145)
• China
1 Aug 07
no my friends is of empressement
they never stolen stuff from me
@zhangkun1995 (4)
• China
1 Aug 07
I never faced such thing, If I had a friend like yours, I would not look him as my friend, and would keep as far as I can do from him, I think steal is a great shame.
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
1 Aug 07
A friend has never stolen anything from nor I from a friend. A true friend would never steal anything from you.
@aprilsue00 (1991)
• United States
1 Aug 07
i have a friend that is always stealing things. i cannot prove that she has ever stolen anything from me but i am sure that she probably has. it is pretty sad because she is a really good person. besides the stealing part though.
@senthil2k (1500)
• India
1 Aug 07
I have many of things of missing when so far, but I cannot really say that they were stolen by my friends.
But it has happened many times, that some friends take my CD/DVD for their use and never return them to me. Most of the time I had to ask them to get it back.
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@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
1 Aug 07
I have never come across such incident. Actually all my friends were honest as far as I know. They would never steal anything. I think it is really difficult to continue relationship once you find that they steal. Just talk to your friend because being quiet is not the answer. You wont be comfortable and you cannot be that free to your friend. i really think you should talk about this to ur friend and if she is proven guilty then everything depends on you whether to continue your friendship or give her a chance. But, either ways, you should talk. I hope your whatever happens, be it good for you. Good luck.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
1 Aug 07
yes i have, she did that not only to me but to our other friends too. not only once but many times... and it hurts to know that of all people why is your friend? you trust her in everything and then she still do that to you... we didnt try to ask her coz we dont have evidence and besides we dont want to hurt her feelings... after all shes still a friend to us... but we keep telling her what happened hoping that she might accept it
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Aug 07
make sure that you are absolutely positive before accusing this friend or writing her off.
I once went thru a spell of little things missing from my home and on a few occassions small amounts of cash. All the incidences occured when this one particular friend was around. We were very close and it hurt for me to believe it could be her but she was just around me all the time.
I later learned it was a lady whose son I watched. She was only in my house briefly each morning and I was right there. She was not a suspect. She over did it one day....took every bit of my cash. The friend I had suspected was away on vacation. It took me a while to figure it out but this lady had been slipping into my home while I walked her son to school each day. I was so relieved that it wasn't my friend.
@logansgirl (18)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Yes, it has happened to me to the point where my house was robbed twice. It was years ago, but it still burns. I even had to call the cops and the girl never even got jail time after stealing AT LEAST $1,000 of my stuff. Luckily, I am married now and my husband protects me! Haha!
My answer to you is this, you may be putting yourself in deep water with this one. I have had SO MANY friends that used to steal from me. Some still do, but just minor things like pens and loose change (no paper money or anything).
Not to sound paranoid or rude, I would get out while you can. I had a friend like that and I just had to let her go because it wasn't healthy. I even loved this girl like a sister. It has been hard not to pick up the phone and call her. You have to find strength within yourself, your friends and family. And if you ever need to talk, just let me know. I could always use more friends! :)
~Gypsy~
@tombiz (2036)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
It was really sad. To be victimized by a person whom you already considered as closed to your heart could be a devastating blow not only because the person stole something but also because of the trust and relationship that could never be repaired again.
On my part, I had been victimized by people whom I considered as good friends. But then later on had the courage to go againts me. I am a person who will always find time to help a friend in need as long as I can. Sometimes I could find hard to say no to a friend. Later on I realized that there a lot of friends who are just taking advantage of our good intentions.
And it could be tragic. Really.
@txbluejay (25)
• United States
1 Aug 07
My own daughter stole things from me for years, clothes, jewelry, money, you name it, she took it!
She would look me in the eye and lie about it so well that I seldom could prove she had done it.
Ten years ago, I finally had enough and haven't seen or talked to her since then. It is difficult, but as far as I could see it was the only way to protect myself from her.
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
26 Sep 07
Yes, when I was in the 6th grade, my best friend at the time stole over 200 cds from me. I used to buy cds all the time and I had a huge collection, she thought I wouldn't notice them gone. Another friend saw them at her place, I was so crushed she could do that to me...
@pendragon (3349)
• United States
1 Aug 07
I had an ex whom I thought was still a friend, watch me leave/lock my house,complain at me that I was locking it, then came back when i wasnt there, climbed in my bedroom window, and rifle through my stuff, and my moms, (which really broke my heart), and they took a bunch of jewelry and cash.Later that night when I was at work, they showed up waering some of my moms stuff.The freaking audacity.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
1 Aug 07
i have had things stolen off be by freinds before, but as you say when it only happens once than just coincidence, so i just gave the the benefit of doubt. but i had a family member steal off me, my sister all in the same day and when we realised and put the pieces together and realised who it was, we confronted her and her hubby and yeah we rarely speak to them now.
@suman76 (648)
• India
1 Aug 07
This is now the habit of her actually but you have to realise her. You got her red handed and realise her that what she is doing but keep this thing in your mind that don't stop talking and meeting her.
@chris70 (6)
• Australia
1 Aug 07
get rid of her she will keep doing it to you.
i had a friend that i let live in my house because he had nowhere to live, that was not a good thing ,when he left he stole my kids bedding ,some of my clothes and a bar fridge that was not even mine it was another one of his friends and made $1000.00 of phone calls nice mate he was, that is not all of it but that was the main things. yea and did all that when i was at work.
@tdbrower1969 (1242)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Yes, I have and it is the most hurtful thing. I finally caught them red handed and needless to say we are no longer friends! A friend is someone that you can trust and when that trust is broken the friendship is gone. I also have a neice that has been displaying this tendency, and right after my son broke his arm she came over when I wasn't home. When I got back home, I found that ten of his pain pills were gone out of the bottle. No one else had been in the house, and she told my son that she was going to use my computer, and that is where the pill bottle was! I hate when people feel that they have to be this way, and I am sorry that your friend has done this to you!
@Odlanor (140)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
I haven't encounter such a friend like your's. Maybe the best thing to do is ask her if she happen to see the things that was lost. In this way she will be aware that you know something is lost. Ask her politely and be courteous.