have you loved or been attracted to someone who isnt available anymore?

I have felt love toward someone who realistically was never available and is even less so now. It is a very wearing place to be fraught with emotional highs and lows.

I fell for someone who had a girlfriend then. We agreed on a certain set-up and life went smoothly. Until one day, I just learned he had a different gf already! That was really it! I would have been willing to be just an option but with what I learned, it wouldn't be healthy anymore. So I just let him be, and I moved on =)

I guess no-one can really control feelings and it is easy to be attracted to someone who is no longer available, feeling do not have an on and off switch but one has got to be strong and make sure nothing ever happens and possible that their feeling do not show.

you cannot control your feelings but you can control your actions. What is important in this situation is to respect the boundaries and do not act on your feelings.

yes. with my ex's twin brother who has a girlfriend. haha. its awkward really because we're all close to each other. like we hang out together, have coffee together and go into the same highschool.

I should say everyone of us has been attracted to someone who isnt available anymore. Attraction is one thing and loving is another. I might be attracted to another even male or female but it doest mean I am falling in love with them. Not available may mean not only married, but maybe has another profession or vacation of a priest who cannot marry or fall in love with you. He or she maybe married to a relative or some family members and yet you are attracted but other than that feeling it must be avoided. It will go to nowhere unless in the near future that someones love goes or pop away.

No, I can honestly say that this has not happened to me. If someone is no longer available then a person should not even think about having a relationship or being attracted tothat person. Don't build yourself up for a failure by falling for someone who is no longer available.

Loving or being attracted to someone is definitely not wrong, unless you act on it. I'm sorry, I don't get the part about exemptions. Are you saying that because the two of you are in love, you can pursue a relationship even though he's married or committed to someone else? Love should never be used as a sorry excuse to hurt other people, especially yourself. Put it this way, would you have a relationship with a man who can't be loyal emotionally and sexually to his partner? Same goes for women who cheat on their husbands/boyfriends, the least they can do is get a divorce or dump the guy before trying out a new relationship. Love is so overrated. And yes, I have been cheated on, so I know what I'm talking about. And yes again, I have cheated in the past and I carry the guilt to this day. Sorry if that came out like it was pointed at you Aika. I was trying to stress a point and got a bit carried away.