A Memorandum from a Child To Parents

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Last weekend I attended a meeting of parents and school officials at the school of my son. The officials talked and presented the mission and vision of the school, its policies and regulations and the improvement in facilities the school had made. They also gave some reading materials and one that caught my attention was the "Memorandum From a Child to Parent". Somehow I had realized on what to do and not to do as parent. Too often we underestimate or overestimate our kids... Any comment on the following.... Memorandum From A Child 1. Don't spoil me. I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I am only testing you. 2. Dont be afraid to be firm with me. I prefer it. It lets me know where to stand. 3. Don't be inconsistent. That confuses me and make me try harder to get away with everything I can! 4. Don't make promises; you may not be able to keep them. That will discourage my trust in you. 5. Dont do things for me that I can do by myself. It makes me feel like a baby, and I may continue to put you in my service. 6. Dont make me feel smaller than I am. I will make up for it by behaving like a 'big shot'. 7. Dont let my bad habitd get me a lot of attention. It only encourage me to continue them. 8. Dont correct me in front of people. I'll take much more notice if you talk quietly with me in private. 9. Dont make me feel that my mistakes are sins. I have to learn to make mistakes without feeling that I am NO good. 10. Dont nag. If you do. I shall have to protect myself by appearing deaf. 11. Dont protect me from consequenses. I need to learn from experience. 12. Dont put me off when I ask Honest Questions. If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek information elsewhere. 13. Dont ever think that it is beneath your dignity to apologize to me. An honest apology makes me feel surprisingly warm towards you. 14. Dont worry about little amount of time we spend together. It is HOW we spend it that counts. 15. Dont let my fears arouse your anxiety. Then I will be more afraid. Show me courage. 16. Dont demand explanation for my wrong behavior. I really dont know why I did it. 17. Dont forget that I can not thrive without lots of understanding and encouragement, but I dont need to tell you this, do I? 18. TREAT ME the Way you treat your friends, then I will be your friend too. *REMEMBER I LEARN MORE FROM A MODEL THAN A CRITIC*