child support finally settled
By poppoppop111
@poppoppop111 (5731)
Canada
August 1, 2007 2:55pm CST
as most of you know i've mentioned my ex hasn't been paying child support often and now he's refusing to pay his half of daycare as stated in our court papers. anyway i go through a third party government and i'm been on the phone for months with them to get his pay check garnished. this month it's finally being done. right now he'll be getting 50 % of his cheque garnished cause he's so far behind in his payments. mind you it won't be comming to me cause i've been on welfare but at least next month when i get off welfare i'll be able to count on my 250$ a mont child care comming.
now i guess that's the reason he flipped out on me asking for help with day care. but that's not my problem. he knew he was suposed to be paying child support every month. i asked him constantly for it for the last 4 years, it's not my fault he wasn't responsible enough to pay and now he's stuck with them taking so much at once, that was his choice.
anyway so to you who read my post yesterday about the daycare. i spoke to my lawyer she said wait until next month when she is in daycare and if he doesn't pay then take him to court. which is a long process that i won't have much time for when i'm in college to do and i won't be able to afford the months alone while everything goes through the long court process but i'll have to figure out a way of doing it. but that's my only option so far. so if he doesn't pay we are going back to court
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14 responses
@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Don't you just love the way the ex husbands in our life are? Mine has been a real jerk, and his new wife isn't helping things either, she doesn't like me and acts like she doesn't like my children either, so now their dad acts like he doesn't like them either. I spent a few months last year and the first couple of months this year trying to collect the child support that his new wife said he didn't owe me (because as she puts it, he has her and her 2 boys to take care of now...). My lawyer finally got him to agree to a settlement, I get my check 5 days late every week, but at least I'm getting them. I'm glad things are starting to work out in your case. I wish you and you children well. Take care and keep you chin up.
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@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
4 Aug 07
i know what you mean, my ex wasn't that bad before, he usually paid on a regular basis until he met someone else, she has a kid and doesn't like that fact that he had a life before her. so she started treating my daughter bad and didn't want the dad to see my daughter anymore. he stopped comming to visit her for a while and completely stopped paying. then they broke up and he came back to see her but hasn't kept up the payments much. but now he's back with this girl again. so it's kind of rocky again. i don't get how people can take things out on the kids. if you don't want to be with a man who has another kid and find someone else, don't try to push the kid out of the person's life.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
2 Aug 07
i'm sorry you are going thru this. It is sad when a parent makes it even more difficult by not being responsible. I don't think these people ever really stop to think that it is the child they really are hurting when they refuse to pay. You'd think they would be humiliated that a court has to tell them over and over again to do what should come naturally as a parent.
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@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Good for you I have yet to get money from my soon to be ex. Your county should have a low cost childcare where they will help you pay a small amount and you pay a small amount.
I hope everything works out for you and I'm glad you are getting your money.
@poppoppop111 (5731)
• Canada
1 Aug 07
i looked into subsidized daycare and made a bunch of calls. i'm not eligable. they told me i can't get it when i'm non student loan cause student loan gives you money for having a dependent child in your care. but they only give 1300 for the entire school period. that won't even cover more than 3 months of daycare. but they still won't let me get subsidized
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@prettylady_55 (15)
• Canada
4 Aug 07
Im happy to hear things worked out for you. Make sure he pays what he has to.
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@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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2 Aug 07
Congratulations to you poppoppop, your hard work has finally paid off. He should feel guilty for what he has put you through, but at least you have this sorted now. I am sure he will now realise you mean business when it comes down to getting his part of the daycare money.
Well done and good luck!!
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Yeah!! That is so exciting once you finally get the help (money) you need from him!! I can't believe they will take 50% of his wages, I didn't realize they would take that mush!! Don't get me wrong I am totally happy for you!! My ex is really behind and we have an apointment to review the amount he is suppose to pay every month in a few weeks. I am hoping they up his amount because he is making alot more than when the first order was drafted. Of course he hasn't paid for 3+ months now, he keeps quiting his job once he finds out they are going to garnish his wages. At least I know I will get his income tax refund if he doesn't start paying soon =)
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@TheCatzMeow1 (579)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I'm glad you're starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I never understood why it takes so long to for them to make someone pay child support.
You're right, he did this to himself. I don't see why he thinks you should feel sorry for him. He didn't care that you had to go through all that red tape so that your family could make it in this world. Now he can see how it feels to scrape by.
I wish you a great future.
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@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Well, it seems like things are finally moving, but they sure don't make it easy for people to better themselves. Once you get into school, you may find some more things that you are eligible for just by talking to other people and making some connections.
You never know what may come along, just keep listening and talking to and meeting people;
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
2 Aug 07
That is great news! I'm so glad the courts finally came through for you. I honestly laughed when I saw how much they're garnishing...serves him right! Now let's just hope he doesn't figure out a way to get out of it again. My ex may have been as dumb as a rock when it came to parenting but he was a genius at getting out of child support.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Good for you poppo. Glad things are coming your way now :):) Good luck and hopefully he will start to pay daycare so you won't need to go back to court :)
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@paidreader (5143)
• United States
1 Aug 07
I'm glad the courts came thru for you. I think parents should take responsibility for their children voluntarily, but when that doesn't happen, it's nice to know the courts can garnish their wages.
When my hubby was ordered to pay child support, we just filled out a few forms for the money to come right out of his check. It definately helps to stay current because the penalties can really add up.
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