What is your definition of a good father?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
August 1, 2007 9:09pm CST
I always said I had the best father in the world. He was always there for us, he was good to my mom, he took us on family outings and always had good times with us. He was an affectionate father in that we would always get a hug and kiss when he left for work in the morning and and when we did something good, especially at school.
Don't get me wrong we always knew when we did something wrong although it was very seldom but kids will be kids. He never laid a hand on us but we knew when we were in trouble and would be grounded.
He also could be very sensitive and I saw him cry for different reasons more than once. The time I remember most is when JFK got shot. Living in Boston, MA that was quite a shock for us and he really took it badly.
A good Dad isn't just a guy who works, pays the bills and shows up at the dinner table or in front of the tv with the kids. To me, all of the things my Dad did...spending time with us, showing affection, being able to teach us right from wrong but in a gentle way, showing his feelings and just being there for us.
What do you think a good Dad should be like?
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15 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I think a good father is always there for their child through good times and the bad times. I also think a good father teaches their child that they will always be there for them no matter what. I loved my dad very much and we did alot of things together before he passed away.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Yes. same here. My dad passed away in 1985 when I was 12 years old but I have alot of good memories of him and he was a very good dad to me. I miss him alot and i recently made some flower vases that I have to take and put on his grave also this month. I would like to put them on before memorial day.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
My Dad also passed away many years ago but he left me with a lot of wonderful memories that I will never forget. That is also a good Dad to me.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I don't know where you live but here in Boston Memorial Day was in May, unless your talking about next year. I always leave one red rose on my Dad's grave site.
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I don't think there is a proper definition of a good father. I mean, to each their own.
I guess the thing that makes a good parent is the loving and caring of all... their children, their significant other, their family. The ones who teach their children to be their own person and not to just believe their ways and be who they want them to be.
I think a parent needs to care for themself as much as their child. I think a parent needs to care for their partner as much as themselves and their child.
I think the most important thing is to let your child grow up knowing to think for themselves and believe in themselves and be who they want to be.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Personally I think there are a lot of men who need to think about what a good Dad is. There are thousands of fathers who are not good Dads all they are is biological fathers and there is quite a difference.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Excellent additions to my thoughts. Improving situations at home is especially a good trait in a good Dad.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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2 Aug 07
I think hubby is the ideal Daddy. He always drops what ever he is doing for the girls. He is great at listening to them and being fair. He is very supportive of them and never critical, but he will offer them advice when they ask. He takes pride in them. He has even cried with them when their hearts have been broken. He is a wonderful man with his children.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Girls always need their Dads and I think it's awesome that your hubby understand when they get their hearts broken. I think that makes for an exceptional Dad.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I think the most important qualifications of a good father are that he a)Loves his children, b)Love his wife and c)tries to the best he can for his children. There are so many different personality types, some fathers maybe more nurturing, some may be "best friends" to their kids, some maybe really good at discipline and educating, some may work there butts off to provide all the world goods the family needs. Whatever the style, as long as he fits the first three criteria.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
Of course those are great traits in a good Dad. And yes, there are different types of fathering. As long as he's a family man I think that's what constitutes a good Dad.
@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I think a lot of us have good fathers. I believe a good father is one who is forgiving and there for his children no matter what. A good father makes time for his children and provides the support the child needs: emotionally, financially, and so forth.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I would of loved a dad like that anyday. Not saying that my father was bad or anything, but he sure wasn't affectionate and was always working hard to put food on the table for us. He was a heavy drinker and smoker in his earlier days and that took a toll on him and sometimes on my mother and my brothers. He is very quiet and reserved but does have a temper especially after a night out drinking.
Since he got diabetes several years back he has stopped drinking and smoking altogether and has become a bit more affectionate and tell us he loves us when I speak to him on the phone, which is really surprising considering what he was like back in the day.
I think what you described are some great attributes for a good Dad.
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Sounds to me like you had a real gem of a father, ctry. Sadly, I do not have those memories of my father. I grew up without him. I was very lucky, though to have been raised by a wonderful great-uncle and great-aunt. They taught me the right things and showed me all the love and affection possible. My uncle was always my hero. He passed away in 1981 and I miss him still.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I think my dad was alot like yours. And between him and my mom I grew up in a house where love lived. They are both gone now and I really miss them, somedays more then others but there isn't a day when I don't think of them and the wonderful upbringing I had.
@bharatibajaj (133)
• India
2 Aug 07
Hi!Well you have a clear picture as to how a GOOD DAD should be.
Besides being the perfect GUIDE to us bestowing all the LOVE, one must not forget that he is also a human being & needs to be LOVED in return.The BOND is unique & unbreakable.I really miss my DAD, since I lost him a few years ago after my operation.He wanted to meet me very badly but unfortunately he bid me GOODBYE silently before I could reach him.Now I haveto live only with his SWEET MEMORIES which will linger till I die.
GOD BLESS!!
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@JBrulez (663)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
The definition of a good father for me is the one who is willing to sacrifice everything to make sure that his family is in good hands. He will work hard to ensure the future of his children at the same time spare some time having chats with his family.. He is also a disciplinarian and never compromise anything with regards to the way he disciplines his children..
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@randigayle (6)
• United States
2 Aug 07
I think that a good father is someone who is going to be there no matter what happens. For instance, I got pregnant at 17 with my beautiful 9 month old daughter. My father did not yell at more or give me a lecture, he was by my side every step of the way. This meant more to me than anything because every daughter wants her fathers love more than anything. My dad did not go on vactions with us because of work and he cannot get days off but he did however spend a lot of time with us. He would take me fishing, play games, and would always give me a kiss on the forehead before leaving for work. When I was little he would also get me ready for school and fix my hair and that is not something you see very often. My definition of a good father is someone who is going to accept you as you are and with whatever decisions you make, someone who does not care to show affection towards you, and someone who is willing to do whatever it takes to be a great father to their kids. I have seen many people have babies without the father being around and that makes me even more thankful that I know who my father is and that my daughter will grow up knowing hers. My husband does not spend a lot of time with my daughter like I want him to but there really is not much you can do with her at this age and he always wants to be 4-wheeling or on the boat. I'm sure when she gets older he will do more things with her. You spoke of your dad crying, this is something that I find great when it comes to a father. My dad tried to be tough and not cry around his kids, but there were times when I saw him do so and it made me feel better because I could comfot him.
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@puput_251 (128)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 07
I think mother is better than father becoz, she always gives me a everything the that time need.
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
2 Aug 07
lenapoo...I totally agree with you which is why I didn't respond to this response. Neither parent should be better than the other. They should share responsibilities of being a good parent equally.