Quite Irritating... Really...
By dolce_vita78
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
Philippines
August 1, 2007 11:13pm CST
i consider myself a good listener. when someone talks to me, i really listen and respond when i have to. of course, it's different when the person i am with dominates the discussion and talks most of the time without giving chance to anyone around him/her to butt in and share his/her ideas. but what really pisses me off is when the person i am talking to keeps looking at the wall clock nearby or at his/her wristwatch. well, if he/she is in a rush, he/she could tell me directly and not to keep checking the time and pretend to be listening...
how about you? how do you feel when this happens to you? what do you do?
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9 responses
@Healthkeep (996)
• Israel
2 Aug 07
I don't think it always means this person isn't interested in you. Many times it is a sign of nervousness - the person before you might be a shy person, and although he/she enjoyes your company, he/she does not feel as comfortable as you do. That is why this person is looking everywhere possible...
I believe some patience and keep talking to such a person might encourage him to be a little less shy, and therefore less sight-jumping...
On the other hand - there are many people who just take a look at the cloack/watch to cue they are in a hurry... your job is to get the cue.
I won't tell you what to do, I can only advice you not to get angry with people - it's bad for your blood pressure... ;)
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@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
3 Aug 07
thanks for the reminder but i am not angry at anyone... it's just a topic for discussion.
@cloud_kicker_32 (4635)
• United States
2 Aug 07
lol..i have been there soo many times to count..and i know its irritating as hell..but this is just what ya gotta do..they will never change because that is theer person and we just cant change them no matter what we do..so if you need to realy talk about something.,find a friend u can talk to..and leave the domin ones to tell there stories and sorrows..i know its no tfair..but dear..we just cant change em lol..
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
Most of the times I leave, because I know that it's just a total waste of time to listen to nonsense conversations. But if the discussion is really good, I will do my best to state my point and relay whatever opinions I have in my mind.
I always think that conversation is good when two or more people would share their ideas, I am not one of those hungry for attention people who just hugs all the limelight!LoL
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 Aug 07
If that happens to me then I usually stop talking about whatever I needed to talk to that person about and then let them go if they need to be somewhere. I would be irritated too because you would expect that person to listen to you intently without any distractions.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Aug 07
I am a good listener too. When my family and friends are talking to me, I listen to them carefully. But if I have to go, I will let them know.
@kyukyu (22)
• Australia
2 Aug 07
When the other wants to dominate the conversation, it's not much a conversation anymore. And that's when I pretend to take interest in them without really being all so interested. We are always interested in ourselves, and when somebody doesn't give us the opportunity to talk a bit about ourselves, we become disinterested. I try to avoid speaking with that person in the future if it can be avoided... if not, just pretend to go somewhere else. Really, I don't have the time for them if they don't have the time for me. And they're not worth getting worked up about so I don't think about it afterwards.
@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I'll ask her upfront..hey! are you in a hurry? Are you really listening? then will tell her, it's ok..go and do what you have to do I'll find someone who can listen. :)
and next time..do not make a mistake of talking to her again..lol
@mari_skye (1637)
• Philippines
2 Aug 07
I agree, and when this happens to me I would end the conversation right then and there. There is no use inconveniencing ourselves by continuing the farce of a conversation when clearly someone is raring to go somewhere else. This is absolutely rude. One thing that also bothers me is if the person keeps on texting while we are talking. Once of twice during the conversation, with my approval is tolerable. I try to be considerate and ignore my cell phone when I am in a conversation, unless there is something really important message that I am waiting. And even if it is important, I would ask permission from the other person out of courtesy. My friends and I are considerate when it comes to cell phones; but there are people who seem to lack this common courtesy.