Breakup via voicemail?

While I would not normally recomend breaking up via voice mail...in your situation, you really had no choice. It does sound as if this guy has another side to his personality and that you did the right thing.

I agree that him taking off to deal with his issues is not the way to go, I can understand if you have a heated discussion or even argument that you need to walk away to clear your head for a few hours or even a day, but a 5+ days is childish. Unfortunately he might have been forseeing the break up and thought not letting you get ahold of him prevents you from leaving him and maybe he's thinking by the time he resurfaces that you'll be happy and forget all about what he did or his issues. When in reality that is jus a big black X for him.

It is not your fault that you had to break up by voicemail. If he is avoiding you, and you need to make that closure in your life, then his hiding is not going to change you into what he thinks he needs. Go forward now, and hope he does too.

But it's not your fault. He wouldn't answer your calls. Basically he was asking for it if you ask me. What could've you have done. Did you want to do it? Or did his habit of not answering calls lead you to it. If it did need I say more that he ask for it. It doesn't matter to me how you break up with someone unless it does the job and settles it.

I've broken up with someone before but not via voicemail, lol. By the looks of it you shouldn't really feel bad though, consider this instead: if he wasn't picking up and you hadn't spoken for 5 days after the argument, perhaps it was his way of breaking up with you?

Hello, just my opinion. Why don't you wait until he come back then explain everything and say it all and tell him you don't like his behavior and that he should change? If it didn't work you can walk away by breaking up. There is one thing I don't understand about your post. You both were planning on getting married, but you realized that love might not be there. But if the love is not there, where come the planning of getting married? Well if no love, how come there is the planning? Maybe he's got the problems or maybe that is his bad habit. When you did felt bad for him it may simply means you still love him and you wanted him to change. Try to talk to him for the last attempt to solve the problems. If it don't work, I suggest you leave him immediately. Walk away immediately will be better by that time. Try to help solving his problems. But he need to solve it on his own. You just help. You both fall in love, the purpose at first was to help each other when one have problems. Try it the last time before walking away. Which will clearly declared you've given him chance. Things may not be what you think, but may be too. Try it. Without trying you won't see the truth. I've seen alot of things like this, some were correct acting. But some acted wrongly and regret their decision. Hope you acted the right way. Good Luck.

I've ended up a relationship before. This happened before I met my husband. I made an appointment to meet him and I actually declared the break in front of his face. I've waited for a month before I made the decision. I didn't want to rush into it, and when I found the suitable time and place I told him immediately about how I felt. Fortunately he was able to accept my decision, as both of us felt there was no use in continuing a relationship anymore. The love is not there. In your case, I understand what's making you do it that way. If I were in your place, I might be doing the same thing. Your ex is so immature, and he only thinks about himself. Your act of breaking off using a voicemail is one way to show him that he deserves that kind of treatment. Whatever it is, you're now free and I believe you must feel so relieved, isn't it? Now is the time for you to find your true love. I am happy for you. Good luck, my friend. May you find your true, true love!

honestly, i think that's a cowardly way of doing it. if you want to break up with someone, it's better to tell them directly. i'd personally prefer it that way.

I understand your reasoning but i dont condone it. I got a breakup through a text message once and it was the worst feeling ever... then wen i tried to call the dumper he wouldn't answer, it's kinda cowardish.. Im not saying its right or wrong i am just saying would you want it done to you?

Good luck at least you know his weakness...don't worry someone is really for you...

I have never broke up via voicemail but I have however done it by phone a number of times. I think the it's a heck of alot easier by phone than in person because you don;t have to see the persons face.

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