Has anyone had a best friend turn bad on them?

wow - 40 years! i don't think your best friend turned bad on you. since you got to know her and hung out with her for the last 40 years, i'm pretty sure there's an explaination. i'm a lover of romance novels and soap operas. perhaps your best friend knows something that you don't - or feels something terrible about your relationship with your hubby. she's still your best friend. maybe you can email her about how you feel about your situation and then ask her if there's something she'd like to tell you - and you won't get offended or mad about it, and that you'll be open-minded about it.. well, that's just a thought for me. i really hope this helps. God bless!

Its seems like she feels something for your husband??? Oh well If she doesnt want to talk to you right now, if she really is your bestfriend, then GIVE UP! I am not saying that you give up the friendship... Come what may.. Just let her know that you're heart is always open for her.. i mean maybe she doesnt have the courage to tell you whats the problem yet, but as I have said, if she is a reall bestfriend, then when things get good for her, she will be the one to come to you and ask for apology, and YOU as a friend must be there always waiting for her.. Dont let this happening break your friendship.. there must be somebody who will understand the situation and thats you... take care and keep smiling!!

best friend dosent do like this.if he does than he is not your best friend. and you should ignor him/her.

wow, that one must felt like tearing and reaping yor heart out... I can't imagine how i'll feel if my bestfriend would do that to me.. well, just give her time to think things over. I don't mean to say things against your friend but I think she's jealous or something. Let her know that no matter what happend she's still your bestfriend if she still refuses to talk..then maybe we should not be too pushy to let talk about this problem. I had once a bestfriend who turned her back on our friendship but I only tried thrice then after she kept refusing and announced to all of our friends her "new" bestfriend, I think she's childish and let her be..since she turned our back on our friendship, I turned back as well but let her know that if ever she runs out of somebody I'm still here waiting for her. I didn't hate her, I respect her rights...if she doesn't want me to be her bestfriend anymore then I won't push it. :) I hope things will work out fine for the two of you not like mine with my bestfriend..Don't forget to pray.. :)

Your problem is no way near the problems that I had with my best friend (a girl fried for over 20 years so to speak). I had even lost a huge fortune over it just to draw a line with her. whenever there were bad issues getting in your friendship with someone, even if you made it up, these bad issues always crop up sometime later to break you heart again. My advice, forget about it and move on.

I am sorry to hear from u.It is really a luck to have very good friend to help us.We have a quotation says "A FRIEND IN A NEED IS A FRIEND IN A DEED".Now a days it is not having any meaning.I came across a friend who is like this,but not with me but with my friend.She used my friend when she was in happiness and left her now becoz she is suffering from some disease and also her financial background went down.

If she said something that cryptic, maybe she knows things that you do not.Especially if she's acting so weird about explaining.Ask your husband about the situation and gauge what to do by his reaction.

It definitely sounds like there is a particular reason why she has said that your marriage should not have lasted. Do you have any idea what this could be? If not, as a friend of yours she owes it to you to tell you. You need to ask her exactly what it is she meant by that particular comment. The way things stand now it seems that you are more upset that she appears to be ignoring you than you are about the implications of that comment. Understandably you are upset about your best friend of so many years turning on you in this way, but if she is a real friend she will clarify what she meant. Stop calling her and chasing after her. Wait till you meet her as I am sure you will if you have friends and interests in common. In the meantime reflect on your relationship. Then ask her coldly and directly what exactly she meant? As I said, if she is any kind of a friend to you at all she will tell you. You deserve to know. Good luck with it.

Is it possible that your friend is suffering from some sort of problems that you may not know about? I have a very good friend who turned on me for no apparent reason. She just stopped speaking to me one day, and it was about three months before she ever spoke to me again. As it turned out, she is bipolar, and had gone off of her medications. She decided that she didn't need them, and never even realized what was going on. Suddenly she hated me for no reason, and wanted nothing to do with me. Once she got back on her medications she was fine again.

Well, let's see. If I've known some one for 40 years and consider them my best friend then I might take some stock in what they say. I don't think she would blurt it out to hurt you. She obviously had something to tell you and took the chance to do it. You dind't like what she said, and that's understandable. But maybe there is something in what she said and you don't see it. perhaps she knows something else that you don't. I don't want to jump to conclusions, but there must be something about your marriage that she sees or knows and now she's afraid to face you. give it time. Stop being so pushy on her. Let her know when she is ready to talk, you will be there to listen. Meanwhile, talk to your husband and ask why she would say such a thing.

Something sounds fishy...how was her behaviour before you told her about renewing vows?Maybe she heard something that's not true, regardless she should have confronted you if so.To keep sending flowers...no.I really question her comment towards you,it's something you should find out what does she mean????? Hope it all works out and it was something minor.

I really hope I am wrong here but when I went thru something similar to this, it turned out that my friend knew something about my hubby that I did not. She also avoided me and it took me much preserverance until she finally broke and talked to me. It was hard for her as she did not want to hurt me nor did she want to hurt my marriage. Im sure there could be other explanations. She is your best friend of 40 years...there is an explanation. There is something she is not telling you.

Well I guess all you can do is wait for her to open up to you and why she is feeling like this towards you and your husband after 40 years of friendship, I think that, thats a long time for your friend to throw away, especially if its not that important to hold back like that.... Maybe your friend is hiding something from you and just does'nt know how to tell you, cos she might be scared to lose a good friend, so rather then lose a friend, she will keep her distant from someone she has known for 40 long years..... I hope your friend comes around and can be honest with you instead of ignoring you. Good luck and godbless.

your recincilliation idea maybe not working....it is OK. Just hold on and no more searching for her and try to get any third party to act a smediator in your case as it might exacerbate the current situation. Do not bother what ever others saying, focus on your routine jobs....now you are losing energy....regardless wether your are offended or winner. Take as nobody making mistake in this case....gain your energy by talking to new friends and new life development issue..