Don't Wait Too Long...

I haven't seen my father in 13 years, haven't spoken to him in 10. I don't care to see him ever again. He turned his back on my sisters and me when he married my first step-mother, so that he could suck up to her kids. He treated them like they were better than us. But the worst thing he did... about 10 years ago, my sister was hospitalized because she was a danger to herself and others. In therapy they found that my sister suffers feelings of abandonment and needed to re-connect with her father. My mom offered to pay for my sister to visit my father, and even offered an extra $300 to pay for food and stuff for the 2 weeks my sister would have been visiting. He said no. Then he put his wife on the phone and stood by while she told my sister that she was absolutely not welcome in their home. Why? Because when my sister was 7 years old she called my step-monster a b!tch. My sister instead spent the 2 weeks with my aunt and grandmother (my father's mother and sister). My grandmother called my father and told him that if he was a real man he would drive down to visit while she was there. He didn't. The man I call Dad is my step-father.

Thanks for sharing your personal story. It's a good example of what happens when you wait to long to see someone you love. I haven't seen my own brother in years and we rarely talk. I hadn't seen my mom in two years, but she finally came up to see us when my son graduated high school. It was too long in between visits and I hope we can visit again soon because life is indeed, too short.

oh you are so right, two years ago I had a huge fight with my best friend, I was so hurt I didn't think I would ever speak to her again, she came to me to make up, I probably wouldn't have because of my stupid pride, a couple of weeks later we decised to drive up to visit a friend a three hour drive up and the same back we had a wonderful day, breakfast at a truck stop, lunch at our friends place then fish and chips for dinner on the way back we laughed all day, a week later her husband rang me to to say she had a massive heart attack, I often thank God that she came to me to make up, we never know how long we have, the saying I have said ever since to people having fights with loved ones id.."Tomorrow may never Come"....

That's awesome. I'm really glad this worked out so well for you. Thanks for the positive thoughts!

I think it all depends on why you haven't seen this person. You say "whatever the reason" and I disagree. Honestly my brother lives right next door to my parents and I usually avoid seeing him if I have to. He's not my brother, he's some stranger who just looks like my brother...I don't know where my brother went. Or like my best friend I haven't seen him in years but he passed away. So I can't. I mean I can go visit his grave stone and I do... but that's all I can do. I think there are reasons to not see someone again...and I can hold a grudge like nobodies business and I don't regret stuff. There's no use in regretting. I live peacefully in the decisions I've made.

Yeah,it's so true.In our life time maybe we will have so many experiences about that.And sometimes because of our crossness it may take regret to us.So "don't wait too long"is so good , don't wait too long maybe everything will be reverse.

u r absolutely ture. well glad dat u had fun. gl on the next visit.

That's true and how nice of you. There are people who was ruled by their hatred. They don't mind the feelings of others, simply because they don't wan't to have peace with them. You're an exmaple of a loving and forgiving child.

You're right. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of and miss my Mom and Dad. When they were alive, I traveled 400 miles to see them a couple of times a year, and talked to them on the phone once a week. Sometimes, they would come and stay with me for a few days. I wish I could have spent more time with them. Every time I said goodbye to them, I was afraid it would be the last time. I was lucky in that I got there in time to be with them during their last days. It was hard, but it was worth it.

im so hopefull for your next receiving your dad in your city i only hate that divorces happening in the world i suggest to ask your dad to live close you so u can see him more times

hello twoey :-) thank you for that very important reminder. you see in this fast-paced world, people tend to forget the valuable things in this world. i must admit, i am guilty of that sometimes too. i have lots of old friends and loved ones i have lost touch too. it sure would be nice to see and spend time with them again...before it's too late :-)

GOD bless you... no matter what happen,don't forget your relatives,because they will always be there,after you..