How much time do you spend at Cemetaries?

hi BlackBay..I just recently barried my babygirl who was born stillborn..I don't live near her grave but when I do go to my hometown to visit I will spend alot of time out there..Not hours on end but I can see why your father n law might...In the grieving process everyone handles it differently maybe for him it eases his pain to know her grave sight is taken care of..A place for his to reflect on the life they spent together...I'm sure it's something that helps him cope..this is just my opion..I know that when i'm in the area of my daughter I go there maybe 2 or more times a day out of the course of the whole time we are in town..hugzzz I hope this helps...

I do know several people who do this , Im not sure why but for some reason they feel closer to them at the cemetary, I know people who sit and talk to there loved ones there and get comfort by just being at there last resting place. I lost my mother in december last and she is buried about 5 miles away I do visit but i cant stay long as it really bothers me to know that she is in the ground and I just have this awfull feeling to dig her up and bring her home, Sometimes people just donr get over it and feel they want to be close to there loved one at the cemetary.

It seems to be somewhat strange for me. I never spent half an hour itself in the cemetary. Where what we can get for spending my time. This casw may be he is getting releaf by spending time with his beloved. I think he loves her deeply

Hello, I go to the cemetery usually once a week and will spend maybe 30 mins there during which time the grass is cut and the flowers changed or re-arranged. I find it hard to say that someone is doing something wrong with regard to visiting the cemetery, however I might say that 3-4 hours per day, is a little excessive. However, it would depend on what the 3-4 hours per day was spent doing, i mean if there is more than once grave to attend, then perhaps this is not totally unreasonable. Although I personally feel that it does sound a little too much, cemetaries by their very nature are peaceful places, perhaps he spends time sitting and reflecting on things, that would be fine. In some towns and cities it is very hard to find an outdoor space that is quiet where it is possible to have your own thoughts without being interupted by people walking dogs or children running about etc. If you feel it is becoming too much of an influence in his life or that he is neglecting other areas of his life by being there, maybe it would be appropriate to have a word with him.

i would say i only spend maybe 30 minutes at the cemetaries because the longer i stay there the more upset i get and it makes me feel so depressed all day long.so when i go visit someone dearly i put flowers and pay my repsects and then i have to leave.i do know people that spend alot of time there and i mean a few hours,i cant see doing that.

Hi, BlackBay. I don't know of anyone that is like this. I am sure that there are many people that are like this besides your father-in-law. I think that he really misses and loves your mother-in-law dearly. He cares for her so much. That is why he spends so many hours at her grave. I plan to take my kids to my mom's grave very soon. If I go, I will stay for about 15 to 20 minutes.

i respect your parents they help defending from global warming maybe this is little but imagine if all people do it ? the global warming will end up i respect helping the flowers/grass/trees they protect us always !

Once a year I go and bring my brother to two different cemetaries. We spend 2 hours at each. We trim around the stones. Pray a little. Do some weeding.

i am chinese.. for chinese we will going to the cemetaries only once in a year...there is on the mac of the chinese calender...