Feeling Lonely

Thsi is a common problem in many households..Work pressure has been increased to sucha an extent that people cant enjoy their family lives...According to me...dont force him to stay at home because it can hamper his career..better try to live double when he is with you....Keep yourself busy to finish boredom..still if you are feeling lonely..call him on his phone regularly...

I think your husband is just doing what he knows how to do. Work. My ex-husband did the same thing. He would go to work, I would beg him to take the night off and he never would. It drove us apart and he would give me the same reasons your husband does. I love you, I miss you, but I need to go in. I ended up having an affair after a couple of years and we got divorced. I could not handle the loneliness and I felt that he had forgotten about me. I lost control of the situation. I know how hard it is to see the kids cry and you feel lonely and hurt because he works more than he is home. You need to sit him down first chance and tell him how you feel, that if you both don't take the time to spend with each other now, when will you? Even if it is just one evening a month to look forward to, you at least have that to share together. I wish you the best of luck girlfriend!

many problem will come and go for suituation we should act according to that. any problem if it comes i felt to be lonely and stayed back at home and realise to over come.

Hi, I don't think that your being selfish for missing your husband, but maybe he just sees an opportunity to help make his families lives better and he really wants to do it.

I could understand every husbands who want the best for their families by earning money...but...I don't understand why they wouldn't want to give time for their families? maybe our approach to them sounds confrontational...or they are not in mood to talk about it...maybe we can consider how our communication can be effective in dealing with this kind of matter. i am happily married...(Thank God...) though, we'll be celebrating our 1st anniv only this sept...i daresay we are BOTH making this relationship work out the way we wanted it to...the only difference is maybe i cannot understand for a moment the feeling of having kids around because i don't have kids yet. that stage can still wait, for i am only 25 yrs old, my hubby 29. we're still saving money for at least the future expenses that may concern about raising kids. we see each other on a daily basis but not the way you think...he's working on a shifting schedule, morning and night. i am also working in regular office hours...when he's in morning shift, it's alright because i know that he'll be at home soon, but when he's in night shift, it's just so hard that i'm just so lonely without him...plus the fact that on weekends, he's still not with me... my solution, if there's only a few hours or even minutes available for me to spend time with him before he leave for work or sleep after work, i make sure we talk, ask about his work, hug and kiss him even though i have some important things to attend to at home. in that way, as they say, we're still keeping our love burning....however, this will only work if your hubby wants to do it...if not, and you did everything you can, then the problem is not yours....all the same...TRY...

I know the feeling. My husband occasionally works two jobs. I'd say it's just temporary. He probably misses you and the kids too. I know mine does and when he can't take it anymore and feels like his mission has been accomplished at the same time, I can't get rid of him! lol I'd say to try to be patient. I know that's easier said than done but I think this type of thing is temporary especially when you are fine with money. Maybe he's trying to do something big for you guys that you don't know about?

you are not being selfish..i understand your need in this situation.My gf worked for a time consuming job that driven me nuts and i miss her badly too.It is really difficult to stop one from doing what they had already decided.So what i did was to wait for her to have a change of mind and visit her during her break time.

I know exactly how your feeling, when my son was born almost 7 yrs ago my husband picked up a 2nd job and worked both jobs up until last summer he would go to his first job form 6am-4pm and then his 2nd from 6pm-11pm plus saturday during the day and i got very very lonely and then my 2nd child came along and i got even lonlier having to be both mom and dad but at the same time i didnt realize he too was lonely and sad he was missing out on all the important milestones in his children's life just so we could make rent and utilites and eat every week. so no your not selfish to feel lonely and say you want him home but also know although how badly he wants to be home hes at work sad and miserable as well but hes doing it because he knows hes providing for you and his kids. maybe he could cut back on the week days and do like every other day my hubby never ended up doing that we just made do with our sundays until we finally caught a brake 6yrs later and he found a great paying job thats still demanding just not as demanding, hang in there if you need to vent im here i know how your feeling believe me!!! best of luck