Is marriage for you and would you do it agian if the first time failed?

This is a somewhat unusual situation because usually it is the woman who is pushing for a marriage, not the man. I personally like being married and have been married about 40 years. If your question had come up say 20 years ago, then I would have said, sure, I would risk it again. Now I don't think so, because unless you are planning to have children together, I don't see any valid reason to have to marry, unless one person or the other hopes to achieve financial gain from the other. I have great respect for nagging feelings, too, and think that they should be respected. It is plain to see why a new partner would be eager for you to go ahead and divorce the other fellow, but am curious as to why he would want you to hurry up and remarry. Do you live in a community where just living together is frowned upon, or where it would negatively impact his opportunity to advance in his career? There must be some reason why he wants to marry you. If it is a good enough reason, then why not? But if it is a self-serving reason, that will be hard to explain. The answer to your question seems to me to be the same answer given to the question as to the best way to solve a crime...Follow the money.

I was married for six years and then divorced. I re-married a few years later. I admit it might not have been the best thing for me to do, but I had children and needed a stable home. I also believe God has a plan for us all and brought me and my current husband together for a reason. We were both forced to make changes that have benefited our lives and our family. However, I do think that after being in one marriage you have to analyze that first marriage and figure out what went wrong to ensure it isn't likely to happen again. My first husband was abusive. I know I would never EVER let a guy treat me like that again. My now-husband got really mad at me and in my face once and I warned him not to lay a finger on me. That was back when he was drinking a lot. And this is the mistake I have made twice - marrying drinkers. If this marriage were not to make it, I would have to make pretty darn sure I didn't make the same mistake again. Now that I am older, more mature, have experienced a lot more, I believe I know how I would go about finding the right mate the next time around (if there were a next time). But like I said, I believe God brought us together for a reason and this marriage will not end. And before you ask if I thought God brought me and my first husband together for a reason I will tell you "NO!". There were several attempts made by a higher power to prevent us from getting married and I just didn't listen. I was young and immature. I know better now.

I thought marriage wasn't for me for a long time, and I still think that marriage to anyone that wasn't willing to make their own vows and create a unique marriage isn't for me. The only way my partner talked me into marrying him was by telling me that our marriage would be its own thing, and therefore not affected by or related to anything marriage had been before or had been misused for. So while I won't say I wouldn't get married again if this one didn't work out, I will say that I would have to find someone else who had the same opinion about relationship as I do, and that believed in creating your own rules for your marriage instead of being part of the "institution of marriage", which after all has a pretty bloody track record.

No, I really do not think I will be able to marry again. I got married at the age of 17, and stayed married for 21 yearsI thought we were in love, but I was really to young to know what love was all about.He was very insecure and moved me 1,000 miles away from my family, I missed them so very much. We finally had 2 children,we both had good jobs here in Arkasas, so now I am stuck here.I have been divrced for over 17 years, been in 2 long term relationships, the first was very abusive, he too was insecure and jealous,overbearing.I got out of this relationship 9 years ago. The partner I am now with is very nice, but I do not think I can ever really trust a man enough to say "I do " again.I see no need in getting married, my children are grown, I want no more.I do not even think I want to live with a man again.Everytime a man was pushing me into marrying him, it was for his benifit.

Marriage is honourable. The fact that the first one failed does not necessarily mean that the next one will fail too. Please you will be happier and more respected if you get married again just cast-away fear and the past.

I mean you just give yourself a second chance, and maybe if you follow your heart, you´ll find the love and hapiness you were looking for. : )

Marriage is not for everyone. I am married, and it's good for me. I was divorced and remarried. But, at this age, if I outlived my husband of 30 years, marriage is something I would not consider, evern though I had a wonderful marriage. You must go with your own feelings, and not fears. Good luck sugar.

It depends. If I have found a very good guy, and I believe he is not an imposter, I would definitely marry him. Having a relationship for six years already, I am sure you have spotted his weaknesses, know his true color inside and out. But if you think that he will change after the marriage, maybe you should give your thought a consideration. There must be a reason why you feel this guy will change. So believe in what your heart says. However if you are not sure, you can test him. Test him in the areas that you feel he will change, or show his true color. By doing this, you can settle your worry about him changing after marriage. For example you can test him on a real life situation, such as if you are sick, what would he do? Would he be willing to take a day off from work just to send you to the clinic. Or is he willing to prepare a bowl of hot soup for you to eat if you are not well? Think the areas that you want most to test him.

When we get failed in examinations, defenitely we will try next time to pass it out. But in the case of life we have to take more important to take a secaond step. Try to understand the person whom you are like to marry. Tell him and try to belive him what you are expecting from that person and keep update all the problems and view points so that he can also deside whether it is necessary ornot. Mind you the second one should be long lasting.

Well, I've never been married or divorced so my opinion is still very idealistic. Yes, it is for me. I don't require it of myself, but I'm certainly open to the possibility. I can't imagine being in love and not thinking about marrying that person. I always think about marriage whenever I'm in love.

I am still a full time student, still young and am not married yet. So at the moment, I don't see why not. But the perception that I can gather is that most people in a failed marriage, they don't want to ever get married again due to the fear that it will happen again. I think it is best to listen to your heart and do what you think is best for both yourself and your partner. After all, there are some cases of couples living happily without ever being married, and even having children along the way. Just as well, there are cases where people have lived happily lives even after being in a few different marriages. If you and your partner are really getting along well, and everything is going well, then being marriage shouldn't change much at all. It is not a sign to be more responsible or change your lifestyle. It should always and already by happening.

Btw, do think marriage will change a relationship? Well, yes it will be come attached to each other. But actually what changes the relationship is not the marriage, but how you run it, how you strengthen it. You can also ruin a relationship without marriage if you dont know how to amnage it also. If you can manage your relationship in your marriage, I think you will be the happiest person to be. But if you cant do that, so it will be the same as first one. You have to learn from you failure marriage before, so it wont happen again in the future. If you feel not ready to do it, just give time until you are ready and sure. Coz I will do the same thing as well.

Marriage is always based upon mutual understanding..If the proper understanding is not there, then there comes the partition...so if you want to for another marriage after a break up..so whats the issue..there is no harm in it but again you have to know the person very well before getting married

I haven't married because i am still a student,but i know that the one you want to marry should be your love.Don't be afraid to marry again as long as your love him or her.It is a way to be responsible of yourself. Be brave! Best wishes!

Right now I could not say if I will marry again. Because I am very much married for almost 6 years now. And I am happy and contented the way my married life is going. I will just cross the bridge when I get there.