Does absence really makes the heart grow fonder?

its happens generally so for as my thinking as concern. its all depends on you and your partner. i am not married but i know that type of situation. when you hope more then your partner can do for you then that happens. i don't thing you have to make little space to solve this problem, i am not a psychologist but i have a solution for you both. don't hope a lot regarding your partner, and think how can you make your relationship batter everyday. that things applicable for your husband also. tell me i am write or wrong..

Hey kristys. I did that too. I went to my mom with my son and stayed with her for almost a week. Well, it was actually my way of cooling off my anger. I usually go to my mom's house after an argument with my husband. I really can't stand to stay inside our house with him after a really bad argument with him. But the weird thing is, after only a day of being away from him, I wanted to go back home and see him. Weird!!!!I even scold myself for feeling that way. I mean, where is my pride? But as usual, my heart wins over and things are back to normal. I don't understand why for some couples like us, needs time off from each other. Why there are some who can't stand to be away from each other even for a short time?

I've often wondered if it's because my husband and I got married when we were a little older and we each had lived on our own for quite a few years.

You're absolutely right about that. That's exactly how I feel when I get to miss him. There is a tendency for me to feel so irritated that I forget for a moment that I do love him. We sometimes get to a point wherein we have an argument over silly little things. Well, in his point of view, I'm the only one who starts the argument. But my point is, every couple does need some time of their own to be able to think back of the many reasons why they are together in their first place. Whenever we have an argument, I go straight to my moms' with my son, and stay with her for a few days. She usually tells me to not do that leaving thing but instead I should talk to my husband about the problems that we're having. But the thing is, he refuses to talk to me. He prefers to let things cool down and hopes that everything would be forgotten. Doing the leaving thing helped me in more ways than I could ever imagine. Being away from him for awhile helps me to recall why I married him in the first place. I mean, there is a major reason why I agreed to marry him and be with him for the rest of my life. And when I get to think back on those things, I start missing him and thinking that we'd be alright eventually. I just need some time away to think and remind myself.

It sounds as though you have things figured out and can adapt to the circumstances accordingly. I think people just get on each others nerves at times. To me it is not so much that it happens...but that we can work around it without saying or doing things we'd regret because the frustrations have been allowed to build up. Sometimes just the sameness of things can be annoying. Whenever my hubby or I feels stifled or housebound we try to make a point of doing something different. Good luck in creating the right balance of 'spaces and togetherness!' Warm regards until we chat again.

I agree with you that being away from each other for a while keeps the relationship fresh. I'm not sure if this works for other couples but in my relationship with my husband, we really need some time off from each other. Being inside the house with him for days really isn't healthy. There are things he does that ticks me off and vise versa. We usually find ourselves bickering over silly things. And I think being away from our partners makes us more appreciative that somehow they still matter to us. That being away from each other makes us feel incomplete. That's how I feel. I usually get frustrated at him over whatever marital spats, but the moment that he goes away, I feel that I'm not whole.

You're still feeling the excitement of finding your true love.^_^ But I guess, it differs for every one of us.

Yes, the excitement remains and if we want to keep up the marriage, some what of excitement as always needed too isnt it, i understand there are exceptions, but its not always like that, we also have our share of arguments and fights, well, that adds the spice to life too isnt it, have a nice day :)

Love can sometimes be weird. Maybe with that guy, he doesn't need to be with his wife all the time. Sometimes there are couples who truly love each other, but they benefit the most when they are not constantly with each other.

Being away from our respective partners for sometime allows each one of us to think really deep and learn to appreciate how our partners matter in our lives. Whenever I have an argument with my husband, it's only normal to feel angry and so frustrated. That there are times that I wonder if I still love him. But whenever we have to be away from each other, I can't help but realize for myself that no matter how things get ugly between us, the truth is, he's a part of my life now. And I still want him to be a part of me.