Are you hesitant when giving out your name?

United States
August 3, 2007 3:33pm CST
I work in an office, and someone just called asking who called her. So I asked for her name so I can go find out who called her but she would not give me her name, she would just ask who called her again. Me: "...but ma'am I can't find out who called you without your name. This is an office and many calls are placed here." Her: *click* I don't see the wrong in just giving a name, it's not like anyone can go stalk a person with just a random first name that most probably a ton of other people have. Are you like this? Or is there any reason for this that I'm just missing?
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@jlara_gtr34 (3491)
• Philippines
4 Aug 07
hi there! ;0 yes, im kinda hesitant because my name is just too long! ;p honestly! i mean, i wont go in saying them here, but just to give you an idea, i have four names. and that doesnt include my last name. lolz. thank you and good day! :)
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• United States
4 Aug 07
LOL. I sorta feel you. I'm Hispanic, so I have four names as well. Hah! But two names (first and middle) and two last names. But no on the phone I was just asking the woman for her first name not her entire name. I wouldn't give all of that out to a random person on the phone either, if that was the case! Lol.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
3 Aug 07
Sometimes I am hesitant at giving out my name too..under the circumstances you described I would have given my name as I was the one making the call! If I get a call and I don't know who it is, and they are just calling a number dialed at random or for other purposes I do not like giving out info on the phone.
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• United States
3 Aug 07
Oh definitely, that's different. I hate it when someone calls me and then asks for my name. I usually ask "who are you looking for?" I agree I would be hesitant then, since the person has my number somehow and I don't know who they are. Hmm, I guess different situations change my feelings on the matter. Lol.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I don't star69 ppl but I have had ppl call and ask "who's this?" and I ask well who are you trying to reach?...they generally tell me and then I can tell them they have the wrong number. I did have one time with my ex that he called from a friends house, I needed to talk to him and I wasn't sure if he was still there so I star69'd and a woman answered. I asked for my ex's friend and she went commando on me demanding to know who I was and why I was calling. I thought she was going to crawl through the phone and rip my throat out...SCARY!! When she took a breath in yelling at me, I managed to get in who I was and why I was calling...the ex had just left while she was yelling. She didn't apologize or anything just said "He already left!" and hung up. I thought OMG, she's a poster woman for why men divorce some women. !!HAPPY EASTER!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@youless (112586)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Aug 07
No, I don't mind telling my name in this situation. I think it's very necessary to tell people who you are when you are at work.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
8 Aug 07
Hello Melody, If I called and someone asked me what is my name, I will just tell him my name without hesitant. But if someone called and started the conversation with, "What is your name?", I feel a bit hesitant to tell him my name. At least, he has to greet me first, tell me his name and what is the reason he is calling the number. I don't mind giving him my name after that *smiles*
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@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
Wow, I think that this woman probably had some issues. In this case, I would also call up enquiring who had called me, but I would be more than willing to give my name if it meant that they could track down the call records, so to speak. If somebody calls me and immediately asks who I am, I am more reluctant, as I have no desire to let a random caller know my identity. Online, I also generally use pseudonyms, but in the right circumstance, to the 'right' people, I have no quams sharing my first name. =D
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
6 Aug 07
I am wary because I am at home, but when I worked in an office, there was one lady in shipping, and a few in the office, one being an account, and the other a receptionist, so you had to know their first names to know who to talk to. Before that, I worked at a Jewelers, and I was up in the office section, so the same method applied. However in your own house, it is a different story because someone who has it in for you and know you, may ask a stranger to call you and find out who you are. So the only time I would give out my first name is if I am at work and there are more there than me.