Was I wrong?

No, You were not wrong to do what you did..You were honest about your feelings..I am so sorry for your loss and I would think it would be very hard to be around little ones so soon...It is a very difficult time for you right now and you have every right to feel the way you do..I am sure she will understand...

No you were not wrong. We all deal with our grief in different ways. I have a friend who lost her first child just prior to my giving birth to my 3rd. She could not be around me or share my joy. I understood completely as I am sure this mother did. Losing a child has got to be one of the greatest losses a person can face.

No you were not wrong. Everyone deals with loss in different ways. You shouldn;t feel bad about this it is completely understandable. I am really sorry to hear this and I hope you get feelin better soon hun Hugs

No I don't think you were wrong. You are still hurting and I am sure your friend understands that, at least she should have any ways. When I lost my father when I was 12, I hated school. We would be getting ready for Mother's day and since Father's Day was in the summer, our class would make projects for both Mom and Dad. Like poems, shirts, art and what have you. I would be hurt and jealous of the other children who could do those things for their Dad. So I wouldn't go to school for the whole week until it was over. It's just a way of dealing with things. A time will come you will be able to enjoy your friends baby pictures as well as their babies, just that time isn't right now. You have to heal first and that is completely understandable.

No, it was not wrong. You weren't rude. You told her flat out why you didn't want to look at them. If she had been offended, it would have been her fault, not yours.

You weren't wrong sweety - you know you weren't! I am sure that anyone would understand that you are still grieving and that it would hurt too much for you to see another womans newborn when your own arms were still aching to feel the weight of your own beautiful daughter in them! I keep you in my heart and prayers sweety and I know that one day soon you will feel stronger but at the moment you have to concentrate on getting through your pain! Hugs sweety! xxx

Sweetheart everyone deals different with things like that so do not beat yourself up over it as this Person should have understood your reasons Hugs to you

No, you were not wrong at all! Actually, I think you handled it much better then I would have. I hope she understood, if she didn't then she has serious issues! Hang in there sweetie!

I know this must be painful and difficult for you sweety but I think you need to let go. You are dwelling far too much on your infant daughter who has passed away. She is somewhere else and cannot return. Your energy would be better spent on the joy of the living. I think you need to spend some time with newborns and hold them because there is nothing like that feeling. You really need to move forward now. I wish you joy and peace.

You weren't wrong. You still hurt and your friend will understand. Was it a miscarriage or was she still born? In time it will hurt a little less. I cannot express the sorrow I feel for your loss, but my eyes are starting to well up with tears.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, BlueAngelRS, and I can understand completely why you wouldn't feel up to viewing photos like this. I'm sure this lady understood too. Please don't let your first impressions of myLot be coloured by certain people, as there are so many wonderful 'friends' on this site. I'm still hoping that things will improve around here, regarding some things, for the good of all.

Honestly hun I don't think that was wrong of you at all. I ran into her a little while after you did and she asked me if I wanted to see her baby too! I told her that we had shopping to do at Walmart and we might come up to see her at the Hospital after. We didn't end up going because I honestly don't think I was ready either. If I wasn't ready I could only imagine how not ready you would be! Everyone heals in their own way and in their own time hun.

Hi BlueAngelIRS! That acquaintance of yours will surely understand...You have explained it to her about your baby why you can't look at her new baby pics. Nothing wrong with that for anybody would understand what you're going through. My heart really goes out for you, blueangel. Take care of yourself and God bless. :)

I'm really sorry to hear that you lost your baby.It's miserable.I hope that you will be brave enough to overcome the misery soon and to cherish other precious things in your lives. Just as a poet says :"If you shed tears when you miss the sun, you will miss the stars."

I don't think anyone would blame you for your feelings and if the did, who cares? I cannot say I know how it feels to have lost a child, but I do remember longing for a child of my own and the emptiness I felt. Even though one child could never replace another, I am certain that in time your pain will heal and perhaps you'll be blessed with a little one again. God Bless you and your family.