Should I Give Him Another Chance?

Only you can answer the question as to whether or not to give him another chance. But the fact of the matter is - everytime we fall in love we put our heart on the line. Sometimes it gets trampled on. But one day, it won't. But, that said..... If it were me, I wouldn't take him back. He had his chance, and he blew it. He hurt you, whetehr it was intentional or not. For all you know, his reasons for coming back could simply be he can't find anyone else, and doesn't want to be alone. I try to live my life by the phase 'No man is ever worth your tears. And the one who is, will never make you cry.' Take care of yourself, and good luck with your decision!

Hi, well i would sugest that you do whatever your heart tells you to. The more people you ask, the more confused and jumbled you will get as each one has their own opinions on this and the reasons can be various too, and well as per me i feel that if you are very fond of him and havent still got over him, no harm giving it another chance but yes on the back of your moind remain prepared for the worse, so that you arent hurt and if you have moved ahead oin your life without him, then dont turn and look back, let bygones be bygnes and you will find many others too.

cecillecarmela said: "Can you also help me how to find out if a guy is really serious and has pure intentions??" Does his actions back up his words...? If a person's actions back up their words, there's a chance they are trustworthy. I also look for consistency. A person that wavers in words and behavior are far less likely to be serious or trustworthy. A person that is serious will show respect to your feelings and do everything to prove their intentions are pure. I can't tell you whether to give him a second chance, but my suggestion would be to go SLOW, as in not getting into a "relationship". Learn more about him. Learn "why" he wants another chance. Learn more about yourself and the reasons you would want this person in your life again. You don't have to say yes to a relationship at this point. You don't have to say no. You have the option of something in the middle - getting to know him and his intentions better before there is an "us".

Well, first and foremost, how can we help you if you don't tell us what he did in the first place? But if that's somewhat private then maybe you could ask yourself this: Do you trust him? Do you see sincerity in his heart? Only you could tell really, it's your decision. But as tip, don't give so much if you've only been together for quite a few times. Reserve your heart for someone who you think you could grow old with. Good luck! Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you get -- forrest gump =)

May I know what are the "things" he did to you? I think it will depend on that "thing" whether you should give him a chance or not.

to love somebody makes us vulnerable to hurts. follow your heart but always have the boundary as to how much of yourself you give. give him another chance. love is sweeter the second time around. but after this chance, dont be fooled again. as the saying goes, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

Do not take his word for it. If he has hurt you once before, he will most likely do it again. I would not do it if I were you.

To give another chances to the unserious guy is a very big mistake,when we know he will be repeat his mistake anymore! But not to give another chance ( the last one) to the good guy just because a small mistake is asad story.You will lose all the chance to live with your life partner! I suggest,you give him a last chance...not just because i'm a man but i doesn't want to see some love relationship break just because of a small problem....GIve him the super last chances!

You haven't mentioned how you brokeup. One thing i can say is to follow your heart!.Don't do the other with one thing in mind!.But before that observe these things!. He feels shy when ever he sees you-he's serious to bring back things to normal.He's having a guilty feeling and he needs you!. He tries to get physical with you-don't go near him!.He needs you as a s**-toy!.He sees you as someone who can give him timely pleasure!. He talks to you quite often,says hi,continue talking to you even when you don't respond-yeah he's serious.He atleast wants you as a freind!.

Hi Cecille! Everybody deserves a second chance, but hurting you again and again is not anymore acceptable. If this happens maybe he doesn't deserve another chance. A guy is sincere if he does all the things and effort to make a change on himself for the purpose of pleasing you, getting on the right track to get closer to your heart. You will know for yourself his sincerity.

It is a dilemma in deed .Just as someone ask you"if there are two people,one love you but you don't love him,and the other is the one you love him but don't love you.For these two people who is you choice?" For me, maybe i will choose the third one. every all know thatk,if the guy who you said in you discussions is really love you and will change himself so he cann't hurt you again ,and,you still love him .And the answer is you should give him a chance.But actually we cann't sure the thing is ture or not,so the answer will be unsure.whether or no the decisice answer is in your hand.Good luck and good choice.

Do you love him?This is the problem.If you say yes,you can give him the chance.But you'd better let him do something to prove that he love you. If he hurt you again,you must never give him the chance any more.

Let's see. I was with a guy for two years who I thought was serious. I wanted to settled down. We talked about it and I thought it was going to happen. Never did. I met another guy and I was so hurt by the first guy that I told the new guy I really like you and am not trying to get hurt again. Either your in this or not. Well after knowing him for about three months he proposed. He had serious intentions. If a guy is just saying what he going to do and never does it he isn't serious.

If he consistently hurt you and seems to be a repeat offender, don't fall for the please baby please routine. Run like the wind and get on with your life. It's okay to be in love, but don't be nobody's fool. If you do, they will quickly learn how to manipulate you.

There are somethings... for me... that should be considered by a woman to be able to see whether the guy is honest... If he respect you as a woman and as person. He should not insist anything to you,he should not force you to some decision making. If he is tempted ones to do bad things to you he can do it again... Investigate if you are skeptical, and always be suspicious, especially if he have not prove anything to you... Ask yourself over and over again, listen to your heart then maybe the answer will be there... Good luck

well , but no one can exactly give answer of your question. its up to you, how much he is still in your heart and that soft part of your can permit you to not giving him any chance... here a proverb we use for love " jo laut ke aa jaye wahin pyaar hota hai " means "who came return to you from any where that is your love " so make decision from your heart .....

I'll go by the reasons you relayed here first, as I believe you don't want to get hurt so instead you'll hurt another one(?). Because what you said here is somewhat incomplete, we don't know why and what is the reason you haven't had a talk for quite a while. Well I guess you have to take a deep thinking about this, it is the two of you who will be the one's to setle this problems of yours. But, if ever things turn to worst, I suggest that you stop communicating with him and start living your own life. Matters of the heart are very sensitive to deal with, but you also have to consider yourself and think for your future. as they say, the night is still young and there's alot more to enjoy in life. So make the best from it, you are still young to think of things that are far more important..

Hi there, coming from the male point of view here. Well, you know, if he hasn't spoken to you for 2 months, and during that time, he did that things that are unacceptable to you, I would say, let sleeping dogs lie.....if he's willing to do these things to you while you are not even talking, and things were bad the first time around, odds are that he'll do it again. I've seen it a few times, pull on the ol' heartstrings to get back into your life, everything will be fine for a while until the next time a bee gets in his bonnet. Basically, wolf in sheeps clothing is still a wolf. My advice would be of course to make up your own mind. But to someone looking in from the outside, it doesn't seem liek a very good idea to me. If you want a guy to lay his heart on the line, be forward and tell him straight up.....things are going to be this way....if he can't handle that, then he is obviously not willing to make a solid commitment to you right? If he avoids topics or seems shifty on certain questions, he's likely hiding something. Make sure can look you in the eyes when he is telling you his feelings. With my wife and I (we've been together 14 years now) honesty, openess and above communication is essential. Otherwise, it'll never work. You lay out a condition to being with you, that is dependant upon him doing exactly what he said he was going to, then you've found truth, if he's reluctant or unwilling to prove himself to you, then you know your truth.

NO! He just had a FREE TICKET to run around and do as he pleased for 2 months. WHAT will he be like if married to him? What, QUIT when the going got rough? Choose WISELY; remember a man must possess qualities other than being "nice to me". They MUST be hard workers to support your lives; able to compromise when issues are being discussed; loving about issues that are NOT about him; and mostly RESPECT you at all times AND VICE VERSA. Pure intensions are MUCH better noticed when DONE and not said.

as you said,this is really difficult to have a decision,but I think you can refuse him for what he had done to you if you were really hurt last time. In my opinion, if I were you,even though I love him, and can forgive him for the moment, I will remember this hurt forever, which will make my heart in trouble in my whole life. but this is your trouble,maybe you can think about it more, and decide whether you can accept him with the hurt....