a friend helping a friend

A man should get his own place to work out his problems. Letting him cry on your shoulder and stay with you is asking for trouble. No matter how good your intentions are, the closeness and intimacy of sharing a home, meals, and conversation makes for temptation that few can resist. I hope the best for you and all involved.

Just forget about them....relief yourself by concentrating on your cyberfriends here. In here we never quarrel, just argue on certain topic. Even though we never meet each other at outdoor but very close deeply in our heart.

How ironic that you left out that you yourself have slept with the friend who is staying with you. I have not slept with this friend and if he dosnt want to answer my questions he dosnt have to he could tell me himself that it is none of my business but he dosnt. That is his choice not yours. I have not been trying to get with the person who is staying with you. Plus I never said it was going to be with this friend all I said was if I was going to be accused of cheating and having it drilled into my head then I might as well do it that way there is a real reason, I never specified who. You are not his only friend. I have known him alot longer than you have, I have a right to confort him just as much as you do in his time of need. Remember you are the one who dated the guy, got pregnant saposidely lost the baby and then dident even dump him properly you just took off without even saying good bye. Your intentions may be true but sleeping with the very guy who is staying with you, giving him a pet name like "Hun" and kissing him when ever you are or you think NO one is looking is still wrong. You can call me a liar but I am not the one who is falling in love with the friend that is staying with me. You have openly admited to me and him many times that you have fallen in love with him. You want to show his wife my discussions that is fine, but you better make shure you show her your discussions as well.

I think you are too involved in this and will not get any thanks from anybody in the end. You are not this man's mother, he is not a child so he should tell your neighbour himself to leave him alone because he is working things out with his wife. Let the guy handle his own affairs. Why are you even answering her questions. As far as letting your friend's husband stay with you until they work things out I think he should rent a room some place neutral. A room with a family that he does not know or in a rooming house. By lending him an ear and allowing him to talk to you about his marital problems you are drawn into their situation and if things do not work out you have to choose sides eventually. You ask if we think that you are destroying this marriage? No, I don't think so but your involvement however kind it is, is not helping them to resolve their problems. This man has to learn to handle his own problems and make his own decisions like a grown up adult human being.

Try your best not to interfer with people's family matter. Can advise but still let thye person decide, do not suggest a decision. You never know how deep the problem is. Only they themselves know.