I thought i was going to dinner with my guy friend 2day but i thought wrong.

Gee, have a heart, disvachic! Let the poor guy in. You know that guys are notorious for being forgetful, LOL. If it was anything else he probably wouldn't have shown up at all. Be nice.

So what Happen? Did you let him in! I thought it was funny the way you said it, but It isn't funny, I would be mad too! Maybe he did forget.

I agree. Guys are forgetful. At least he showed up at your place. You could have gone the whole evening wondering where the heck he was. That would get you more steamed. Let the guy in and tell him what he did wrong. He obviously doesn't know and he's not going to if you don't tell him.

girl that mess has happen to the best of us honey. you get all dressed up to go out for a nice dinner and either he wants to come to your house and lump up your couch or he want you to come to his and cook you some nasty mess to get in your pants. with that oh come to my place let me change crap!! thank goodness i don't have to deal with that any more. i got a man who can't cooks and is lumping up my couch all the time!! LMAO LOL LOL just kidding honey

Oh My Gosh, I thought he was the one that came up with the idea of taking you out to dinner? and now he is asking you "what did he do wrong" *rrrreeeeeooooowwwww* LOL So sorry to hear that disvachic as I am sure you were soooo looking forward to the dinner tonight. Let him in and tell him how dissapointed you were OR text the message to him LOL Aargh he would be in the doghouse for a while if it was my husband LOL

Oh, give him a break, he didn't stand you up, he did show up. He simply made have forgotten what you had planned with him. Sounds like a simple miscommunication. Be good to your man and he will be good to you.

I say teach his dumm A$$ a lesson. Let him sit out there and wonder. He asked to take you out and then comes over to sit in his work clothes. He should have said that in the first place. You have every right to be peed off with him. I bet he doesn't ever make that mistake again. Men have to be trained and sometimes it takes a long time. I read where you said he is just a friend, even if he is, he still has to be trained. Men can be stupid sometimes, hehehehe. Good luck.

Well, maybe his idea of a Date and your idea of a date could be something different, and maybe he is one that does not dress up. Since this is a month old now, did you work out your differences with this guy, or are you dating someone else or what?

Hahahaha Sweetie it sounds like you 2 have got the wires crossed or he has forgotten lol I can see I am a bit late on this one but I do hope you let him and told him of lol I am sorry but I had to laugh as I can just imagine his Face lol when you throw him out and he has no clue what he has done wrong Oh Sweetie I hope you got this sorted lol

sorry to hear about what happened disvachic. u made me laugh when u said he came over lookin like he been workin on the raildroad. so what happened did u let hom in??? did u give him the business???

Guys are sometimes idiots (girls are too to be honest...I'm not a guy hater really...I hate girls just as much!) I'd say hang out with him still... it's always nice to have company.

it sounds to me like he did seriously forget your date. Yes, I would let him in and talk it over. I dated a man that was forever doing stuff like this. He didn't mean to...he just would sometimes forget. ONce he asked me to cook him a home-cooked meal. I invited him over for dinner and spent the day purchasing and preparing the meal. He rolled in about 10pm and was not at all hungry. He'd eaten at mcdonalds! Mad? oh yes. He felt terrible. Stay mad? no...I forget things too. I say ...forgive him.

i can totally sympathize with you. on july 4th my boyfriend told me we were going to watch the fireworks together then to dinner and he pulls up to my house at 10 pm..mind you the fireworks were over and then had the nerve to ask me what was wrong..so yea i feel you!

I know I'm very late in this one, but I just wanna say that you were right on your actions, and just forget about him. I know he is not your man, cause i read all of the thread and i was having long time ago same issues with one of my male friends and i haven't seen him for years. This kind of behavior is disrespectful. I just let him go in whatever direction he wanted to go. Btw, you react just like I do to things, so I gave you plus on all of your comments, and posted a friend request. Hope you'll approve me, tnx :)

Men. What is it with them and wearing work clothes that look like they have been worn by railroad workers? My boyfriend is likely to do just that as well. I think it is really embarrasing. I think people should try to look their best from time to time. It is pleasing both to themselves and others. he thinks it is completely unnessesary. Comfort is number one at all times. It is a mystery to me how it can feel comfortable to be vearing dirty clothes.

I am super late on this one!! Lol. I hope everything worked out. Guys are so dumb sometimes.... I hate the old "what did I do?" confused thing!@

LOL I know how you feel.. I've had one of those days instead I went along with it I think he at least deserves to know whats going on... tell him the truth you were expecting something totally different. maybe he had a different mind

You're being wise. Don't pick up that phone. We teach people how to treat us. If you pick it up after ten or twenty or fifty calls, you've taught him that he can talk to you after ten or twenty or fifty calls. Can you put him on call block? If this guy respected you, he wouldn't have created this situation at all. If he respected you, he wouldn't harass you. He'd do the right thing, accept responsibility for his poor decisions and -- most important of all -- accept that you have the right to decide who's in your life and who isn't -- whether he likes your decision or not.

You did good. Guys know what they do and what they're doing. We have to stop letting them hand us the "I'm too dumb to understand" excuses. If they're that dumb, they don't deserve us. When we refuse to explain, they usually fess up once they see the "dumb" act doesn't work, which means they knew all along. Isn't that exactly what he did? He knew and tried to scam you. When you didn't fall for it, he fessed up: well, I was broke. He knew that in the morning when he asked you out or should have known it. He either had money in the morning or not. If he did, he should have held onto it out of respect for you. If he didn't, he knew he was wasting your time with a lie. As to calling you so many times, that's obsessive and meant to dominate. It is what abusers and stalkers do. He figured if he harassed you enough, you'd give in and do what he wanted (hence the domination tag). It also kept you from being able to enjoy your evening without him, especially with another man. He made sure you knew he was sitting right down stairs and would create a scene if you called another man who wouldn't waste your time and energy. You followed your instincts and should be proud. Women in general are taught to put up with disrespect and to respond to abusive men by being nice. Nice doesn't get it. Standing up for yourself will drive the abuser away long before he goes to pounding on your head. He wants a soft target, not a strong woman. We owe it to ourselves to require respect from every person we associate with. If we don't look out for ourselves, no one will.

Myabe he just forgot, I can understand that you got angry/upset with him. But he is a guy, I have the same kind here too. He never thinks about that sort of stuff