Do you want a Boy?

How strange. Maybe she has a gift and is able to tell that you are pregnant. :) Could it be so, Coffee?

Hi Coffee: I would think that it would be a strange question to ask anyone while taking a stroll. But having read some of these comments, I understand a little bit more of why an Indian woman would ask such a thing. Strange, isn't it, that a boy should be favored over a girl. Ah, I love my daughter as much as my son. And I wish I was looking forward to having my husband all to myself some day. But there no longer is a husband. There's still God and happiness. It's all good.

i am from india. i know the scenario here. in most of the families in india boys are preferred to girls. May be tahs why she has asked you whether you want a boy this time.

I think in their culture boys are preferred. She probably is so used to that she just assumed you would feel the same.

from the beginning of your discussion I thought you were going to tell us that she was selling or otherwise offering you a male child. maybe that is what she was doing?

I think many cultures prefer boys to girls. I think it may be because men are allowed to have more honored positions in their societies than girls are allowed. I think that people should be happy with whatever child they get. I must admit that I think boys are easier to raise but I am always just happy that God blessed us with children, boys or girls.

I suppose it depends on your background. People want boys to continue their family line, so if your last name is Wernhurst, and if most of the Wernhursts have girls, pretty soon there will be no more Wernhursts. Also if your experience as a girl has not been as good, the boys can keep the money they made, while the girls have to hand the money over to their parents, boys can fool around with girls and be considered as sowing their wild oats, girls are called tramps, atc. then boys are preferred. Also some women, like me, like boys and boy babies are more responsive while the girl baby gets fidgetty and cries a lot when they hold them. Also if you live in a paternal culture, the man is expected to make the living and often spinster daughters are at a disadvantage. Mind you, I do not like the idea of Westerners preferring girls over boys. It seems when I watch Tv, if someone who is white is talking on the dramas, they have this daughter, but someone who is maybe African American, they have a son, and yet when I see on real life, the African Americans can have just as many girls as we can. Unfortunately it seems that boys are not as numerous as girls and that is just as bad as the Chinese and Indians preferring boys over girls. Anyway we adopted two baby boys, but then I always wanted to have twins, I wanted them to be born on a certain date, but I did not expect it to be a birthday gift.