Why is husband looking forward to going to a strip club?

i understand you misschriss. if ever my boyfriend will go to a strip club, i will feel very very hurt about it. i mean, if a man really loves a woman, what's the need of going to strip clubs? if my boyfriend goes to one, i will feel that he's not satisfied with how i look or he's not satisfied with just seeing and having me. i will be scared that he'll just have fantasies with other women because of what he'll be doing. i am just glad that my boyfriend isn't like that. i hope you get to talk to your husband about this issue. if he loves you, i am sure he will understand your feelings. anne

My husband had better NEVER even think about going to a strip club, or he'll come home and find the locks changed and his stuff outside. He didn't marry me so he could go running around to strip clubs and looking at other women. In my opinion, he has all that he needs at home and if it ever gets to where he doesn't, he needs to just tell me and see if we can fix it.

This is where men and women will never understand each other, we are different, I don't think men will ever understan how it hurts a woman and I think it is simply because they think differently to women, the feeling women have is from the heart how could he but for men it is not the heart that is connected to the pleasure he gets, they just do not understand a womans feelings and I don't think they ever will.

BTW - my husband doesn't actually go to them and doesn't seem to have a desire. For that I'm very thankful. But I wonder what yours would say if you asked to go with him?

Ask to go with him! I did that once. Perhaps it will help put things into perspective?

I've been to strip clubs before. The fantasy doesn't work for me. Too phony. And more plastic and paint than LEGOLAND. The OP should ring up Dr. Laura with this question. (1-800-DRLAURA.) She won't have kind things to say about the hubby. And she may even scold you for being a pushover.

Wow i know what you mean. i guess that it could be called jelusy or somthing i don't know. i beleave that there is a differance in looking, and staring, and gulking if you know what i mean. i get really upset to when i see my man staring at other women, not so much if he just looks maybe says hmm not bad and then on with what he was doing. but to be stuned by the women and not take his eyes off her or start to drall over her then i want to slap him. in that same since my hubbys birth day is august 25th and i was thinking of having a couple of his friends take him to a strip club and what they call titiy club but to keep an eye on him LOL. but i don't know if i could do this becuase i am afraid that it would cuase me to think that somthing happened and wonder what all did go on, and all those questions. he tells me he loves me and that i am all he wants in a women, and in a wife and he would not do any thing to miss that up, but with that said he is a man and if a women was to walk up to any man and offer her self to him i don't think he could say no to many times.

Hey Chris - don't get so upset - it's really no big deal. Your husband is just being a man - and going out with his mates to a Club on his birthday is just part of that. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, or need you, and it doesn't mean he's going to be unfaithful to you either - it just means that he enjoys looking at good looking women in sexy outfits, or with no clothes on - and i think all straight men do that if they're honest enough to admit it. Loads of women here in the UK go to male strip shows, or to see sexy male "dancers" like The Chippendales or whatever, so it isn't really just men who do this. I wouldn't worry about it, and I certainly wouldn't nag him about it, because that will drive him to keeping secrets from you, and doing things behind your back and that would be far worse than the odd strip club!

To me I honestly would not care, he is married to you and comes home to you, guys will be guys..Its harmless fun, let him have fun...He maybe just dosnt want to feel tied down for one night and have fun with the boys...If he gets a lap dance wow, good on him, he might be more passionate when he comes home...I dont think thats its any disrespect for the marriage at all, its probably healthy if anything, This is just my way of thinking..I wouldnt take it as a personal reject to you just let him have fun...

Why don't you go with him? I'd be more concerned about why he doesn't want to spend his birthday with me. I don't know all the details but if he wants you to go along with him. Just go! You just might like it!

I think think it's acceptable behaviur, when your partner goes to a strip club, but only when he asks you about your opinion before doing it. I don't mean asking about permission to go, but only about your feelings, which he should be interested about. Maybe try to tell him how you feel about it and he'll calm your concerns. Or spend the evening, when he goes to a strip club, with your friends, maybe in the disco. When you don't sit at home thinking "what is he doing now?" it would be more easy to wait untill he'll come back from his visit in the strip club. It's only my opinion, but I think going out and having fun could help you:)

Ya know, it's something I don't understand either but I wish I did. My DH is not into going to strip clubs but I know plenty of men for whom that is a very enjoyable experience. "They" say that men are visual creatures who do not necessarily go to clubs looking for a fling but rather just to admire the view. Sort of how me and my friends like to go to craft shows to admire the view I guess. I don't know. I have a good guy friend who doesn't like lap dances and touching. He claims to go just to admire the view and that even if it was free that he wouldn't accept it. He claims that he doesn't want any skanky chick touching him and sticking her junk in his face and that only his wife can do that. So again, what's the point of going? I wish I had a better answer but I'm a woman too so I'll probably never understand. I will be keeping an eye on this discussion though becuase I'm very curious about it too.

My husbands cousin just recently had a bachelor party in Las Vegas. My husband and his cousind all went. I approved of it, told him"go have fun honey". My husband never goes out...it's not because I don't let him, he just chooses not to. When he got back from the trip, he told me everything they did...in details! My husband is really honest with me, that's why I know he's not lying. But the fact that he told me what they did,hurt me! Alot! It's been a week now, and I can't stop thinking about it! A girl touching him, him enjoying a lap dance from anyone!!! The day after he came home, i was getting anxiety attacks just thinking about it...i don't know what to do! And he has another one to go to in August because he's the best man!!!