I am my best friend's BOSS..
By MorningDew
@MorningDew (833)
Saudi Arabia
August 5, 2007 6:15am CST
Yeah I am.. she was hired upon my recommendation..
Now I really regret it, I wish I had nothing to do with it..
She has been hired since less than a month now, I don't feel that she is committed. She doesn't come on time -when she comes-...
Today we had a management meeting, I was told by the HR manager and the GM to talk to her about it. I actually did more than once before as a friend. Now I have to do it as the boss...
What do you recommend.. how should I tell her without this affecting our friendship???
Please advice me...
4 responses
@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
6 Aug 07
Hi there
Interesing post. This is my proposal:
1)Invite her out over a cup of coffee or dinner ASAP. Don't talk 2 her about it at work or over the phone.
2)Tell her ur bosses are pressing on you hard because of her performance. Tell her ur bosses verbally warned u if she doesn't improve that u must do something about it otherwise you will be seriously punished.
3)Try 2 figure why she isn't committed, there might be a reason maybe u could sort it out with her. Maybe something at home or maybe something at work. Maybe she doesn't like what she is doing maybe if u gave her different tasks or training she gets better. Well figure it out. U must give her suggestions or let me say a plan; how 2 improve.
4)After u have done all the above, go back 2 ur bosses and tell them u have warned her verbally and she will be under ur eyes in the next few days or weeks (give her plan and room 2 improve)
5)If she did not improve, u just do what u have to do then (but before u take this major step, just do tell her in a polite way she left no choice for u).
Hope things get better, Your Majesty Dew The 1ST.....
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@deadraven999 (1386)
• Saudi Arabia
7 Aug 07
What can I say? Her Royal Highness, Dew the 1ST awarding me with a Best Response Vote? I am truly honored. Thank you very much and always under ur command.
I am glad it worked u'd have 2 monitor her though, so she won't lose momentum. I hope ur conversation with her and the private office give her a boost 4 the better.
Thank you very very much again ......
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@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
6 Aug 07
Hi dear..
I would like to thank you for the advice..
I finally talked to her, actually I did it at work because I wanted it to be official..
I told her exactly what you recommended about me being pushed by the management to talk to her... etc.
She apologized and felt really bad about it, she promised to never do it again...
I asked her about not being happy with what she is doing, and you were right she is not comfortable with the place it's an open area and she likes to have her own private place..
I requested a private place for her; she was really thankful and excited. Didn't think she might be uncomfortable at all...
Thank you very much for your response :)
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
6 Aug 07
Thanks for the response..
I talked to her today, thanks to God she was really positive and apologized..
She told me she'll never do it again...
I feel very much better now :)
@silver_shaddow (1204)
•
5 Aug 07
I think you got yourself in a pickle here.
Anyway, what's done is done. But here is my advice, MODERATION. You should keep your work relationship & friendship SEPERATE. Detach yourself from emotions. That's how you keep "the show" going. Am sorry, but you have to ruin ONE relation in order to keep the OTHER going. Choose what is more important to you and then take action.
Ciao
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@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
6 Aug 07
Hi there,
I actually don't agree with you on this one..
I don't have to ruin any of the relations...
I talked to her today, she was really sorry. Hopefully she'll become more committed, will see starting tomorrow...
Thanks for the response :)
@Tigerzen7 (3)
• United States
8 Aug 07
What a rough situation! I recommend that you speak with her about it as soon as possible. The longer you let it go, the worse impact this may have on your friendship. You are going to need to be honest with her while trying to be gentle about it at the same time. She probably will be upset, but actually it is better if she hears it from you than someone else. You should maybe mention that since you are friends you don't want her to get hurt-- also make sure to try to be calm when discussing this with her. Good luck
@MorningDew (833)
• Saudi Arabia
8 Aug 07
Thanks for the response, I really feel more comfortable now with her coming on time and doing the job perfectly :)
