Do you lie to your parents?
By bananacake
@bananacake (7)
Canada
August 5, 2007 5:50pm CST
Do you ever find yourself lying about your daily life to your parents? Sometimes I conceal certain infromation on purpose, or find it difficult to talk about even simple things. How about you? Have you even lied about your job, every day events, I'm talking things that are not bad like criminal activity, just daily actions that you simply cannot or will not share.
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@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
6 Aug 07
I don't say anything to my parents because if they meddle with my affairs,it becomes crap most of the time.And they don't help by doing that.They will make it more of a mess.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
6 Aug 07
First of, I have to point out that "lying" and "not sharing" are two different things.
That being said. I have been guilty of both.
I don't think you'll get many people here to admit that they have lied. I think people generally have a hard time admitting that they have lied.
I have. I don't lie often. I used to think it was wrong under any circumstance. I've changed my way of thinking since then.
I still don't think it's a good thing. It is best to be honest. But sometimes it's just easier to lie or to keep certain information to yourself.
My children have lied to me as well. It makes me a little sad. I had hoped to be the type of parent whos children felt comfortable telling everything to.
It didn't work out that way. I try to teach them right from wrong. I tell them when I think they are doing something wrong. Somtimes I punish them for doing wrong.
I think to a certain extent, lying is a natural reaction. People don't like getting into trouble. People don't like confrontation sometimes. People don't like disappointing their parents. People don't like to see disapproval in their parents eyes.
So, they lie.
I discourage lying. Tell the truth when you can. Tell the truth always if you can. But I won't judge anyone for having told a lie. I have been guilty of it, so I don't feel that I have a right to judge others for it.
And I am not such a liar that I will pretend to have never told a lie.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
5 Aug 07
It is part of my spiritual path to be the same person, in all worlds. As a part of that, I typically do not lie.
When it comes to my family, my contact with them is fairly limited anyways because they were abusive towards me, but I do sometimes speak to members of my family on the phone. My grandmother is the person I speak to most often, and while I don't lie to her, there are certain things I have simply refused to talk to her about, because she would be upset by them or treat me harshly because of them. I have pretty much decided I only accept positive input from my family members, and declared as much, so there are topics that are basically off-limits. That works better for me than lying, but then again, my relationship to my family is nothing like normal or healthy really.