Should future In-Laws have a "say" in your wedding?

I have to agree with jz1977, no one has a say in your wedding but you and your future husband. If your in-laws are trying to run your life now, what will it be like after the wedding. It would not be wrong to tell them to back off in a kind but firm way. Might be a good idea to have a talk with your future husband and see if he will back you up in this.

Only you and your future husband have a say in your wedding and life beyond that. PERIOD.

Not wrong at all. As I always say, the person who pays the dough has the most say! The bride has the second most say! And since YOU as the bride are paying for it, then they really have no say at all. I would not say "back off" but instead say that you will think about their ideas and let them know when YOU have figured it all act. Honestly act clueless all the time as if you are still thinking about it, even if you really have it all planned out and decided upon. Then once thinks are booked and permanent, tell them then and they can't say anything b/c you already booked :)

It's your wedding and not theirs so you'll have the final say for your wedding. Just make sure that your spouse supports your decision and this wedding plan does not create any 'friction' between 2 of you.