Does your spouse ever mess up your daily routine?

My hubby doesn't work out of town, but I stay at home during the week days while he goes out to work. Basically it is me 100% who arrange for everything in the house. I do all the cleaning up. So it is normal for me to have a routine for everything in this house. However, my husband doesn't understand my situation once upon a time ago. He makes mess around the house and just leave all the mess for me to clean up later. My daily routine indeed went on a mess. However, one day I got so tired of being patient. I prepared him some nice meal and talked to him in a sweet way. I showed him examples of why he must not interfere with my daily routine. I even showed him what are my daily routine every day while he was gone. At first he was defensive and didn't agree with me even a little bit. But we have to be patient. Some husbands are like little kids, lol. Actually everybody has a kind of a kid nature in ourselves. When we see a new thing for the first time, we used to reject it and retaliate. But after a while, we soon to realize that it makes sense and we should follow things in the right order. The same thing goes with my husband. After I told him about it twice, he begins to understand and now he's trying his best not to interfere with my daily routine. As a return, I try to re-schedule my daily routine on weekends so that it would suit both parties - me and my husband. Now we live happily and we kind of able to sort things out. I am very content with this current life I am having. I wish you good luck, and I hope this helps. Have a nice day!

Next time he is home after your daughter is in bed and asleep you really need to have a long talk with your husband and let him know that you have a daily routene to keep things going smoothly and when he is home he dosnt do anything to help you keep that routene going. You might want to have a basic schedule mapped out for him and have it on the refrigerator for him to see that way he knows what you have done and should be going on next that way you both are on the same page when he is home.

When my husband stays home from work when he is sick he throws everything off for me. I have a monday through friday routine and he messes it all up. When I tell my kids no they run to him for a second opinion. I had to sit down and talk with him and tell him what kind of problem he is causing me. It did help a little. Not compleatly though.

My advice was going to be exactly the same as what magikrose suggested. If there were ever a solid case for "nagging" this would be it. You need to keep telling him how important it is for your daughter that you two be on the same page. I am sure that he loves and misses her and just wants to see her happy. He needs to understand that consistency is what will really make her happy in the end. Also, this situation sounds as if it is driving the two of you apart. That is not good for your daughter. It is not good for your daughter to have a mom that is all stressed out because the dad is not working with her but against her. It is hard enough that his work is keeping you physically apart alot of the time. When he is home he should be working WITH YOU. I don't know if it would help but after you get a few more responses, maybe you could show him this thread.?

My husband lives in another state he is getting ready to deploy and when he comes home yes he really messes me up with everything. I don't check my email, or real mail on time. I don't do anything like I should, my son gets all messed up with when he sleeps and wakes up. It's like for two weeks everything is crazy and not planned out which I can't stand. On the other hand I'm so happy when I get to see him I don't mind it at all. I just wait till he leaves and I clean up the house and slower get things back in order. I would rather deal with the mess forever it I could get him to stay home.