Do you trust your Family Members?

I am so sorry to hear about this. I think someone had to know where the money was since it was hidden under the bed. I am really not sure who did this to you all but I really think someone had to know where the money was to begin with. I hope you find out who did it and you get the money back. I don't harldy trust anyone these days whether it is family or not. It is awful. I am so sorry for you.

The first thing to do here is to make yourself a calming drink, like herbal tea, sit down and think logically about this. When you left the house to go out, was your grandson around to see you leave? Ok, they didn't take all the money, possibly because they thought that if they only took a part of it, you wouldn't notice, or if they were seen leaving the house with the tin, then they would have been more conspicuous... in other words, putting a few bills in their pocket would be much easier and they would be more likely to get away with the theft, without your even noticing there had been a theft. The one thing I can't understand is why they would have left the can under the window, instead of moving it at least to the next house, which is empty. Sure, it could have been any of the people you mentioned but as you say, it's difficult to reason why it would have been any particular one. I think you have to let the police handle the situation. They may be able to find fingerprints on the window or the tin, or something, although you've all touched the tin since, so I would doubt that would be a lot of help. Thinking along the lines of your grandson... if he needed as much as three hundred dollars, would he not ask if you could give or lend him that amount? Would he get himself into bother with somebody that he needed it illicitly? Has he suddenly acquired something new, which you know he couldn't normally afford? I really do doubt that a lad of that age could think he would get away with stealing from you. I know it would give me a terrible sense of guilt stealing from anybody, let alone my own family, who would be sure to know if I'd suddenly acquired a large amount of money. I would think the thing to do here is ask his parents to sit down with him and you for a chat, so that you can either illiminate him from your suspicions or find out why he did that to you. If he did take the money, then his parents have to pay it back, or make him pay it back, from his allowance, or it might well happen again at some point. If guilty, he mustn't be allowed to get away with it. You need to find out, for his sake, as well as your own. I hope you find out who did this. It's not nice when you have neighbours you can't trust either... even the workmen next door, but I would doubt they would be in a trusted job like they are, if they were thieves. I wish you all the luck in the World for getting to the bottom of this, and indeed, finding out that it wasn't your Grandson who took the money. I know it's still a horrible feeling to know that somebody would steal from you, but when it's family that you love and trust so dearly, it's heartbreaking. Brightest Blessings. x

What you can do is test your grandson on another situation involving a certain amount of money which would make him steal it if really he is the thief. The way is, show him that you have the money. Then make him know where you put the money and make sure nobody else knows about the hiding place except your husband and your grandson. Later, keep an eye on him even at night. Make sure you catch him stealing the money. I am sure a thief would never resist money. In time you will get to know who did it.

My family is so meaningfull for me! So there is no deal to not believe to my own family members! I believe and trust them for infinity percent! I love them very much!

as a general, of course, i trust my family..specially with my parents..for me, family first before anything else because family is always there to comfort you, they always there if you whenever you need them and whatever your problem..you can count on them..

We've had money stolen from us, it's a horrible feeling when you know there's someone around you who you can't trust. My brother stole money from me, though he denied it I know it was him, he was the only person in the house other than me and he's the only one who knew where it was. My husband had money stolen out of his duffle bag at work, he also knows who it but couldn't prove it. So now he keeps his duffle locked in the car. Then he went around and warned everybody else in the building that there was a thief in the building and to lock up their duffles and purses. If you have to keep cash in the house I would find a better hiding place, one that no one would think of to look. Here's a site that sells window/door alarms pretty cheap. You might want to consider something like this if someone is coming thru the window. It won't stop them from opening the window but the alarm will usually scare an intruder away. http://www.ownfirstalert.com/?tid=2230

I have my wife and one daughter as my family members.Who else can I trust except these two angels.

Sadly, I do not trust my family members. Most of them have done things that have left me with the feeling of uncertainty.

It is hard to say because I don't know your grandson at all but if your husband suppects him then he must have a reason for this . I know that in the past I have not wanted to believe that different family members were stealing from us and we found out that it really was someone from our family . As horrible as it sounds the truth is that it could very well be someone from your own family . We always want to be able to trust our family but the truth is that you don't ever really know someone and who better to target especially since you would never want to believe it was someone you knew . I am cynical like this as I have lost so much over the years because I trusted those I shouldn't because I really didn't want to believe but when you are faced with the truth you realize that you never suspected them because they were family or friends and those are the people you turn to when you need help so don't want to even consider that these are the people that would aim to hurt you . Best of luck in finding out who it was and hopefully it was a stranger as it would make you feel better even though you will probably never get the money back , somehow it is easier to blame someone you don't then to have to blame someone you love and care about .

It is really hard when something like this happens, but the cold hard fact is that things just don't disappear on their own. I have also had things disappear, and although I am not always entirely certain who took them, I usually have my suspicions. Unless there is proof though, you really can't do much about it. All you can do is stop trusting. I feel bad when I can't trust those that I love, but once they have betrayed my trust, it is hard to trust them again.

I trust my family members. Might be they have forgot to keep them anywhere else. This is kind of bad habits and it is not related to family trust or not? But I will advise that money matters could be very harmful for breaking the relations. I reckon that you and everyone in family should be very carfull about the money where they are keeping it.

In a lot of cases children steel money from their parents and grandparents.Even if they get caught.There's a reason why they do it.Once you caught the person,maybe your grandson just ask him why he stole it and why didn't he asked for it. I have this problem with my sister and i told her i'd rather spend money on her than that she would lie to me and steel money from me. Still when something is missing we always look at her,because she still steels sometimes. In this case i would not use police for this matter because it could be a relative. But since it's not sure i think you're doing the right thing. I understand you don't trust him and it's logical.

Hi there. Off course I trust my family, I have no reason not too... Its really easy to point the finger, when money, and more so, of that amount has been stolen. Sounds like there could be alot of suspects... And just what if your grandson is innocent... Maybe set up a hidden camera and put money around the house or where ever and just see what happens, this is a sure way to catch the culprit, and then confront them... All the best with this situation...

i ausolutely trust my family members.Because they all are very honest.we trust each other.

Oh Marcie, I am so sorry this has happened to you. Yes I have had family members steal money from me. Its a horrible feeling. This is what we told the person we suspected. We told them that the police came in and dusted for fingerprints, then we told them later the police told us who did it. At first they were really nervous, then later I told the person the police said that they took it, I had proof. The person never did admit, it took many years before I could trust the person again. Happyly I can now trust the person with anything. The person was a teenager when the theft happened. Good luck, I truly hope it wasn't your grandson.

i have a brother who i do not

There is nothing unusual in this situation...! Some times teeagers do get missleaded by others ..! So there ARE possibilities of you grandson stealing money from you.So there is no harm in NOT trusting your own kid's kid just be cool and do keep a good watch on him to prevent further these kind of things from happening. Because see loving someone does not mean that you go and allow him every thing and pamper him..! And yes there are more chances of that guy who works with your husband to steal the money..!!

Defenitly i trust may family. In my view you have to take this problem very seriously. If it was a issue concerned and connected with outside matters its ok. But this is your family problem. Family is one of the greatest strenght of humanbeing. So try to find out actual theft first. If that person is inside your family try to keep this issue in your family itself. And now onwards kep the cash in a safe place. This will be nice.

Of course i trust. There is no doubt I do trust all of my family members. If someone don't trust their family members;then he might also not be trusted by other. It is bidirectional process.And if there is no trust between family members then it is quite difficult to live.

I am sorry to say that you may be right about your grandson taking it. A thief would have took it all. Only someone who cares would leave some. I would think that if I am going to risk breaking into someone's house and possibly going to jail, I am taking it all. How would anyone else know exactly where to go and look. Was anything else in the room disturbed? Did it look like the thief have to search for a while? Were you missing anything else valuable? Maybe some jewelry? I think you know in your heart who really did it. I hope that it was not your grandson, because I know that it would break your heart. But, if it was him, just know that this is not a rare thing for teenagers to do. Along with whatever punishment you choose, he should also work to pay if off. I hope you are still able to pay your rent and I am very sorry that this has happened to you. I know how stressful it is to know that you have put something somewhere and then find that it is gone.