what would you do if you find out that your child is lying to you?

I would punish her- by grounding her- and I would also tell her how disappointed I am in her - her choice to lie instead of telling me the truth- I tell my daughter to tell the truth- she won't get into as much trouble as she would if she lied-

I think we should sit with them for a period of time and make them understand what they are doing and how it will effect their lifes,carrer and many others in their near future in a polite and pleasing manner and i hope it will work out.

I am dealing with this right now. My son is 3 and for sometime ago he started the lying. Of course they are not big lies but still a lie is a lie right. Anyway, at first when this started I explained to him that he cannot lie. I said " You always HAVE to tell mommy and daddy the truth." Next, I said, a lie will get a spanking. I kept telling him these things over and over and correcting him when he would lie. Now when he lies he will get a spanking or time out. He knows that lies are bad and wrong and he will be punished if he tells a lie and so far this method has been pretty effective.

I went through this with my oldest, she went through a stage of it. So I know many won't like this, but I spanked her. I told her wrong is wrong and when you mess up lying makes it worse. So when she told the truth if a punishment was required I would ground her, time out or take something. However if she lied about it she would receive the same punishment for the original deed, but a spanking on top of it for lying. It took a couple of times for her to test me on this, but now 5 years later, she is the most honest kid around. IMO lying is one of the capital crimes in our house along with stealing or hitting (not defending). So I handle those things with a capital punishment. I have great kids because of it and their teachers fight to get them each year. So something I’m doing is working, lol.

if my child was caught lying I would confront him or her ansd ask them why and then try to explain to them that lying is wrong I would still punish him or her but I would make them apologize to whom ever or what ever they were lying about

if your child is lying to you you have to see if he or she is lying about small things or big things. some times parents get hyper if their children lie about very small thing, don,t be so if that is the case, as long as you can make out what the truth is. and if the child is lying about something that you must must know, be sensible, then the reasons could be few. firstly, the child is scared. remedy: be very friendly. cook what they like. kiss them a lot. tickle them a lot.play with them. make them feel they cared about, very very much. tell them to be good and what it holds for them in the future to be good. try these. love excessively. smile. am here if you need me, apple.

since my son has not yet started talking i dont have experience.. but i would likt to talk to my child and ask why he/she lied and then explain to him/her that it not good and may be givem them a light punishment.. what do u say

If this is the first time your child is lying, I would explain that if it keeps happening that he or she would be in more trouble for lying. For the first time it would be just a warning, but after that I would take a privilege away. I tell my kids that if they have done something wrong and don't lie to me about it, then they will be told off for whatever they did wrong, but if they lie they will lose a privilege. My kids prefer just to be told off a little bit rather than lose a privilege.

Here in Africa, whenever parents finds out that their child is lying to them, what they do is punish him using either cain or their bare hands, but I have learnt it over the years how wrong it is to use our bare hands on children. What I will do is sit him/her down and tell her the influence of lying and how bad it is to be a liar. I will tell him/her to keep saying the truth and will be recieving gift for telling the truth. Thanks

Well friend,nowadays most of the children are lying their parents and when the parents come to know they feel hurt.Well I faced but I just express my feelings and clarify the matter for what they told lie.Because if I shout that does not mean that they will stop lying.So I think its better to explain them.

It is not a big deal if it is only a little lie. My son is a good boy in general. He usually comes back home after school. Once he was found to come back home a little bit late, then after he came back home, he said to his mom that he had to stay after school to sweep the floor of his classroom or sometimes he said that they were having a test in the afternoon and it took a long time for the test, that was why he was late. My wife started to doubt about his words and made a call to his head teacher before he came back home when he should have come back earlier. She asked him why he was late for home and he said so like I narrated above. My wife asked him if it was true or not. He said that he was not telling a lie. One day the same thing happened. My wife thought that he must be in a net cafe and then she went there to find that he was surfing online there. This time he had to admit that he was lying. He is clever enough not to surf online in the net cafe for a long time, only like half an hour. This way he still has enough time to get home for supper. Since he was found in the net cafe, he has not been there any longer. They have both reached an agreement. That is: My wife lets him to surf online for two hours on Saturday. Now we don't have to worry about his going to the net cafe any more.

hi... well since i don't have child yet... I do experience that kind of scenario with my two younger brothers... If i find out that they are lying to me... I do talk with them and tell them that they must tell the truth before anyhing would happen to them... i even scare them so that they would tell me the truth or else... Or in a proper manner i would talk to them one by one and ask what is the problem why they keep on lying to me... And give them a good advice so that they will not do it again... in that simple way i can give them my care and support...

My 16 year old son has lied to me over the stupidest stuff. I think mostly he doesn't want to get in trouble when I ask him something so he lies. But that is just not going to cut it here. I have told both of my sons that whatever they do is not as bad as lying about it. My older (21) son doesn't lie to me that I know of because he really has no need. He is an adult. The younger one has been caught in lies like saying his friend's parents said it was OK for him sleep over only for us to later find out the parents didn't even know he was coming over or that he did his homework when he never even brought it home. It isn't what the lie IS, it is the fact that he lied. We all fib here and there I guess, but when I ask a straight question, I want a straight honest answer. I have told my son that if he is caught lying, he will be in much more trouble than if he just tells the truth that he thinks will get him in trouble. We usually find out anyway. Then we have long talks with him about it and he says he just doesn't want to hear us yell (We don't yell but we do get angry when he doesn't do something he should or does something he shouldn't) and it was easier to lie. My husband I have both told him that soon we won't trust ANYTHING he says and he will be sorry. He will end up paying for the little lies by losing our trust. It's tough but eventually he does tell the truth. I just wish he would say, "No I didn't do my homework because I forgot it" rather than blatantly say he finished and then I get a call from one of his teachers telling me he didn't do it. I hate that. I would like to know what other parents do myself! Good question.