Is it nice to live with a friend?
By rubenlicera
@rubenlicera (141)
Philippines
August 7, 2007 4:17am CST
Living with a friend is heaven, but sometimes the experience gets into your nerves and leaves you feeling in hell.
I had once this type of experience with a room mate. He was a funny guy who loves to joke around and ber socialized with everyone. There's nothing wrong about his personality. I just don't want the way he intrudes my privacy.
When he got cozy with the room and things around him he begans to use my things. Shirts, pants, socks... you name it. He would use it without even asking permission.
Just got bolt one time when he used my USB ( a computer device) without my knowledge only to know later that he lost it. I don't mind if he lost the thing since it can be replaced. What was sad is that the USB contains a file which I worked for weeks to be done and an instant it was gone.
How would you react if you have such friend living with you?
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9 responses
@puchapox (579)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
I've been living with my friends for years now. 4 of us rented an apartment back in 2001, and through the years many friends actually came and went, and right now there's only two of us in that same apartment.
I must say that I enjoy living with my friends a lot, since its been at least 6 years now. Thankfully I don't have the kind of friend that you seem to have. My friends and I talk about our pet peeves and dislikes all the time, so we try to make sure we wouldn't have any disagreements.
I don't like the way your friend acts about your things, If I was in your position, I would tell my friend about it. A small complaint about him may build up and it might be a reason for my patience (or our friendship) to break.
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@dsantacruz (556)
• United States
8 Aug 07
When I went to my school i moved in with this South Korean guy that I have never met before. It was pretty cool because we got along reall well, even though we are from different parts of the world. But there were times when I wanted to strangle him, he would take my food and use my stuff, but I got back at him some way or another. We had eachothers back though so it was cool.
@anousha (406)
• Mauritius
7 Aug 07
Well I have never lived with a friend until now but if this happened to me, I would either have requested him to leave the place or I would myself look for another apartment to live. I just can't stand that someone uses my personal stuffs without asking or atleast letting me know. There's a limit for sharing things between roommates. And there's also something called ethics which I would surely have reminded the definition to him.
@hal8711 (102)
• China
7 Aug 07
I feel like this kind of experience...
Although you did annoyed by what he had done, you also got fun from living with such a funny guy, didn't u?
So what u should do is to suit the way he does or u can say to him ,u do dislike his action...
In general , i think things are always no good enough as u expected...
@itsme_nova (3)
• Philippines
8 Aug 07
you have to inform your friends what your likes and dislikes are...and upon entering your private territory you should have inform also the dos and and donts in there...in this regard they may have prevented to tresspass\use your private territory\things....
@MGjhaud (23240)
• Philippines
7 Aug 07
in my case that really depends. even if i knew the person since childhood. it's practically different living with someone you're not related. i mean, in my country there's this trait that you cannot please anybody that easy (even if the person is your family)
living with a friend might be a trouble when there's something wrong. its different when you live with a family member. when it gets trouble, it can be healed in a way that you'll understand..
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
7 Aug 07
Yes indeed such was when we lived with a friend, and was thought by me that was normal his name also the person who had the habit was different from us but was thought when your freind about your dislike about matters of the use of your thing I thought your friend will understand, that was important and must was friend about what was wanted by you and that you did not want.
best regards
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Aug 07
I learned many years ago that living with friends is the quickest way to destroy a friendship other than perhaps lending them large amounts of money.
I love my friends but alas...we are all so different. It would be very difficult to live under one roof and try to be fair to everyone.
Recently a very close friend of mine wanted to move in with me as she was desperately in need of a place for her and her son. I agreed but I was very apprehensive. I love her but I know we are so very different in our lifestyles and parenting styles that it would have had many benefits but also put a strain on our friendship. \I was so relieved that she found an alternative place to live.
