Why should I have to feel obigated for him doing the dishes?

I've heard somebody said that men are selfish. They think that they are the gods of the houses, especially, for the countries in Asia. However, I think I'm pretty lucky that my husband is very nice. He would help me doing some of the house-works whenever I'm too busy. But that's happened after we had a child. I would ask him to help instead of left it unfinished and let him think that I had neglected my duty. now my son is eight years old. My husband is getting older and bossier but we're still happy. I think if the two can talk frankly with each other, the conflict between them would be reduced.

I have to agree with you. Just because he does the dishes does not mean he has done you a favour. I have 3 kids aswell and My job never seems to finish. I know that your husband works hard but when his work is finished he can leave it all behind and have a break, you cant. Your job of looking after the kids and your husband is 24/7. If you ask me he owes you.

I am not trying to be mean, but I think your husband is so selfish. So, did you get the chance to watch your favorite program? I don't think so. My husband is never like that. He will do house chores with sincerity and never hope for any reward afterwards. And I am (forgive me, but this is exactly what I think about him) disgusted with the knowledge that your husband still hasn't let it go yet. He doesn't deserve a reward or something. Washing the dishes is not that hard. It doesn't require a life sacrifice or whatsoever, so what is the big deal of getting a reward for doing it once in his lifetime? I am sorry if I offended you, but I think you deserve to be respected by your husband. I hope you can be strong and firm enough to say so to him. Doesn't mean he's working and earning the salary, he can push you here and there. I think you are doing more work than him, but now he is the one who whines all the time. Tell him to grow up. Please forgive me for my harsh criticism, but I really have to let it go. I just can't stand it when a husband does that to his wife. Forgive me, please.

I've noticed that a lot of men are like this when it comes to household chores. They expect the women to do all the work, and then when they do it instead, they expect to be rewarded for being so "good." I think a lot of women do reinforce that idea, too. I know that I thank my fiance when he helps me out with any of the household chores, though I do that to let him know that I appreciate the help, and to encourage him to continue helping out around the house. But he doesn't ever try to hold it over my head. That would be super annoying.

okay so I looked up your profile and you are a stay at home mom. Now that is a lot of work...it really is. But I have to say that you are on here bashing your hubby for no good reason. He works 2 jobs!!! Do you know how tiring that is ? 2 jobs and then comes home and does dishes ? are you kidding me here? You are all up in arms because you need to watch your favorite show...what does he do beyond work...2 jobs pretty much takes up all your time. you don't see how very lucky you are!! I raised 4 girls without any...naugta..help from the dad in any way shape or form!11 If you worked full time ,, i maybe more inclined t o sympathize with y ou. but since you don't and your biggest concern is watching your fav. tv show..nope...not fair at all. looks to me as if he is pulling his weight and yours and you really are being not very appreciative.

before I can fairly answer your question, I have to ask you a couple of my own...do you work outside of the home? If so how many hours. I am not interrigating for I am a mom of 4 and I do know how much work that is. Just that something in your story..."he looked at me as if i owed him something". He looked at you...could you be misinterpreting here? I am not in any way judgeing you...more details would help answer your question.

That's rediculous, but I know it happens all the time. I don't "thank" the other members of the house for cleaning up after themselves or "helping" out, and if it's something I don't get to then they need to take care of it if they want it done. I'm not the maid.