How do you tell your own mother to blow off her own daughter?

Well im sure that i am much older than you are and i have had a lot of experience with this very same thing...Your Mom knows your sister is this way,and she really deep down does not like for her to be this way,but your Mom is a Mom and she loves her regardless of how she is.I have a child like this and he is a grown man,but he is in and out of trouble all the time,he has grown children and they have a couple of children too,hes a grandpa already and he will never change and i know this,but hes my son and i will help him when i can.He has hit up his brother and sisters also and they have helped him many times too,but they are tired of it.They tell me all the time to just get rid of him but i can't do that...let me explain to you just how your mom feels because i am in the same situation as your Mom is...I love all my children and would do for anyone of them,but all my other children has homes,jobs and security and I know they will be ok,they have their life togeather...It seems sometimes that i play favorites because they say "Boy" why do you always help him? But you see i don't have to worry about my other children because they are ok,but this son of mine is rotten and he cannot be like my other children because he has problems,and i am aware that he is like this and i know he will never change,but at the same time it is very hard to let your child be without and not have a place to stay.We mothers still see aur children as we did when they were babies and we are natural born protectors..So actually your Mom knows but she is a MOM...All you can do is not give your Money for her to give to your sister.When your Mom ask just say No! If you see your mom needing something just get it for her..Your sister is riding and using your mom and she knows it but its her problem child and she feels responsible for her.Its a mothers natural instinst...So just say No and tell your Mom that if she wants to help your sister fine but you are done helping your sister..

This is really something that your mom has to come to terms with herself. As a mom, I do feel for her. It is very hard to say no to a child that is struggling even if that child is all grown. I had one daughter that was always getting into minor trouble, could not hold a job, hopped from house to house and basically sounded much like your sis. As a mom, I feel my prime responsibility is to teach my girls how to live independently. A year ago when my daughter again moved back in with me,I put my foot down. She had to work and she had to help around the house and help with bills etc. WIthin no time, she was being disrespectful, underage drinking, not paying, ...I asked her to leave. She left. It was hard to do but it worked. She did not go hungry or cold and has turned into a mature,responsible and respectable young lady. Maybe after you get many responses, you could show your mom this thread.

You need to lay it on the line with your mother. You need to bring this to her attention even if she already knows what's happening. Perhaps she knows, but feels too guilty to do anything about it. What you need to do is remind her of the consequences to herself. Yes this person is her daughter, but this daughter is bleeding her dry, and she can't live with it much longer.

Are you saying that your sister is hitting your mother for money? I don't understand how she has the heart to do that to her. Or I suppose you are trying to say that she always budge your mother for money so that your mother will ask money from you. Whatever it is you have to say it to your sister face to face and tell her to leave your mother alone. I don't think your mother will stop helping your sister because a mother will always love her kids no matter what.

I feel for your family! It is hard when you have to cut ties with one of you siblings...I think your mom should tell her no a few times and maybe she'll take some responsiblities for herself. And if you all don't give into your mother and give her money she wouldn't have the money for you sister...I know you all want to help your mother but letting your sister use her is not helping...Maybe if your mom ask for money and she says why she needs it,(like for food or a bill) tell her you will take her to get the food or pay for the bill...And if she does say it's for your sister just tell your mom your sorry you can't help...I hope this help you and your family some. Good luck

if i were in that position. i would go off on my sister and tell her what a burden she is on the family. i would not go easy just because she is family. she needs to straighten up her act and GTFO!