Should I stay or should I go? What would you do?
By rietab
@rietab (30)
United States
August 9, 2007 3:10am CST
I am staying in the house of my old flame from high school.We have had a history of about 10 yrs 20 years ago.He had me move in here after the tornado that wiped out Greensburg Kansas.He is currently incarcerated so he isnt staying here right now.
A year ago I moved from Oklahoma to be with him ring and all. I gave up a great job to be with him.After 1 month of being here he started not coming home. I found out the ring he gave me was actually bought for a woman he had recently broken up with. He didnt buy groceries for the house, and i didnt have a job yet.So I left after a month . I found a job and a house of my own.
Here is the problem, He will be out of jail soon(he is on a day release program so he comes home each day to eat meals. And I am afraid it will turn out to be like it was before. I am now able to move back into Greensburg , my apartment is ready. He wants me to stay , but i am unsure if I can trust him not to be the way he was the last time I lived with him.
If you were me what would you do, if this were you?
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3 responses
@jeanena (2198)
• Bucklin, Kansas
9 Aug 07
In my honest opinion I think I would wait and see who knows maybe he will give up the drinking even after he is home.Keep your apartment like you have done on the just in case he doesnt hold to his promise. But if you serously think that your feeling have changed enough that you dont want to be there when he gets out for good then I would go.
with the history between the 2 of you guys , maybe you owe it to yourself to find out what it would be like. You will probley wonder forever if you dont try it first.
It isnt fair to either of you though if you really dont want to be there,and you know I want you to be happy Cuz.
@rietab (30)
• United States
3 Sep 07
I hope things will be different so I am still going to try but on a smaller level than living in the same house. Maybe if we just see each other a couple times a week and that will give him time to decide whether he wants me or the bottle. But not going to rush into it again. And I think you are right if I don't try I will always wonder what might have been. Thanks for always being here for me my dear cousin.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
9 Aug 07
maybe you should live in a place where he doesn't know...he did it once then there's no reason for him to do it again...I won't stay with him and I'm afraid of what might happen.
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
9 Aug 07
it sounds like you are standing steady on your own 2 feet without his help right now. that is great considering your position when you first moved in.
personally i wouldnt give all that up. he hasnt proven himself worthy of it.
i would tell him that you would consider it If/When he is standing steady on his OWN 2 feet also.
and past whatever troubles caused him to be in jail. that part is a must.
