Sleeping When Your Partner Is Away

My husband is away right now and I am just starting to feel miserable. I guess it's because he didn't call this morning like he said he would. Our daughter had a soccer playoff game last night so he said he would call this morning to see how she did. He hasn't called. It's bad enough that he went away during the playoffs, and slept through my other daughter's championship game during a tournament a couple of weeks ago. His family just doesn't seem to come first. I think I sleep better when he is away. He works shift work so when he works nights I think I sleep better because then he is not snoring or moving around. He doesn't always do that but when he does I notice it. Because I have fibromyalgia, whether he is away or not I stay up very late. I stay up until I know I will fall asleep the minute I hit the pillow. So I'm tired because I've been up late. My body hurts because the weather has been up and down and up and down. If I go to bed before I am exhausted I hear noises that aren't even there and feel a little insecure. My husband is on vacation visiting his family. He left on Monday and won't be back until next Thursday. He's done this before and it is always a stressful time. More stressful this year because my girls are playing outdoor soccer and he is missing those moments of pride a parent feels. Okay, ramble over.

I have the same problem!! My husband is in the military so when he isn't home I sleep on the couch. I don't know why but I can't sleep in our bed, maybe because it is away from out kids rooms so I am afraid someone will break in and I won't hear anything. So I sleep on the couch in the living room so I can hear everything =)

I find it difficult to sleep when he decides to stay up later than I do. I guess I am just used to him being there that when he isn't in the bed I just can not get comfortable.

Mine does not travel but when he does I cannot sleep either- Heck I don’t fall asleep soundly until he is in bed with his arm around me- or mine around him- Odd- but I feel safe there and that is how I fall asleep! So I know what you are talking about!

Oh I so know what you mean. I usually stay up half the night until I'm ready to drop. I'm with you I think it's the safety thing as well as the loneliness of him not being there sleeping with me

i sleep better sometimes but i know what you mean because i used to be like that, but now hubby tosses and turns alot, so when he is gone, i sleep a bit better....

When my gf is away, the bed just feels wrong, like you keep waiting for their presence, and there is no way to concentrate that feeling away.

I don't think it's a matter of safety, I think it has to do with love. We al feel less "safe" or less "something....secure maybe?" when we are away from the people we really love. In a month I'll have to go home to Canada for a while, and my fiance and I won't be together for a some time. We will miss eachother like crazy until we are able to get back together.