What is to young to wear a thong??
By mystic_0318
@mystic_0318 (937)
United States
August 9, 2007 11:48am CST
My 11 yrs old she wants to wear a thong...I said NO WAY she is too young...I think the kids today are starting to wear them younger and younger...I told my daughter she had to be atleast 16 to have them...But she ran to my gram and told her I wouldn't let her buy these undies...So my Gram took her and let her buy 3 pairs of them...What to do take them away from her? I don't even own a pair of thong and I don't think my 11 yr old should have them....Tell me what you think?
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23 responses
@happythoughts (4109)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Kids are trying to grow up to fast. You are right to say that she is to young. Im sure this wont be popular with her but it is better to be her mom than her friend. I would take them away and have a tlak with Gram about respecting you as her parent.
@kittensmommy (386)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Well I don't think 11 year olds should wear thongs.
If she is wearing tight pants or so , may some spandex boy shorts would fit best with it.
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@hardworkingmom (1130)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Yes I would take them from her because she disobeyed you plus she is to young to wear thongs. she need to be a young lady as long as she can and stop rushing to grow up. That is just my opinion but she is too young for thongs. She'll also get punished for going beyond my back and lying.
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@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
9 Aug 07
Gram bought her the thongs shame on her for going over your head on that where your daughter is concerned. I think your little girl should have to return them to Gram and saying sorry Gram I should not have accepted these as my mom doesn't want me having them. Your mother I am assuming it is your mother should be apologizing to you for questioning your authority for your daughter! I would be more concerned about why your daughter wants to wear these underware more then the actual wearing of them. If you motives are truly innocent and not to be cute and sexy then I would try to talk about them with no value just another kind of underwear that is highly uncomfortable!
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@tomysole (457)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Wow, I'm so lucky I had two boys instead of a thong wearing 11 year old! No, just kidding! I think that 16 is about the right age where a girl can decide what kind of underwear she should use. Thongs are used so the panty lines don't show on the butt right? So in that case if you want little teenage boys looking at you daughters junk then by all means let her wear thongs. I would not allow it until later on, but then again I'm a bit old fashion and modest.
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@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Well, I think I started buying thongs when I was 18 or so, when I could afford to pay for my own clothing. I think that if your daughter is not using her own money to pay for it, then she doesn't have the choice. It is just underwear! But then again I understand wanting to fit in with other girls and everything. I am 21 now and rarely put a thong on.. they aren't comfortable and they give me yeast infections so I'm over it. lol Age 11 seems young to me... but like I said, if she can pay for it, then maybe she could have it. Otherwise, she shouldn't complain!
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
15 Aug 07
I think there are too many little girls getting hurt by bad men already without a grandma encouraging an 11 year old to go over mom's head and engage in risky behavior. Maybe your little girl would benefit from watching a few episodes of "Forensic Files." Horrible things can happen to modest children, but bad things are almost certain to happen to girls who flaunt their sexuality prematurely.
If a girl has to wear thongs to eliminate panty lines, then maybe she is wearing her clothes too tight. Thongs worn for some other reason than to be sexy? C'mon. Just Googlize the search terms "sexy thongs" and see what comes up! Why would a nice young lady want to wear an article of clothing that is predominantly featured in p*rn flicks about teen r*pe? If an article of clothing cannot be factually described without the myLot censors flagging it, then it should not be worn by a child!
What age is old enough to wear thongs? Legal age, in my opinion. And I would surely hope that by the time she reaches legal age she will have better things to do with her time than to sheepishly follow every fashion trend that pops up.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
10 Aug 07
I can't imagine why you would take this position with your 11 year old daughter. Whats so bad about a thong? Just because you don't wear one you think its not right that she should have one? Your Gram did the right thing, and if you still say," No" your daughter is going to Hate you, and with Good reason! I think you need to think this over and do whats Right by your daughter!
@happythoughts (4109)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I remember being an 11 year old girl and if she decides to hate her mom over this, oh well, it will happen again over something else. We as parents should be allowed to decide what is okay for our kids to do and what our family standards should be. The will be adults someday, until then we are the ones who should have the final say.
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@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
12 Aug 07
are you serious that you think gram did the right thing this could be a whole other discussion. Grandparents should respect thier rules and if they don't agree they should talk to you (not in front of the kid)
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@annsweets (2046)
• United States
13 Aug 07
i totally agree with you on that one, i don't think that the grandmother,should have bought her thongs.
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@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
15 Aug 07
lol let her try them on and see just how uncomfortable they are. ;) Course that could back fire. As a mom of an 11 year old girl I have to say I totally agree with you! NO way would I let her wear them. I just started buying her bras!
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@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
12 Aug 07
Personally I dont htink it matters as long as no one is going to see them. I also think that it is up to the parent and defenatly if you dont want her to wear them take them away from her. I would also talk to gram about respecting yur rules. have a great day and good luck.
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@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
9 Aug 07
Lol well I don't think thongs are such a big deal. My mom wouldn't let me wear them until I was 13, but that's only because I bought them myself. As long as your daughter isn't flaunting them I don't think it's a problem. It won't make her become sexually active or anything. lol anyway I think you should loosen up. A lot of young girls today wear them.
@tamerfiber (10)
• India
10 Aug 07
It's really a funny behavior. At the age of 11, she is really aggressive. But, it is not her fault. The fault is yours. She is influence by the fashion and other kinds of programs which comes regularly on the television. You should have given proper education to your daughter. You should create a proper environment to your daugher, so she can concentrate her mind in her studies, rather than wearing a thong.
Now, it's better to let her wear the thong. You can do not about it. Just think it as a inner wear.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
11 Aug 07
This is hilarious, you cant blame the mother for the things that are televise, you also cant MAKE a child study, thats when kids hate school.
It's probably the influence of her peers at school so you need to stop laying the blame in places it doesn't belong.
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@mavisbike (1526)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I think if she really wants to wear them she should be allowed it makes some girls feel prettier and they like that. but once she starts to wear push-up bras and stuff like that u should stop it because girls dont need that type of stuff
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@kristypants (305)
• Canada
12 Aug 07
I agree, 11 is way too young. I plan to not let my daughter wear them until she's old enough to have a job and buy her underwear herself. Haha.
If I were you, I'd take them away. They're not appropriate for a girl that young. Especially with the whole fashion trend of letting your thong hang out of your pants. Blech.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
11 Aug 07
Maybe you should let it go for a little while, she'll only worry about them for a little while & then she'll get over it, realising they're uncomfortable & she prefers her other undies anyway!
I think it shouldn't really matter on the condition she's wearing underwear - :) Maybe you could allow her to wear them around the house - or you could just buy her some other undies, a little less childish than the ones she has but not as extreme as the thong - maybe something a little more mature without going over the top! Then maybe she'll like her new 'MATURE' undies & forget about the thong all together.
Give it a chance though but i would speak to her about going over your head & i'd also speak to her Gram about not giving in if she wants something & you have already said no.
Good luck!
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Okay so ive read most of the responces and they all do have good points.
But in my honest opinnion it all depend on the maturity level of your daughter. age is just a number, there are 25 year old woman who act like they are 11, and 11 who have the marutrity level of a 25 year old. so the age number shouldnt really be a factor.
Okay i would first look at this. why does she want them? 1 she probally wants them because her friends wear them. okay so do you know her friends? do they strike you as girls who would be running around showing boys there underwear?. and if so, does your daughter have a tendancy to follow what her friends do?.
If you have a no for every one of thoes answers. then why wouldnt you trust your daughter to wear them?.
Yes somtimes they do help boost self esteem because some feel sexier weasring them(pretty for her) as i can guess shes not planning on useing them to seduce a boy. shes 11.lol
Yea so like i said it all depends on her maturity level. if you dont think she would be the one running around showing the boys her panties and she was using them for no other reason them to eliminate unwanted pantie lines. then i see no problem.
Does your gram really know so much about thongs? the way kids use them these days all hanging out and stuff?. because im kinda wondering if she doesnt? if she did really know about all that why would she buy her grandaughter somthing like that.
so mabey think about that.. yes she did go aginst what you told your daughter. BUT she may have not known exsactly what they were all aboout.
so i would figure that out first before i go busting anyone bubble... I would make it clear to her thought hat you dont appreciate her going aginst what you said...
And even if you dont budge in your decision,just remember.
the more you say no the more you make it harder for her to get it. she might just start hiding stuff that she thinks you are ganna say no to.
Oh yea one more idea before i go:P....
buy them for her. but dont let her wear them to school.
tell her if you find her wearing them to school take them all and cut them up and put them in the garbage. therefore she would have ruined it for herself.
she asked for the oppertunity. you gave it to her BUT she ruined it. so its no more.
i would do it on a day she wouldnt think you would ask to see what underwear she was wearing .lol
whatever you do decide goodluck!::)
@relundad (2310)
• United States
11 Jul 08
I think your reaction may be as it is because you probally consider thongs as sexy underwear. If thats how you think of them it would be hard to imagine your little girl wearing them or you purchasing them for her. But just like other panties you can get the sexy pretty ones or you can get good old Hanes or Fruit of the Loom cotton ones. I consider them to be appropiate when you start to teach other feminine things, like shaving your legs for example. Basically this design of underwear is basically for eliminating panty line. Your daughter may be more conscious about this than you are. As a child I was in the same position, some things that fashion afforded when I was a teenager my mom was not aware of, so when I approached these things the only thing that she could relate to was when she was my age. So alot of things I introduced to her rather than the other way around. Kids are exposed to alot of things at a much earlier age nowadays. For me I would often look at TV and wonder why all of the ladies around me had panty lines and none of the actresses did. After asking around I found out about thongs. When I told my mother that I wanted to wear them she immediately thought that was something for grown, sexy people. All I knew was that I wanted that same clean, smooth look.
@Sho8780 (23)
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11 Jul 08
Oooh no. I would not let my 11 year old wear a thong. Firstly, it unecessary and secondly I cant help but feel that it is clothing like this that gets young girls into trouble or worse. I think it was really wrong of your Gram to buy them when you had told her no and I think you would be right to stick to your first instincts about this underwear. Sometime you have to be cruel to be kind.