I am so depressed and stressed out, kindly advise please!!

Don't get depressed.Chin up , you need to think straight.If your family does not want to help , shame on them,when are families going to realize that that kind of pressure is only pushing us away. Talk with your girlfriend honestly,look for a small place at first.Is this going to be your first child,get all the help you need from the city and state , churches also help. You are not stuck , it's just tight and it's going to clear soon. I wish you the best , and I hope it gets better soon.

Gldnopps, That is right don't give your baby up. actually I'm a beleiver of standing tall standing firm and things in do time will come your way and you & your new family will be bless when its your time. but KEEP your head up and never let no one see you hang it low. Also encourage your gf to do the same because can't nothing bring you down in least you let it happen. I was a mom of my 1st child @ the age of 19 and boy when I say it was hard it was but it was also the greatest learning experience I was able to face. I did and over came it all the Highs n Lows. Just stay firm and tall and you'll see things happen for a rest, all you do is take in stride. Blesses goes out to you and I'll keep you and urs in my prayer. PS how far is the pregnacy and if theres anything u might need help with just send me and email and I'll see what I can do for u guys. I still have things for babies, like blankets, towels and probably more when I look for it. Plus, your mom just might be your biggest fan when the baby comes along. STAND TALL N FIRM OK

hello gldnopps,I understand ur situation and I feel for you.Its not easy to start a new family if your not yet ready financially and the worst thing is that ur family dont want ur gf to stay with them.Well, if i wer you just take it as a big challenge.Prove to the whole that you can surpass all this?how?just bededicated in your new job and be patient.If your salary is not enough you can look for a sideline job.I knew its not easy but if you really love your wife and ur incoming child then challenge your self.JUst pray and work hard.I cn assure you will surpass all this things.Dont be too depressed.There are still more fortunate people than you.Just imagine those families on the street without house to live....see arent you more lucky?and you will be luckier if you will do your best.Good luck! please pray hard ... i will pray fo you!

Hey! You are not stuck. Only you are is in a very tight position. Yes, you are not getting support from your family, specially from your mom. In our land a famous poet (Tagore) said in a poem 'If no one answering on your call, then go ahead alone.' If you have courrage and your gf support you in the struggle, deffenitely you would come out of the mess. Yes, your standard of living would become low, but if you have guts of taking challenge, you would regain the position. And on that time, you would earn respect from your family also. Above all, you may tell to the world, that you are a self-made person, not like many who encashed their family.

Sorry to say, but before you do the deed with the gf you should have considered that there might be a child involved. Nothing guarantees your gf won't get pregnant. You can't bail though....unless you and the gf want to consider putting the baby up for adoption (which might be the best idea for you guys financially)then this is a financial expense that you better get ready for....babies are not cheap!

Don't worry. Dont you know that a child is a blessing in many ways. Now that you are going to be a father, you work harder . and GOD will provide i tell you. BUT please do family planning also after your first child.

Don't blame anyone when you feel that way. It is actually you yourself who lead to be in a situation like that. Because in the first place you had thought of those consequences of any action you do. This only means that you have not really planned well. Forget all the blame, the only thing you can do is to face everything. When you are pressured by the fact that you have a baby soon, be responsible. Responsibility anyway does not mean that you have to marry your gf. Just now, that's more stressing. Be a man enough by supporting and at least acknowledge the child. Talk to your gf and compromise. Be honest. Minimize spending much for unnecessary things. Save for your baby. Since your mom don't like the idea that your gf has to live with you, then think of another option. It would be stressful for her if she would not be uncomfortable while she is pregnant. Though, the girl has to accept on how to mingle with your family. If the only and last option is to rent, consider places that is more convenient and accessible to your work place. As a start, look for something that is not luxurious enough. A studio type room or apartment would suffice. If you work near Sampaloc area, I know some place. You can have P7,000 less studio type. Am not quite sure with the numbers, perhaps P5,000 or P6,000 and that is good for 3 persons.

You are in a very very stressful spot! I chose to keep my babies in some very tough times...no regrets but it is a very lot of work. Not sure how you feel about abortion and am leary of even bringing it up ...but have you considered it...how does your girlfriend feel? You really don't sound ready to start a family. The fact is that if your girlfriend does decide to go along with it and have the baby, then you have no choice. You will be obligated to pay child support. If that is the case then You need to buck up and get working even maybe 2 jobs. Your first priority should come to the child. This is just another example of why the father should be involved in the mother's choice. How old are you? You do have to be responsible for the situations you get yourself into.

your gf is going to have a baby that is a happy thing why ???? you seem not to be so happy

Dude as i see your standing on a fire with petrol. I reccomend that u confess ur mom n explain how good ur galfriend is. And about ur financial problem i can understand how u r facing it. Let me tel u its nothin to worry about it just relax and clear ur debts u'l soon be singing a song 'NEW DAY HAS COME' coz TIME HEALS THE PAIN. Hope this thing will calm u down. I'l pray for you...........!

oh,well!i'd like to say :don't worry ! everything has its way to slove. so what you have to do is just fresh up,maybe you can persuade you family or friend help you to pay your loan,then you pay back the money.

so your salary is not yet sufficient for your daily expenses and better look for another good job which provides you a salary which will solve some problems also u try to deposit money it may help you in future needs..and try to take loan for a while and start business if posible.All the best

hello..depressed??hmmmm well, yes!!it is the term..you should be responsible enough doing such this thing you should know the consequences after doing..nweiz,just want to say this few things..know what??be strong its not the end of the world don't be so depressed your a guy and a father to be you let everybody sees that you can stand with your own feet even though your family doesn't want your girl let them see that u can make it with your own sweat be responsible for your child to be. by this time it will take hard times to recover but later on its just like eating a peanut.