when do you tell a friend to stop joking?
By larskie23
@larskie23 (866)
Philippines
August 9, 2007 9:09pm CST
we play jokes to our friends and sometimes it comes to the point that their jokes are not funny anymore,specially when it comes too personal. how do you tell your friend, that you are already annoyed to his/her jokes?
sometimes, when it go to my nerves, i usually leave the place and i become the loser because i got irritated with their jokes. and i wont talk to them.
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10 responses
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
10 Aug 07
I never tell a friend to stop joking. AFter all, he thinks that he is entertaining me by telling jokes rather than sharing, which he has done it before. So by asking him to stop, I am only hurting his feelings. Let him say 1000 jokes, if I am interested I will listen otherwise I keep dowing my job and let him keep joking.

@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
oh, you seem to have a long patience, even when your friend is joking and you dont like their jokes, you will just ignore them. thats cool.
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
11 Aug 07
yes, there are some people who talk too much useless, luckily i don't have any such friend.There are some people,though not my friend but they are around,they joke without sense and also over-talk on every topic, i just avoid hearing such people and if at all i have to hear them,then i hear with one ear and throw out of the other,really they are intolerable.
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
yes,this kind of jokes should enter at one ear and throw at the other. thanks for your post.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
10 Aug 07
When i feel upset, and need a private time, I often tell my friend to stop joking. I don't think can calm me, it make more and more upset, sometimes i will let my friend go out of my home.
Sometimes I am in good mood, but my friend have a joke with a person who has a fault in his/her body. I often shout him/her stop joking. It is too rude to do such thing.
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
i consider it rudeness to offend people using personal jokes. thanks for your response.
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I had a friend that used to love making me the butt of the joke. She would always target me because I'm pretty trusting, and I suppose you could say I'm trusting to a fault when it comes to her, but not anymore. I learned quickly that she seemed to enjoy telling me stuff that was complete nonsense because she thought I believed everything that came out of her mouth. Eventually it got old playing that game, and I told her it had to stop. It was always stupid stuff and it was annoying. Friends can be so obnoxious sometimes!
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
i think your too good to your friend. good thing, you had it stop. :-)
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
hehehe... I would simply say that "Oh...you're not funny anymore"...sometimes we just have to ignore them then next time don't join them anymore so you won't get hurt.
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
jokes sometimes comes in discussions, so it not as easy as not joining them.
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 07
I will use that voice directive note when I'm receiving call via my cellular phone. Got to concentrate with my teleconversation.
@3superkids (446)
• Philippines
15 Aug 07
i just tell them straight to the point if the joke is no longer funny. or sometimes i say it in a joking manner as well that way i do not sound defensive and i don't worry that i may have offended somebody.
@ASL19741978 (319)
• United States
10 Aug 07
I think the only way to deal with a person who makes jokes at others expense all the time is to confront them in a calm manner (if possible) and just tell them the truth. "Your jokes are not funny, in fact they are hurtful. I realize that perhaps you are using belittling jokes to cover up the fact that you are insecure. Please don't make those kinds of jokes around me anymore. If it happens again, I will walk away and never speak to you again." I realize that sounds rather harsh, but some people are very thickskinned and don't get the fact that they're hurting people all the time. They have to be told the truth point blank. Don't apologize for it. Just do it in a calm, even-toned voice so they know you are serious and also not saying it in anger. Anger probably just encourages them. I'm sorry you have a friend like that. They are no fun, and really don't deserve to have friends unless they change their ways!
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
thanks for that. but telling a friend that he feels insecure for me, doesnt it lead to a fight?
@sr0415 (1140)
• Philippines
13 Aug 07
Hi larskie23! When things like this happen, I smiled on their jokes. But when my head starts to boil and I feel that jokes are already too much, I keep calm for a little while. Then, tell my friend who are joking to stop what he/she says because it ain't no longer funny.
