If you were on my shoe?...what would you do then...
By butterfly39
@butterfly39 (3904)
Philippines
August 9, 2007 9:29pm CST
I met a guy who happens to be looking for friends and we used to email everyday just to share something in life...maybe for two weeks.
In my last email I told him that I'm going out today to bring my daughter in the hospital cause her skin tag was bleeding so my daughter will undergo a minor operation by removing her skin tag of course...God really answered my prayers for I was able to raise my financial needs for my daughter..
when I opened my email the guy sent me this message " YOU ARE BARKING AT THE WRONG TREE" and I am not giving money to people I don't know...I only give money to the person I know...
I was so upset...I was so hurt for a while...but not now cause I know I am not stupid and I am not a gold digger...
what do you think of this guy?
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15 responses
@jbelle (912)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
If I were in your shoe I will write him back, that you are not demanding for it, if he can then thank you, then if he cant thank you still. And you must try to tell him you are not just after for the money a prayer from a friend is consider a help. You cant either blame him because you know there are lot of people who try to ask money for their chatmates maybe it was happened to him already.... You open it up to him that you are not after for the money out of your friendship and you can ask him why was his response is like that you may not know he has a story that been used for some other bogus girl who loves to get more money from their chatmates.
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@lucy02 (5015)
• United States
10 Aug 07
Is he from another country? I think maybe it was a misunderstanding. If he is not real familiar with your language that might explain it. If that's not the case, he may be a jerk.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
He's from the US and i'm sure he understands my language...yeah you're right he's a jerk...
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
10 Aug 07
He was jumping to conclusions. Unfortunately, people do that. I would have told him that I didn't want his money and let it go from there. If he apologizes for the misundersanding, I would stay friend with him. If not. If he doesn't believe you. Then, he isn't a friend worth keeping anyway. Let it go.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
10 Aug 07
He is mentally sick. I would ignore him for his misunderstanding me for getting money from him. There is no need to email him back. He is so impolite to his friend.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
yes he is...it made me sick but now I'm a bit relieve...thanks
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
10 Aug 07
Forget about him. I think he is a lunatic. Lol. Having online friends is like playing a game of the uncertainties. We don't know what is the real attitude of a person until we actually meet him in person. You deserve to know better people other than him, and I believe in a couple of days you will be able to forget about him. Your relationship with him is very new, so you don't have to worry about anything. You didn't lose anything for losing him, you only gain an experience. That's all. There are so many other friends who are 100% better than him.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
yeah you are right...and I really appreciate every word you said...thanks
@anjoks (2080)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
Hi. Our friend Juliefaye here is right. Get back to him and clarify things once and for all. And after that, dont entertain him anymore. Hes not really worth to be your friend. Misjudging a person is really way out of control u know. Anyway, for sure u'll find friends much better than this guy. Take care. (",)
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
yes I did that and I'm not expecting from him anymore...anyway I still have true friends and I'm chatting with her now...hehehe
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
I think you should clear this up with him and maybe he wrongly interpreted the situation. After that, never go back to him as this kind of people are narrowminded. Friends can help in many different ways.. prayers, console or just wished us good luck. At least you have known him for a short period of time and you have not gone deep with your friendship. Good luck to you and hope your daughter is well by now.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
I'm not guilty anyway God knows how I treated my friends and asking help from online friends is not my business...thanks a lot
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
12 Aug 07
Oh that's very bad of him. That guy shouldn't have made such statement. He is not really a good friend. But never mind anyway because we often expect such things from people. Some might act good at the begging, but change at the end. Thanks
@blackkatdreamer (1461)
• Canada
10 Aug 07
You should clear things up with him and let him know that that was not what you were looking for and that you were just sharing information
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
11 Aug 07
i guess he interpreted wrong the situation.but he reactioned so impulsive.don't know ..if i were in your shoes i won't ever speak with him
@gesell03 (173)
• Philippines
10 Aug 07
I would normally just forget that we have been actually talking to one another,.
BUt to put it into perspecitive, the guy is paranoid, and for some reason before he has had enough of those women trying to get money from him,and he thought that you also would do that to him
And to think that he said that to you, you should just be relieved by the fact that you need not email him again cause you do not need a paranoid guy in your life and if he ever was a friend and someone who has good manners he wouldnt say that to you, so just be glad for the discovery. And after explaining to him,how wrong he is, never email him again.That is the reason why he does not have friend, because of that attitude,you dont even need to explain anything if i were you.
@butterfly39 (3904)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
I'll save that in my memory thank you for your inspiring words...
@flowerfactory (30)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
Maybe this guy have had bad experience with other people in the internet. Maybe he came across some scams and he was badly hurt. If I were you I would email him and explain that as a friend, you just wanted to share things that is happening to your life and you are not asking for any fiancial help. From there do not communicate with him anymore but he has to know that you are ending your friendship with him.
