HELP! My sisters wanna take me out for my birthday and I don't wanna go!

oh dear... have you considered that you might feel better after you go out with them and get your mind off work? all work and no play makes jill a dull girl you know. :) from your reasons i can see why you are not in the mood to celebrate. perhaps you can hint at that to them, and if they are your sisters and grew up with you then they will understand your reasons for it and afterall, I'm sure they want you to be happy during your birthday! how about just suggesting that they go over to your place, or you go over to their place and just spend a homey evening eating pizza and chilling out, which shouldn't cost as much? in any case, a great big happy birthday to you and a huge hug.

Your sisters are stubborn. It's runs in the family and they are right, you do work too much. Way too much and you know it. I know August is a bad month for you but as long as I have known you, you never want to go out and it's not just because of this. Go out. Try to enjoy yourself. You just might have a good time. You can always head home early if it's not going well. BTW Mom and Dad have both pasted on but why lose more time that you could spend with the rest of your family? You came close to losing one sister this past year. Don't end up regretting time you could have spent. 7

Wow, a freakish coincidence, one of my sisters birthdays is also on the 16th of this month. Good you posted this up, now I remember. Well, I would say, go celebrate with them. Well, I understand that your parents are not here anymore, but there's no reason why you still cannot celebrate their life. I'm sure they would want you to celebrate your special day too. It's sweet that you don't want to burden them with spending extra cash on you, but that can easily be taken care of. Well you could treat them, me and friends do it all the time. I mean come on, they are your sisters, so you could totally be honest with them and tell them that you'd treat them instead. Or you could all just do something that doesn't cost much at all. I mean there are things out there that are much more fun than eating out and going for drinks. Hm, 43, huh, well, why don't you make your own birthday plans and tag your sisters along yourself. You could try something totally different, something adventurous, something you or your sisters have never done before, like bunjee jumping or something like that, you could tell them that you are going to celebrate your birthday in your own style this time, and make it a surprise for them instead. It will be so much fun and it won't hurt their feelings either. After all, the whole point is that you get to spend some quality time with them, since they care so much, and they don't have to break the bank either. It would be bad not to celebrate. Come on, it's your birthday.

why don't like go out for your birthday? I often celebrate my birthday with my parents or my partner, and I often celebrate it at home, but it doesn't mean that I don't like celebrate it outside. It is a different feeling to celebrate it outside. You can have a try. If you really don't want to go outside, you can tell your sisters directly.

well, i think you should go..your sisters are so excited about your birthday, and i would be thrilled if someone had planned out the activities that we're gonna do in order to celebrate me! perhaps this is the time for some sisterly bonding, and after all, it's just for one night, it can't be that bad! but of course, the choice is entirely up to you:) ..anyway, just wanna wish you a very happy birthday (in advance)..wishing you the very best on your birthday and hope that you have an awesome one, no matter how you celebrate it. take care and don't forget to make a nice birthday wish!^___^

Humor them. It's not like they are asking you to murder someone. :) Sometimes the best way to show people who love you that you love them back is to do something you really, really don't want to do. I bet it will make you feel better, even if you don't enjoy the evening, which, you probably will. A gracious person accepts gifts given out of love, even if it's a white elephant or a life time pass to the Nixon Museum! I understand why you feel the way you do. From experience I've found that doing those things you don't want to do because they are tied to a loved one who has passed often helps take some of the sting away. Not to mention your mom and dad would probably hate the fact you aren't enjoying something because of them.

Okay, I am a person who has had a few losses and some bad happenings on my birthday as well, and I am also an August birthday. Is there an alternative to what they are planning, that you would enjoy? For me, it would be something like going to a museum, or to my favorite nursery and garden shop, just to look. Or going for a picnic to the lake. Something less expensive. My mom got rather reclusive, and one year we just set up a breakfast bar for her at home, and the family came and went.Let them have something for you at their home, or at yours, and be with them while you can. They are still with you, and share your memories of your mom and dad.

Well first of all in spite of what you think you are still quite young. *smile* I can barely remember when I was 43. Of course I am finding I can barely remember anything but that is not the point. LOL But I do remember that I was in the best physical condition of my life then. I ran three miles a day and played soccer. Okay I played soccer slowly but I tried. *smile* So forget this getting old stuff. You are at the prime of your life girl. I kidd you not. Your old enough to know better and young enough to do something about it. So ask yourself why you really don't want to do this. Is it because you are afraid they will make a point of your age? Don't you like to party anymore? Don't let the loss of your mother and father keep you from living your life and enjoying it for all you can. Their passing was always to be.....we never get out of life alive. So look at this as "Wow I am only 43....I think I will really enjoy this". You have a lot more to enjoy ahead of you and remember this....life has a way of surprising you. Your sisters may not be there for the next one. They may move..get married...or a lot of things that make people move on. Or you may too. Please enjoy their attention now and remember you are a long ways from being old. You are a very lovely woman so enjoy it for all it's worth.

Perhaps you can ask them to come to your home and celebrate quietly? Ask them to please respect your wishes for a quiet birthday. I am sorry for your losses and wish you a very "Peaceful,Happy Birthday!" Take care and remember that you must take care of you, no one else can do that for you...Bless you...

Okay Patty, this time you are gonna have to grin and bare it. Sounds to me like you all need to do this. So do it for each other! You can how ever just like someone mentioned pay for you own dinner if you feel money is an issue. That is perfectly fine to do. Don't let them know a head of time but after dinner just make it clear you are paying for your own dinner, they bought you gifts and they do not need to buy you dinner too, so let's just go and have a good time with ever we are doing next. I did say exactly that to my friends a few years back on a birthday outing and after the jaw drop and I finished what I was saying they agreed. I think it relieved some pressure and we had a great time. Now can we clear up the matter of your name.. is it suppose to be wolfpatty? :)

Well let me start by giving you a warm welcomr to mylot! I think they just really want to be with you on your birthday maybe you could ask if they just tone it down a little bit. Ask if maybe it could just be a small dinner at home. Everyone could bring somethng to eat so it isn't all on one person. You could also let them know that money is tight right now. Everyone should be able to understand that! I'm sure thay know what this day had meant to you in the past, and they know it must be hard on you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sounds like they just want you to feel loved above all. You just need to talk to them tell them what you want. But if they want to spend time with you......you should really try and give of your self because they love you! Best of luck!

wow wotfpatty! you got one heck of a dilemma here. since you're such a considerate sister (money problem on the other side), i'd go with one condition! Let me pay at least half!..lol...(seriously..) because celebrating together with your own family like this is more meaningful rather than with other friends(i think). (we'll never know it could be the last :(....) After all, you've got nothing to lose even if you pay the whole thing since they're such a wonderful family.. i'd go....anyway, good luck to whatever decision you might make.

Life is all about compromises. At times U have to do something just to please others. In your case, the others I am referring to are your own sisters. U have to celebrate your birthday without you being much interested in celebrating. I guess you should go ahead with your sisters and have fun. Who knows probably U might just end up enjoying your birthday. I am sure you will also be pleased to see a smile on your sisters face. Age absolutely does not matter. You will be 43, next year you will be 44 and that will continue. I am sure your heart is young. So Have a nice time. Birthday wishes from me.

First ,happy birthday to you!It happens my nephew's birthday is August 13. Your problem is a real hot potato. I am sorry to hear that your parents passed away.So while your birthday is approaching,you are sure to think about your parents---- happy memory with them. My advice is that you can tell your sisters what you really want.They love you,so they will understand you. Then you choose another day when you are in your good mood to make up for it. OK?I hope you will like my advice.

Hello from the southeast end of Spitzerland (formerly known as Patakiland). Well, my birthday is on the 25th, so our birthdays are kind of close. If anything, it is clear that you & your sisters are still close friends, & not just family. Your best bet is to let them know how you actually feel. They may find some way to cheer you up & make you feel better. I'm also thinking that if they are still insistant, & with knowing this, they will find some way to actually make you glad that you celebrated by the time it's all over. Lastly, maybe I'm showing my age myself? You're not old. Also, if that avatar is a recent pic of you, you still have the ability to make guys find themselves prying their eyeballs off their computer monitors to try to put them back into their heads.

Since its your birthday I would just be honest with her. Then you might suggest getting together with her some other time for lunch or something .

Don't really know what to tell ya, but whatever you decide to do, just have a good time doing it. You never know what might happen before your next one. HAPPY BIRTHDAY to YOU!!!

if you ll go with her she will be happy and youll also feel fresh but if you dont wanna go then say that u have got fever n headache start this acting from morning so that she wont force you to go